Should I call a escort if I cant get a girlfriend?

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  1. Ghost79

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    I have been for a very long time using date sites, day gaming on the streets and even facebook trying to find a girlfriend but all in vain :(
    At this moment I'm okay but what if by the end of this year I'm still single and desperately sexless, is it okay to pay for a sex?
     
  2. Bharry

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    I’m wondering the same dude, waiting for an answer
     
  3. stands to reason

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    No! It is not okay to pay for sex. The Bible says it's dangerous and God forbids it, having sex before you marry. Marry a virgin or don't get married. My advice to you. I wish you well. Please stay a virgin. Don't be like the rest of the world. Don't listen to your friends, peers, or anyone. Your virginity is more valuable than you know. No one without being married should ever be dating. The world won't say this to you. But I will, because it's true. Learn to respect a woman, then get married. Then love her with all you are, and treat her as no other woman. Love her for the rest of your life.
     
  4. stands to reason

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    No! It is not okay to pay for sex. The Bible says it's dangerous, and God forbids it, having sex before you marry. No one without being married should ever be dating. The world won't say this to you. But I will, because it's true. Learn to respect a woman, then get married. Then love her with all you are, and treat her as no other woman. Love her for the rest of your life.
     
  5. BravelyKegger

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    That is a bad mindset to have, I used to be like that desperate and miserable, work hard to improve yourself am become worthy of a girl, do not go looking for sex.
     
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  6. stands to reason

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    Thank you @BravelyKegger, your words may help these young men, @Hawx79, @Bharry. Let's believe it does.
     
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  7. Bharry

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    God bless you guys.
     
  8. Ghost79

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    I'm 39 and not married. I only had one relationship in my life but that lasted only a year.
     
  9. hardowner

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    I made this mistake a few years ago. If I could travel back in time, I would have changed it. I would have had sex for the first time with my ex gf, who was a virgin. It's too late for me now, but not for you.
     
  10. stands to reason

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    Stay away from fornication, idolatry, youthful lusts, and all lusts. Find God, through His Son, Jesus Christ and learn to live for Him. There's not much time for us on earth. May you find the truth!
     
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  11. Ghost79

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    I appreciate your support but please stop preaching to me, thanks!
     
  12. BravelyKegger

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    That's fine, its your life, a wise man heeds the advice of others but do what you want. Whatever you do make sure to think though fully, you sound like a porn addict talking.
     
  13. need4realchg

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    I want to answer your question.
    I fully understand the explanation you were given too, just wanted to share the point of view what happens from actually doing it.

    There’s lots of types of escorts. There’s the kind that you pay to accompany you, and be with you as a date, no sex, no real physical interaction, and it goes all the way to a girl who meets you in your hotel room and you pay her by the hour or half depending on the level of service.

    The girls who do it can be nice, but they can also be vírus carriers that means you have a greater chance of ending up with an std.

    Prostitutes, while harder to find in the us, are less engaging. They tend to objectify sex and the customer more. A prostituite in my experience doesn’t tend to connect herself Mentally since she is all about volume.

    In some cases, you have to deal with a pimp, that’s always unsettling quite honestly Lol!

    I have had escorts that were open to have a regular relationship. I have found that many of the girls I selected were regular people, struggling students, single moms. I have had compassion on them every time.

    One time I invited the girl to eat a normal dinner without any strings attached, another time I let her stay in my hotel as she had no place to go. One girl in particular I just wanted to help her escape the “quick money” trap.

    Escorts can be more expensive in my experience. Also, I have had great experiences with escorts so it makes it hard to want to give up quite honestly. But as the gentlemen spoke from a moral standpoint it’s definitely not a good place to be if you are trying to be upright or righteous.

    Once you try it you might find it exhilarating and want to repeat. That’s the danger or temptation that you can have the fun without the commitment.
     
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  14. xvtc ctvx

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    I'm not sure if you should get an escort. What I do know is that when I have had sex with escorts, it is typically followed up with a healthy dose of regret and sadness. I know it is lonely and hard to be single and involuntary hard-mode. I have gone years involuntarily celibate but having a quickie and then shelling out precious money immediately after is a gut punch to the ego. It led me to a spiral of sex addiction as I began to purchase more and more escorts, dwindling my bank account, but still leaving me miserable. I really just wanted that feel like a man, sexually fulfilled and respected. But the transactional nature meant I couldn't hide the fact that I was simply buying a fleshy blow-up doll. Even a escort I saw several times (~$1,ooo) will text me now and again seemingly not knowing who I am but that he has my name in his phone and is seeking money when he travels to my City randomly. Another gut punch. Do I think prostitution is some satanic situation, no... but it can set you off on a course of sex addiction.
     
