Should I make a move?

I'm terrible with women (I am working on it though!!!!) so take my advice with a pinch of salt.

In your position i'd ask myself some questions like do i like her more than a friend, is she single, would i like to go on a date with her, do we get on? If you answer yes to all the questions then ask her out.

Of course there are risks, she could say no, it could be awkward and it may affect your friendship. I was in a similar position to you and I asked the female in question out and SHE SAID NO!!!! But do you know what, i'm glad I tried. At the time I felt bad and silly for asking but looking back now i'm glad I did. I was torturing myself thinking of her and feeling helpless because I was too scared to ask her out. I'm getting in great shape now so when she sees me next she'll hopefully feel silly for saying no (well i hope HA HA HA).

If you think it's worth the risk then do it, if you're content just being friends then perhaps not.

That's my two cents worth of advice, it's up to you and you're in the situation so I think deep down you know what to do.

 

You will never know unless you ask that is my advice. All this wondering and doubting is only going to burn you up inside because you really want to know if she’s into you but you are too afraid to ask. Well what if she does feel the same way? You will never find out unless you let your intentions be known. If you don’t then she might meet another guy and then you will be friend zoned into oblivion forever wondering what could have been if only you had talked to her about it.

So do what a real man would do and let your feelings be known to her there is no need to hide behind this wall of fear that you have built up. If she does not feel the same way, then so what? Plenty more fish in the sea you will meet so many other girls over your life time that you will realise that there is more than one soul mate out there for all of us. No need to give your power away to one girl. If you don’t do something someone else will and I think you would prefer to tell us a success story instead of one about some random guy stealing your girl

 

I have to agree with the guys above @Aristotle758 you have to tell her how you feel.Right now you have two choices as i see it:

1)Do not tell her anything and keep all your feelings inside you.By doing that you keep your friendship with her but she will find another guy and then you can't do anything because that ship has sailed and not to mention that you will always wonder what if she liked me?What if i was wrong?What if this what if that

2)Tell her and relieve yourself from that burden on your shoulders but risk your friendship if she does not feel the same.If she does not feel the same you may feel awkward and disappointed but then those feelings will go away.In their place you will be relived that you told her whatever the result and looking back you will feel proud.

Take your time though and don't rush things too much.Find the perfect way to tell her and the perfect moment.I do not think that you can say: "Hi i like you a lot and i want to be in a relationship with you" because that would be weird to say the least.Anyways find courage and talk to her before that ship sails and your chance goes out of the window

 

Hey bud. If I were you I would try to bring it up with her in a casual way when you're hanging out. Something like "it's always so nice when we hang out. When I get into a relationship, I'd like it to be with someone like you." (Girl: what do you mean?) "just comfortable and relaxed, ya know? That's funny to think about, me and you. Do you think we would ever work?"

Then just see what she says! If she seems to laugh at the idea like "no way, you're like a bro to me!" Then you laugh too "haha yah it'd be too weird!"
But she might just say "I don't know, it might..." and start staring into your eyes with her head cocked to one side. In which case, you would put your arm around her, look down, if she looks up, kiss her!

I'll await my wedding invite

 

Don't wait. I made a mistake in your position minus the part about her having a boyfriend. Tell her how you feel and go from there. I'm sure you'll be fine. She's obviously showing a lot of interest in you and it's better to find out if that interest is either friendly or more than friendly. Make the move dude and good luck!

 

You slept in the same bed.... and nothing happened?

 

Exactly.

Move on. Your friendzoned so hard nothing good will come of it. Telling her will only dig you deeper since shes been conditioned to see you as just a friend & nothing more, your only chance of getting her is to distance yourself & reset the relationship. Give her image of you as a friend time to fade then re engage at a later date, i'd strongly suggest pursuing other women in the mean time.

 

"One simply cannot stay in the friendzone if they realize they are in the friendzone with a female they are interested in." - Me

 

Friendzoned bro. Gtfo of there man.. She said you're part of her family? You slept in the same bed w/o doing anything physical? Friendzoned.
You are worried about ruining this friendship if you make a move? Why? She's either into you or she's not. I think you're friendzoned, but if your not then you get the girl. If you make a move and she is just a friend, that friendship might be ruined and awkward. This is a GOOD thing. Being just friends with girls can be a good thing, only if both people are on board. You obviously have a thing for her

 

I think that you should tell her everything. From my experience, if you keep many thoughts about someone locked inside it'll just hurt you in the end.

 

@Aristotle758 I think your behaviour in bed was really cool and she likes that.

I thinks she is seeking for physical contact, but she wants to wait with sex, because she wants to know if you are able to control yourself.

If you ask me, next time you walk with her, just reach out your hand, and maybe she takes it.
Or just lie your arm around her.

Show her you are a strong man who has feelings, who is touchy, who is able to protect her, and who is in control of himself.