Should I go see a escort ?

Discussion in 'Loneliness' started by AlphaAlone, Aug 23, 2019.

  1. AlphaAlone

    AlphaAlone Fapstronaut

    Hey guys, I am doing very well my nofap/not using porn for now, but since I started again I am thinking more and more about going for an escort. Why ?

    -You can choose the girl and not gonna lie some of them are freaking beautiful
    -I gived up (for now at least) about a relationship/losing my virginity with a girl in the "normal" way, I must focus on myself (boxing, job self improvement, nofap)
    -As I said I don't feel the need to fap at all and I am feeling better for now, so I don't think I would break nofap before/after (unless she did break it by faping me herself lol)

    What do you guys think ? Should I go see a escort or not ? Explain your advice please. Some of you already tried ?
  2. need4realchg

    need4realchg Fapstronaut

    Do you live according to any principles or morals generally speaking ? For those trying to live by these rules , consult them; they may have a divine answer that trumps a mortal persons opinion.

    As for me,

    I have had +50 escorts and Am trying to replace this addiction as soon As I can.

    I know loneliness , laziness and boredom are triggers. It’s never ever ever sex.

    Do an emotional inventory audit... see why you want this ... and why now?

    I’d say if you want sex ... there’s much easier cheaper cleaner ways.
  3. cadia guardsman

    cadia guardsman Fapstronaut

    Also tought about seeing them but specially the fear of DST kept me away from them
  4. Rooki3

    Rooki3 Fapstronaut

    Ok, removing the fat, the ugly ones and desperate ones, which ways are you really talking about?
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  5. SirErnest

    SirErnest Fapstronaut

    No. She probably doesn't want that life either.
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  6. need4realchg

    need4realchg Fapstronaut

    lol. The op isn’t craving sex , but he thinks he is.

    As far as how to get a girl ... let’s see, it’s a fishing game. Like anything you get what you put into it.

    You can ask a friend to introduce you ...
    Go to the gym and find girls, boss mode.
    Join a dance class.
    Take a class at your local university and get numbers and go from the there.
    Join a rock climbing gym —- those chicks are in shape and hot.
    You can do the bar scene or club scene but it’s a statistics game.
    Go to a restaurant that has live music and strike up a conversation.
    Online can work if you have a decent profile.
    One place that always works is hostels. If you live near tourist sites you can do the pub crawl groups. That always works.

    I have gotten girls and numbers just sitting next to them. If you are lazy, yeah the strip club can do it; if you wanna a 30 min experience an escort but honestly i have had awesome mind blowing sex with escorts But those are not as frequent. I usually pick the ones that like me for me, not just for money. I sometimes hate myself when I settle for a girl that was not all I wanted.

    I have had 2 strippers and 2 diff escorts fall in love with me, but it doesn’t last as long as you fantasize.

    Just saying, at the of the day, we want genuine companionship most.
  7. Chappie77

    Chappie77 Fapstronaut

    Here's my prostitute adventure:

    I have delayed ejaculation
    I started to think that everyday women just didn't do it for me
    I hadn't ejaculated in a vagina in a couple of years
    I blamed the women I was with.
    "They're wooden planks not sexy enough"
    I decided to go to Amsterdam for a weekend
    This is the 1990s
    I've been there before with a group of friends and so I knew what was on offer
    really hot women
    I was determined to cum by vaginal intercourse
    I walked around the windows until I found a girl who really turned me on
    Pornstar hot
    I was given oral first and then intercourse with thrusting
    20 minutes of hard and fast thrusting
    She asks to stop
    She knows something is wrong
    She thinks I'm on something.
    Leave that girl.
    But I must cum.
    Go looking for more.
    I get another really hot girl.
    Again thrusting for 20 minutes
    Again she asks to stop.
    Alright I was nearly there, one more time
    Hottest of all
    thrusting again fast and hard
    Just can't fucking cum
    I ask her if it's OK if I finish myself off as was my usual practice with a woman
    except this time she didn't want me ejaculating on her
    So there's me masturbating furiously to ejaculate on the side of a bed after spending 150 guilders on three whores
    It was seriously demoralizing
    Instead of the victory I had built in my head it was descent into utter rock bottom
    I never did anything like it again
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  8. need4realchg

    need4realchg Fapstronaut

    Wow. Had something like that in Frankfurt but I finished. I was doing 2-3 escorts a day. I just felt sad and empty. The experience was demoralizing. Good for you on staying away. The bad feeling isn’t enough to stop. Need a permanent reason of some kind.
  9. browneyedguy

    browneyedguy Fapstronaut

    I personally wouldn't do it. Just remember there are always consequences to one's actions that a person must think about. Do you want to live the rest of your life knowing you lost your virginity to an escort? How about having to tell a future girlfriend you did that? Do you think the risk of disease is worth the moment? If you're having to ask whether you should see an escort or not, then it sounds like deep down you already know the answer. Otherwise you would have already done it, right?