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    There is this specific escort that I had seen a few months ago. I really like her and she feels very comfortable with me. She is a single mom from Moldova, the poorest country in Europe. But she ain't cheap at all. She costs a week salary of mine! Thinking that I could spend that money on something else and it would be madness to go ahead. I did call her just to hear her voice and then said I would think about it. But the fact that I'm lonely and craving for something I can't seem to find keep her always in my mind.
     
  16. need4realchg

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    yeah I totally understand. I wanted to tell you, you will be amazed the more you talk about your "connection" with women/escorts/prostitutes, you will find that your desire for them is not sexual. It's companionship.

    Think about a 60 year old man getting married the second time, he doesn't get married for sex, he does it for companionship. I don't know which country you are writing from, but I grew up in france, and have traveled lots and tried lots of women, at the end of the day, you want something deeper than just sex, or orgasm.

    When you have intercourse you make a connection (spiritual in my opinion), so it's insane to think that its just a penis and a vagina. That connection leads you to want to know more of the person. Even if that person is bad, alcoholic, smoker, addict, etc. You want them.

    In my case, I have 3 women that I consider my girlfriends; the sex was amazing, and you can't do everything with one woman and not be interested in the next... so it just creates this cycle, and for me it's really hard to break. I totally get you man, if you have had one, you've had many. When I was in germany the escorts were from hungary, bulgaria, and I found that their needs made me want to be with them more. To help them, to hold them, to provide for them, to be their hero...

    Kinda weird fetish maybe?
     
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  17. Ghost79

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    Yes you seem to understand my situation. If it was just about sex I could go to a really cheap one but that wont do for me. I guess we are just noble man who want to help those women in poor conditions, even if they don t accept us! :)
     
  18. need4realchg

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    hahahaha :) :):) very noble men indee! Of course, to help with no sex is a non-starter :D ;D haha i died laughing. I don't which your language you speak, but that translation was hilarious.
     
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  19. crazyaf

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    Sorry, no disrespect but this actually turned out to be a very funny thread. :D
     
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  20. unhappy guy

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    Man ,my little advice I can give is to never try to pay for sex or go to escort.am also a virgin guy 22yrs turning 23 next two months I know how u feel. I remember last yr someone teased me for been a virgin and i don't even know how the person knew about it and told me that I have never had a girlfriend and I was quite embarrassed. I was a virgin for religious reason but now it is personal because if it is a sin to watch porn then why shouldn't I replace it with a potential girlfriend I can get married to one day? So now am looking for a girlfriend and I started it first time the start of this yr and some girls will give their contact to u and sometimes not picking up ur calls, some may not give their contact to u at all . And I met dis one girl I never intended to date her but made it a fun way to approach her whether it will work just for fun and she gave me her contact not knowing that dis girl like me so match she will always call me, ask me to meet her and one day she even asked to come and sleep at her place but am not interested in her at all because of that I didn't try to have sex with her that is 3 weeks ago. And she has seen my disinterest and now she is also loosing interest. I know that if I have sex with dis girl I will hurt her so match because she is very interested in me and am not interested so I will end up dumping her which will hurt her so badly and don't want someone to cry because of me and I also don't like one night sex and random sex with girls but looking for someone I could like and love too.
    My advice
    1 pls don't pay for sex
    2 work on ur appearance (dress well)
    3 be confidence( don't fear rejection if she says no just move on she isn't the only girl on planet earth fine another girl ).
    4. Some places are good to meet girls like cafes, restaurants, bars any environment u think is good but not on the streets as u mentioned.
    And am still a virgin OK sometimes I wonder why some guys find it soo easy to get a girl but other don't take it easy at all so know who u ar and start working on urself. Be urself don't change to someone else but improve yourself.
    Lastly be CONFIDENCE!
    I RECOMMEND U GUYS TO USE quora digest IT IS AN APPLICATION ON PLAYSTORE. It is very nice and u can ask any questions on how to improve yourself confidence and self- esteem and any question at all cos people answers from experience on the that platform and I know u will like it.
    Check it out!
    Sorry for my long post.
     
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