Single Moms

It comes down to what YOU want. If you have decided that this isn’t a good situation for you, then I think it would be mature and polite to let this woman down gently instead of ghosting her. Just be honest.

 

If it were me I would just stop responding to messages, etc. She will likely soon get the hint. Many women and men in today's dating scene are probably used to it, and personally speaking, I would rather not talk about it...this includes when I'm being ghosted AND when I'm doing the ghosting.

 

I mean you just ask if she needs a FWB we are in a different time now and single moms don't get away with stuff angmofe ....

Id be honest and be blunt if a positive situation isnt possible, but idk how normies are nowadays

 

@M_H your post to me is disrespectful and I don't appreciate it.

OP asked for an opinion and I simply offered mine. I could give 2 shiats about what you think.

If you have nothing nice to say to me then ignore me.

 

I wouldn't worry about what others are doing. If it makes you feel better and you want to be brutually honest then you should do it, but I don't think it's going to help anybody or make much of a difference in the end.

 

Ghosting is so disrespectful!
If you are not able to handle this sort of mature communication, I wonder why you are dating in the first place.

 

I married a single mom. I don't regret it. Being in my 30's at the time, I just didn't think it was realistic to narrow down my options knowing that many good available women in my age group already had children.

 

Your post comes across as somewhat condescending and a bit arrogant. I wonder if your hero, Jesus Christ, would post such a message? You might want to review your bible, specifically, the part about not judging others?

 

Well I have a follower here who is reading my ways very accurate.
And now he needs to judge me with some facts out of my life just to defend somebody else?

I agree that sometimes the tone is not the right one.
But what I learn from the "hero" you need to mention here, is that I treat the other like I like to be treated.
Ghosting is not fun, I know from my own experiences.
Ghosting is immature behavior, ghosting is rejection. It's painful and very frustrating.
How I know that? I'm dealing with somebody who ghosted me in this period.
The younger people learn how to say "no" the more pure and mature they become.
When somebody is not able to "reject" the other in a kind way, yes, I think (s)he needs to do more homework first as there is enough pain of rejection in this world.

Fun fact when others blame others for judging, do you see the judge in your own post? WHen I write "I wonder" you don't need to translate that into other things.
Practice what you preach amigo
What you show with your words is that you actually need more from the one you call "your hero"

I see other posts here where you are pointing on others "mistakes" like a police officer. Feels good, no?
But to stay in the language you seems to familiar with, isn't that exactly how the Pharisees behaved? Pointing on "the law" without showing mercy themselves?

 

That's the most important thing here!

 

Oh no problem all is forgiven! yeah it musta been the Internet that caused me to think in "the wrong way."

I don't speak or comprehend Cyber-ese very well. That is very adult of you to aplogize you're clearly the bigger man here and/or you simply fear being reprimanded by the mods. Which would be rather childish in my opinion (not attacking you don't take it the wrong way just trying to get a dialogue going).

And a serious question: how is your mom doing emotionally? Tell her hello wherever she is these days we miss her. I know it must it be tough for her to admit that her son has masturbatory issues.

And don't take anything the wrong way just trying to get a dialogue going here but the problem with online is that you don't always see the intent of the message. I'll pray for her tonight when I'm in bed

Anyway have a great day and hopefully god keeps you in his loving care.