Should I use YouTube and Instagram for sexual stimulation

Discussion in 'Porn Addiction' started by u376, Oct 12, 2019 at 12:04 AM.

  1. u376

    u376 Fapstronaut

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    I am again on that confused road......
    Should I use YouTube and Instagram for a little bit sexual stimulation whenever I feel tempted...... Because I think it can help me to leave hardcore porn......
    I tried this technique in April.....and achieved 37 days without porn.......but I used YouTube as sexual stimulation
    P.s- I don't masturbate......I don't have that problem.....by stimulation I mean just watching them for few minutes
     
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  2. isaacgull

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    No. You know what your intention is when you do that. And that's to look at a person in a way that isn't healthy. Not meaning to be harsh, just wanting to help. And plus when you start down the road of that "tiny stimulation", it'll probably lead to worse things, and eventually pornography. At least that's how it is for me. In all honesty, I hate when people use social media to flaunt off their bodies. But usually that either means they're prideful or insecure, so I try not to judge them.
     
  3. u376

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    Thanks brother .....but actually going clean from porn psubs for 10 days.....and then crashing badly is hurtful
    I am saying that doing this will help me to stay off from porn for a longer period of time
     
  4. isaacgull

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    No problem. The thing with psubs though is that when you are using it, the same areas of your brain fires off as it would when you watch actual pornography. Not to the same degree, but to the point where your brain still unhealthily deals with sexuality. Also, when you use psubs, usually you'll just have a stronger temptation to look at pornography, which can hurt your progression and lead to relapse faster. Sometimes going clean for a long time and then relapsing teaches you a bigger lesson. It's a part of rebooting. It sucks.. It really does. But we learn by stretching ourselves. Of course it's up to you, but that's my experience
     
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  5. u376

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    Ok..,what about fantasising about porn.....is it ok to do.....will it affect my brain.....
    If I leave both psubs porn.....but continue with fantasising......would it make my recovery slow
     
  6. isaacgull

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    Well man, just anything we can do to stop seeing girls as objects is the best way to go.
     
  7. Rex salazar

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    No you don't have to do that instead find some other hobby or study, don't do that it will soon lead you to porn,I've done it.its worse.
     
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  8. u376

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    Ok....I will try
     
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  9. u376

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    Ok....but how you control sexual thoughts.....do you think about it or avoid it.....
    Because sometimes it's very stressing to not think about sex or porn
     
  10. Rex salazar

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    Just remember that girls are also human and it's what you have trained your mind to do all you need is a reset so go for it
     
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  11. Rex salazar

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    If you can't control it run,listen song, distract yourself or even better nullify it
     
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  12. u376

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    ok sir.....i will "try" to improve myself
     
  13. u376

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    i have heard that listening songs promote pornography.......specially those cheap party songs.......so now one of my goals is to avoid listening songs.......
     
  14. Xander_

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    Imagine this scenario, an opium addict comes to you and says "Hey man, what do you think should i sniff heroin and smoke it for stimulation?" I think we both know what's the answer here.

    You should avoid sexual stimulation under all costs when you're rebooting, and if sexual stimulation happens find a way to deal with it asap. You don't fuel it, because its going to lead you towards relapse. The only sexual stimulation you should have is with another human being, in person.
     
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  15. Daxos

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    To me it just sounds like your PMO demon is whispering lies of fulfillment in your ears. Do not fall for it. It is a trap.
    Remember, the PMO demon tries anything to stay alive. It doesn't want you to get rid of your addiction, because he IS the addiction.
    Stay strong. You are in control
     
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  16. u376

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    brother what about the sexual thoughts...........should i imagine about sex or not......because sometimes it helps me to calm my urge to watch porn.........or should i avoid it
     
  17. u376

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    wow....i think you are right......this demon is quite clever.......he almost convinces me everytime.......
    the thing is when i cut all sexual stimulation(including fantasizing)....i have terrible withdrawl symptoms.......i become more anxious in public
     
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  18. Hyvaiska

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    This is so true! Thank you sir!
     
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  19. Daxos

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    Then you know you are doing well. Those withdrawals are the demon screaming of terror. He knows his time is nearing so he uses withdrawals to try to get you back. I really don't get why people are afraid of withdrawals. They are THE sign that you are doing NoFap perfectly.
     
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  20. u376

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    ok....but i am already a very social awkward person......sometimes withdrawals makes me more nervous in social situations........
    another thing is when i am going clean.....for x number of days.......then sometimes i develop the fear of relapse or binging.........because earlier i have achieved 30 without porn.....even without fantasizing..........but on the 31st day single sexual thought results in a porn relapse......which later gets turned into a binge of three four days........how you deal with this fear of binging........because i usually develop this after 10 15 days
     

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