Should i ask her out for a walk?

Discussion in 'Dating during a Reboot' started by Kevodrag, Jun 9, 2020.

  1. Kevodrag

    Kevodrag Fapstronaut

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    I am on a 2 day streak right now, and the movement restrictions are slowly being lifted.
    I have been talking to this girl, for about a month now i guess, (sort of an on and off conversation, but we’ve got our moments). I’m thinking of asking her out on a date: just a walk in the park perhaps, for starters. We have never talked about anything romantic, never talked about relationships and whatnot.

    My problem is this: my streak is still pretty low to do any real healing to the damage of PMO, I’m still having very strong urges, Although, i feel a little better, in a way (Y’all know what i mean).

    I don’t know: should i ask her out, or what do you think?
     
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  2. angelpart

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    Do it, just to get to know her better.
     
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  3. Kevodrag

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    Thank you mate. That’s a fine idea! I will try to do that, and tell what follows.
     
  4. Whatever you do be confident in it, women pick up on that instinctively
     
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  5. clearmindd

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    Go out with her
    u will get motivated to do nofap if ur in realtionship with girl ur trying to u know impress her and that stuff so u will keep on ur streak so yea it will motivate u for nofap ;);)
     
  6. Crownyourdreams

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    Do it! :) But don't rush anything. I think you will both enjoy getting to know each other and talking not only in a chat. Good luck! ;)
     
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  7. Kevodrag

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    I used to be pretty confident, before excessive PMO. I still am (I know this just in my mind, I can’t actually do it, ONE OF THE EFFECTS OF PMO). With my streak, although quite short, I’ve felt my confidence grow once again, to levels that I haven’t felt in years.
    Thanks a lot mate, wish you the best in your journey.
     
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  8. stop that negative thinking, you’re better than that. I believe in you and want you to thrive
     
  9. p1n1983

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    Keep it that way
    Go for it, a lot of online talking lowers attraction. Go out to have fun with her a know her a little better. Maybe she isn't that much of a catch in person or maybe she is more fun that you spected.
    Is up to you, you have to decide if dating is the next step you want to take.
     
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  10. Branchman

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    Did you go with her?
    If you haven't I'll tell you to do it, it is really nice and peacefull to walk and talk with a friend, and if it is a girl (in matter of talking) I think it is better (I think there are other things that are funnier to do with male friends, but in my case I really enjoy talking with a girl).
    I am going to tell you my experience I had the day before yesterday (monday), i've been having urges (and hard urges) to see an escort (I consider that porn is not a problem for me anymore, despite I still have flashes or flashbacks about what i've seen) and during the day, I broke up a water pipeline and I couldn't fix it, because the pressure was high, and other things happened that I didn't considered. I felt the pressure of my mother beeing worried, and all the problems I could cause, but at the end one plumber helped us.
    Maybe it wasn't that bad, but because of my mind state (wich is not good because of quarantine) I felt bad, sad, like a looser, etc (maybe that partially explains why I want to see an escort) and I knew I had to release the tension I had and I had two options: 1 escort, 2 ask a friend to see her in person just to talk to her face to face (she is 5 five years older than me but still we understand each other) (by the way I'm still virgin and I want to stay this way until marriage). I chose to ask my friend if she would acept me to go to see her. She told me if I'd like to go to walk/run (but we just walked) with her, because she was starting to go walking/running in the evening, so I accepted. And It was relaxing, nice, peacefull, I learned that it is better to do what brings you peace, what keeps your conciousness quiet. We were together from 7:30 to 10:00pm, (if i hadn't told her that i was tired she would have continued talking with me), I don't know if this was a date, but this is the first time I hang out with a girl (I have asked other few times other girls to hang out, but they didn't accepted).

    Also after a hard situaton it is easier to take risks (somebody said that here in Nofap, but I don't remember the thread or post), so that helped me.
     
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  11. rob13_

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    Ask her out.
     
  12. Mr.Ron

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    Thats a great idea , first its low cost you really dont want to spend much money at first , second if you 2 dont hit it off you can walk away
     
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  13. Johnson12345

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    You mean you took my message to heart? :D
     
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  14. Ekalb

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    Do it. However here is your mission: CONTROL YOUR URGES! Trust me women can smell it coming. That my friend will be a good experience and a good battle for you. Prayers your way
     
  15. Johnson12345

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    If women are so good at "smelling" things then why are they cheated on, lied to, manipulated etc and they are so surprised when they find out about that? :D

    I take you like as a yes, @Mr.Ron
     
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  16. AKRO_5891

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    LOL! Yep women are people too and make mistakes just like us men.
     
  17. Ekalb

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  18. Johnson12345

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    We? No not me my man. I don't get cheated on.
     
  19. Ekalb

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    You’ll see believing a statement like that. Also, I never said women do not make mistakes either. You took the conversation to a wrong turn my man.
     
  20. Johnson12345

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    No you started on some "women can smell these things" as if they were demigods or something. It also shows you are overestimating women, or to put it simple, don't understand them.
     

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