So I really like a lady I’ve worked with for over 9 months, but we haven’t talked much in that time. She sent me a friend request on Facebook 7 months ago, and we’ve talked a little bit on there. We’ve talked a little bit at work too, but very briefly; usually just task-related stuff or the typical “How are you” that everyone does. We went bowling once with a group of friends, and she hugged me near the end. I was much more animated at the time because I was drunk; usually I’m very quiet. Do I ask her out for coffee now, knowing that we haven’t talked much, and knowing I’ll most likely be shy alone with her? She’s been particularly friendly lately and I’ve plucked up some courage to talk to her a bit more at work, so should I allow some time for us to get more comfortable talking? My friend, who’s always brimming with confidence, seems to think I should go for it now. Part of me agrees with that, thinking back to the ladies that got swept off their feet by other guys while I hesitated to do anything. Part of me worries I don’t have much to go off of and she’ll say no, or that she’ll decide to abort after one visit to the coffee shop. My friend was prodding me to text her, but isn’t it proper to ask in person? If I do get rejected, I’ll respect her choice and not push for anything more. I just don’t have much experience handling rejection because I haven’t tried for romance that many times. How would I react to that gracefully? I hope we can be friends if she’s not interested, and I hope it wouldn’t get weird.