    Perhaps you should try for a while to not have your mind on having a relationship or losing your virginity. It looks like you already have some personal things to work on. Try that along with making attempts to find companionship and even friendship with women if that is what you truly desire...which it sounds like most of us on here who are not involved with anyone are seeking that.
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  10. MuscularSherlockHolmes

    MuscularSherlockHolmes Fapstronaut

    If you want to multiply your troubles by tenfolds, sure, give it a go.
    Seriously, everyone knows deep down what's good and what isn't.
  11. AlphaAlone

    AlphaAlone Fapstronaut

    Yeah guys, I almost did it I even called the girl, but in the end I cancelled. I can't live with that, this is no "alpha" at all. And in the end what would I gain with this ? Nothing. So I keep going on my nofap and kick those ideas out of my mind.

    I already knew deep down that most of you would disagree about that, I guess this is why I backed down and why I created this thread.

    I would be maybe still a virgin for some months of even years (most likely lol) but it's better than doing that. I don't want to quit porn/nofap just to fall down with another shameful addiction.
  12. need4realchg

    need4realchg Fapstronaut

    Your decision my friend, when you choose what is good , I’m here to encourage. When you choose what is not good, I’m here to Encourage you even more .

    We are the sum of our choices and experiences. I have learned first hand fear and shame are the worst motivators for good behavior long term so I don’t employ these techniques but I completely agree you dodged a bullet for now.

    Don’t stop digging and unroot what caused you to post the thread. Deal with the root in order to obtain good fruit.

    You got this brother. I’m proud of you man, when nobody can see you and you choose right, that’s strength!
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  13. Rooki3

    Rooki3 Fapstronaut


    I thought you said easy. That's not easy.
    Sure, it makes sense and it might be how things happen for some.

    But for others, or me in particular, approach anxiety is terrible.

    That's how I can relate to the question on topic here...
  14. need4realchg

    need4realchg Fapstronaut

    Well it IS easy. It’s like talking to a passenger sitting next to you on the bus.

    You appreciate whatever you work to obtain. No work no appreciation.

    Same for girls. No work you cast them aside relatively easily.

    The chase for some of us is as important as the prize at the end.

    I used to play video games and my friends would find cheat codes and that just makes the game so boring so quickly. You know ??
  15. Rooki3

    Rooki3 Fapstronaut

    Well,I disagree.
    Easy is snapping fingers and having girls just like that...

    What you've said is not wrong. It just doesn't work for everyone. For shy people, for anxious people. Stop PMOing doesn't even cut it for everyone to overcome their anxieties and struggles. Most have underdeveloped social skills, and have no idea how to talk up a girl intro becoming intimate.

    Hence the conversation about paying for sex. It is easier when compared to go out, expose oneself to rejection and failure, it's demotivating and feels humiliating.

    Now of course, if one plays it by the book, your instructions are textbook examples of getting exposure to meet girls and possibly talk them up. But it's not easy....
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  16. Rooki3

    Rooki3 Fapstronaut

    PS: I don't talk to a passenger sitting next to me on a bus :/
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  17. need4realchg

    need4realchg Fapstronaut

    I see what you mean.

    Yes I agree it’s not like hiring a prostitute. I think that’s the point again.

    If you pay 30 $ for a prostitute in Tijuana you don’t get very much and you don’t appreciate it that much either. You have to work to find one you like either way.

    And in some cases if you are creepy the girls won’t want to go. It’s a risk for them too.

    If it’s not a girl but a tranny they are typically more desperate so again not your best option. If you call a service or call girl you have to balance safety too— plus what I always find annoying when id order a specific person and who shows up is wayyyy different.

    Again. Not as easy as snapping your fingers ...or is it ?
  18. need4realchg

    need4realchg Fapstronaut

    I love your honesty here bro.

    I grew up rejected so much as a teenager. As an adult (30 onward) I used to go to strip clubs and brothels just to reject women. I’d get them all horny and then ditch. I would go back to my hotel and pmo to “relieve” myself.

    If you start to believe that you have to have an escort you will find that the lazy factor will bleed over into all aspects of your life.

    Being lazy leads to more pmo.
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  19. King Tut

    King Tut Fapstronaut

    Chad, is that you?
  20. King Tut

    King Tut Fapstronaut

    i lost my virginity to an escort. who the f cares? you overthink too much. in the end, if you try to do NOFAP and it gets hard, escort could help u out. even if she jerks u off. it doesnt count since it wasnt u that did it.
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