Should I tell my Mom?

What if you acted like you are reading an article about it and say something like wow who would have thought this was a thing. See what her reaction is. Then proceed. I told my bf's mother bc she was delusional about what a perfect saint he was.....the whole time I think she wanted to stick her fingers in her ears and block me out.....

 

Your mom loves you. She doesn't mind that you are a masturbator.

 

I used to use Covenant Eyes accountability software and listed my mom to get accountability reports because she is the #1 person in the world i dont want to get a report that shows the porn im watching lol it honestly didnt work i started doing it anyways...
Might as well tell her if you want. Shes your mom she already knows......

 

We don't know your mom, so its hard for us to give you a good recommendation.If you really think she is a good person to tell, then go for it, but usually our mothers aren't the most understanding of these kinds of things.

 

My family is super negative, every days a struggle to look on the bright side but despite that I told them anyway, & they were all really accepting & no judgmental. Most people dont really know what to say when you come out & tell em something like that so it usually goes over well.

 

I don't think you should tell your mom if you are or aren't masturbating. Don't talk about masturbation period. It's none of her business. What an awkward conversation that would be.

 

...why?

 

What is with this cult of sincerity and confession these days! No, you should NOT tell your mother about this disgusting habit. The fact that she does NOT need to find out about it, or that you do not want her to find out about it, should be a major motivation for you to quit!

 

I think every one is different and their is no right answer. My mum doesn't know about my nofap and I'm doing quite well with out telling her. I don't feel it's her business to know. I just don't feel like telling her lol

If you think it helps, then do it. I respect your honestly and you wanting to get rid of this addiction. Do what you feel is right. There is no right or wrong answer.

Always trust your gut. If you feel your mum is negative about something, you might be right. That being said, she might end up becoming the most supportive person ever.

There is no right or wrong answer. If you tell her and she reacts badly, you have to accept the way things are and be able to live with it. The other problem is, now she knows, she can bring up that topic in the future even though you quit PMO.

Something tells me it's not a good idea. It's up to you. There is a lot of thing I don't tell my parents. I notice that with my siblings as well. They do it first and then let my parents know after. I'm the same.

 

I'm guessing why is why I told her?
Basically I had to endure these stories of what a great guy he was. How any girl would be soooooo lucky to have him....blah blah blah... And how this slut of a girl accused him of rape. After all she was a whore so she couldn't be raped. (Both were 16 at the time , bf had a porn habit of 4 years deep already). So after being inundated with he was a saint stories I snapped and flat out told her the truth that if I didn't know about his problem with porn now there were times I would cry myself to sleep bc what should have been a loving physical interaction left me feeling brutalized and assaulted. And I was in my 30s....I could totally see how a young teenager would have associated it as rape or an assault bc that's pretty much the zone he would go in to.

 

I see. That is really unfortunate.

 

Yeah I don't make a habit of hanging out ones dirty laundry like that but this woman is clueless and blind.

 

Dear God no.

 

I would advise against telling her.

 

How about alerting the authorities about the encounters that left you feeling brutalized and assaulted instead of trying to turn a mother against her son. You should take the first girl as an example of what his mother is going to think of you and how she's going to talk about you going forward. In her mind you'll just be another "whore" who's trying to make her son look bad. If you really want tangible results you need to report him to the police, maybe file for a restraining order if they won't arrest him. That (hopefully) will be an effective wake up call for him to change, anything else is a waste of breath.

 

Well, being that I, as an adult ,willingly engaged in said acts and was thoroughly mentally and emotionally confused about why he did what he did. I never said no. He never just attacked me . There's times to call police and this was a whacked out relationship spatial issue not rape in the criminal sense of the word. I thought something was wrong with me, that maybe my previous sexual encounters were just nice and easy for whatever reasons they were. When these times occurred it was already a psychological war game being waged only I was clueless to it all. Shit happens, but eyes wide open came later. I would piss blood for days as well as bleed otherwise. No it wasn't bc he was porn star hung, not even. It was bc he turned sex into a construction worker jackhammering into concrete. Contrary to what porn educates you guys on this is not what sex is supposed to be like, not even close. I guess if I was shot up with numbing aids and drugs du jour I'd been great, but at first bc I was mentally screwed by him lying his ass off about his addictions so I blamed me for it all.
So you see everything is not black and white .
And I really could give a shit less about her batshit crazy ass. She wanted to sit there and ignore the obvious signs and pretend all was well until it got dropped on her lap. But then all she did was dust it off and continue on in her world of facades. But I didn't expect much better from a woman who was fine with her husband consuming porn with the attitude of well as long as he's not touching me.....yeah....great family values there and I got sick of the facade being shoved down my throat.

 

You don't have to tell your mom about your nofap. Because thats kind of secret. Did your mom told when she having her period? But its up to you. There is no right answer. Also if your mom already know you addicted on porn and masturbating, then I would recommend you tell to mom about you stopped it.

 

I wouldn't tell you mom if I were you.
I asked myself this question a while ago and almost told her.
For one, it would be a very awkward conversation. Secondly, there is not much she can do.