Sissy, Crossdresser Porn - It can be defeated

Discussion in 'Problematic Sexual Behavior' started by Kwp, Aug 5, 2019.

  1. Kwp

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    Preface: Being a sissy is a choice. If you are happy with it, good.

    But there are people that choose it because they are not happy with themselves. There are people that choose it because they are influenced by the surroundings.

    A lot of males here feel that sissy life is not right, and this message is exclusively to them.
    Sorry for my english.

    Ok, many of you straight guys question yourself.
    Why do I like this sissy stuff?

    Most of you know the answer. I can say, with 90% confidence that you all have inferiority complexes. Here are one of the reasons:

    First it is clear from the posts that I see here that you believe in the alpha and beta male thing. And you put yourself in the beta position. This is a self destructive thought.

    This is what incels thinks. Sorry, I am not saying that you are incels. But it is clear that there are many similarities between incels and sissies. Think about it.

    Second, you are no lifers. It is PRETTY clear that most sissies here don't have a life.
    If you had a lot of hobbies or if you were busy persons, you would NOT spend your precious time training your butt, chat with strangers and take pics of you chastity. Do you really think these are productive and healthy activities? Really?

    Third, you have low self esteem. This is of course a mixture of the first and second point.

    You need attention, you are needy. You feel like that as a male you don't have any attention.

    You don't have any voice. No authority. Girls don't like you. You feel like being a male will not you lead anywhere. But shaving yourself, and buy some lingerie can give you some views and comments. Easy attention, right?

    Fourth, porn. It is scientifically proven that porn can change your brain. There are plenty of guys with HOCD because of porn. Porn can cause ED. Porn can cause fetish escalation.

    Porn have a BIG influence in dopamine levels.

    CMON guys, we all remember when we were like 11 or 12 and a simple hot girl on the magazine was enough to make us horny. Now you just get hard with sissy captions.

    Let me ask you a humble question. Have you ever been 1 month without porn in your life since the first moment you started to watch porn? The answer is no for most of you. Now think. AND THIS IS IMPORTANT. Imagine never having access to porn. Do you think that you would be here reading this useless post right now? The probability that porn is the one to blame is huge. There are trans people that do transition because of porn.

    There are people that get gender dysphoria because of sissy porn. Well, it is pretty obvious to me that something dangerous and toxic is going on here.


    Sometimes you tell yourself. Maybe I am bi or gay and I am just repressing some "feelings". lol
    Ask any gay or bi about how did they discover their sexuality. It was not by watching porn.

    And there are no gays in denial. They can be in the closet but not in denial.

    One important signal that you are a straight guy is the shame/regret/guilty feeling after orgasm. If you feel this shit, then just stop hurting yourself. This is like when you eat a lot of junk food and then you feel terrible afterwards. This is the brain/body saying that you are doing something wrong.


    About me. I had this gigantic butt when teenager. I felt so emasculated because of it.

    Some guys mocked me in the shower room that I never took a shower in mens locker room before. I tried to CD and I looked hot. I was better as a girl. Sissy stuff started to making me gender dysphoric. I was weak and submissive, I didn't look girls in the eyes. I feel less men than most boys.

    Started to accept myself as a sissy when I was 20 yo. But the shame feeling after OG never allowed me to go deeper. I started to search about this stuff and realized that I was not able to live without porn (try to not watch porn for a month if you think it is easy). Porn addiction.

    While I was trying to say good bye to porn I started lifting weights and get rid of my body fat, especially my big butt that you all desire. By the way, squats will not make your butt bigger, it will make it more squared and tighter (sorry, we have men genes). First time that I started to feel good with my body. First time that I took a shower naked without any worry or fear.
    Feels good to be a man. Started to talk louder and to not care about the others. Gender dysphoria? What is it? I don't remember. Being alpha has nothing to do with muscles or the size of the dick. But the size of your personality. Many "chads" boys have plenty of girls but are pussies that can't live without one. See the big picture. This is a game where you can evolve to become a better self or stagnate,

    Start to watch confident subliminal or affirmations videos. Start to read stories and books of men that survived in bad times. Build your inner masculinity.

    You have more potential to become a "man" than a woman. It is a shame that our parents did not teach us about this.

