Short problems of a 10 year addict

Hello Dear Forum users,

I'm 25 years old, been addicted to masturbation & internet porn for about 10 years.

I was a virgin until I turned 25 recently. Never had a real girlfriend, long term relationship etc. Had tryings, kisses and dates here and there, but nothing serious.

Last summer I managed to pair up with a very nice girl, kind and caring. We lasted 3 months. We had sex several times, but I didn't have a proper erection. I didn't find her sexy and attractive enough, compared to the girls on the sites...
However I loved her as a person, and I didn't have problems with her body. But she was offended, and rejected me after all. She tought, that I didn't like her, because I had no proper erection and no ejaculation at all...

I had a 28 day streak recently, managing to not watch any pornsites, however, I masturbated almost every day, using different techniques, imagination, pictures etc.

But unfortunately, I had a very boring and nothing-to-do weekend, and I was messing around on Tinder (looking for potential girlfriend of course..), and suddenly I had a relapse...
I couldn't hold back myself... searched for sexy pictures via Google, then visited hqporner and bamm... here we go again.

Nowadays, I'm talking to a very nice girl again (from Tinder), will date her a very soon. I think she likes me very much.
But this time, finally, I want to do things differently.
I want to recover from my masturbation & porn addiction.

What would you advise me, what to avoid, what to be prepared for?


Question: How to avoid Instagram girls, Facebook sexy-girl picture triggers? I keep in touch with my friends and my relatives on Facebook (just deleted Instagram recently because it's a f*ckin hell), it's so hard to avoid to not search for girls in these apps...


Just started today afternoon a No mastrubation, No porn Challenge for 30 days at least.
Wish me good luck

 

Very useful tips, thanks!

 

Thanks for the reply.
Actually I started confessing my thoughts earlier on this addiction of mine.
I was attending a therapy with a psychologist. Started sharing stuff with my closest best friends. The parents are a bit different story... I keep in touch only with my mother, and I have never talked about this with her.

I think I progressed a lot from the deepest hell. Around 1 year ago, I had 100 porn videos downloaded to my PC, 2000 screenshots of Instagram/Facebook girls on my PC, all categorized by name and rating... I was so f*ckin dumb and pathetic.
For a year now, these are all vanished, I stopped doing this collecting sh*t...

About stopping dating? I don't know... I really like the girl, and I want to start meeting with her, and she is very eager to meet too.

Right now, I chose the 30 days NMP challenge first. I want to give up porn & masturbation. But I don't think that I can give up on dating with this girl...