    In conclusion my fellows, sissy fetish is a mixture of self-esteem, unhappiness with our current life, porn addiction and self-identity crisis.
    Depressed people also take pleasure of cutting themselves to escape the harsh reality of life. Sissy porn which is humiliation and degradation to your identity, is an analogy to self harm.
     
  2. ryguyuplift

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    I think this is such a great post. I never even heard of sissy porn in my life until I got on to this forum, but it seems that it is a major problem in this community. I always knew deep down that there was something wrong with this gender dysphoria thing that is sweeping the nation, and I always knew damn well that a lot of these people were porn addicts. I always asked myself, how can you expect changing your gender to fix all of your problems when you are addicted to porn, have low self-esteem, and a host of other things? Me personally, I've always been very masculine, and couldn't even imagine being feminine, it's just not me, so I never passed judgment, but this is an interesting perspective you put forward in your post.

    You're right, porn changes the brain in crazy ways, and whatever you're predisposed to, you're probably going to escalate in that direction. I think for me, I've always had a deep obsession with super hot girls. Like, crazy smoking hot dimes. I even always liked looking at them in public, just in awe of their beauty and attractiveness. So, my porn was always focused around hot, hot, hot girls. Nice hair, nice skin, beautiful outfits, and everything about them. I used to not even like regular porn that much because it was too many close-ups of dicks, balls, and sweaty men. Then, when I found creepshot fetish videos, my addiction was completely set off like a bomb, and it took full hold of my life. For the first time, I would binge for hours if not days, and all in all just had a major problem that was affecting my life to the extreme.

    When I look at how things escalated, like I said, I was obsessed with smoking hot girls, and with creepshot videos, it's just one super hot girl after the next, literally millions of them. No sweaty men, no strippers and whores that are clearly on meth, or smokers, and so on. Just beautiful women by the millions. This is where I completely lost control.

    I can imagine it's the same with a lot of these addictions. Whatever you are predisposed to, for whatever reason. For me, I'm obsessed with fat, young ass. Who knows why. As you mentioned, there are a million different factors at play. Genetics, upbringing, and so on. But the common denominator is porn. You nailed it when you said, "if you never had access to porn, would you even have developed any of this?" I know for me the answer is definitely no. I can only imagine what kind of life I would have lived without porn. It stole my life. Now all I can do is fight my ass off and not let it steal any more of it. I'm 29, and I have a full life ahead of me. I simply can't let this addiction take away a wife, kids, business, travel, fitness, and all the other great things life has to offer. We all need to band together and fight this plague to take our lives back and prevent porn from taking any more innocent victims.
     
  3. This is EXACTLY why I joined NoFap today! Thank you for the post. Clearly you think a lot about it all.
    I am not sure if I LIKE the life or if the LIFE choose me. I watch lots of sissy porn every day for years and know I am cute and pretty and it seems easier to be like me now, very very feminine, than be like a guy.

    Thank you for your post. Much to think about.
     
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  4. Brown Boy

    Brown Boy Fapstronaut

    Great post. Something I needed. Thanks man. God bless you
     
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  5. alexg1709

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    Amazing post bro thanks for sharing that.
     
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  6. nawtopawn

    nawtopawn Fapstronaut

    I didn't realize the rabbit hole that someone could go through with porn...

    Great post.
     
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  7. fedmom

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    For anyone viewing this thread that has sissy fetish, it's sexual masochism disorder caused by anxiety and depression. Please see my profile for a thread with a method of increasing serotonin.
     
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  8. Great post. I think the sissy attraction / complex is very dangerous. At the later part of my long porn addiction I started looking at images of guys wearing panties /feminine underwear and posting images of myself in such. Soemthing about it was a turn on to me. I never liked the full on crossdressing, just panties. And ive never exeperienced any of the issues that the OP addressed. Im very much a manly guy with no complex or confidence issues, married and very good with the ladies.
    Eventually i got into cuckold porn, which is a form of sissy porn. I also got interested in wives pegging husbands which can relate as well.
    Luckily i wasnt affected by it in a manner that some others were.
     
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  9. Roemer90

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    I started with it because I felt like I couldn't please a girl.. My self esteem went so bad that I just thought I needed to please someone.. I'm not into guys but I started to chat with men and I even started to do some sissy training because I wanted to have sex without disappointing my girl..or because I wanted to have sex at all
     
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  10. Just curious. Why did you feel you couldnt please a woman? Was it the unrealistic expectations portrayed in porn that led you to that place? Or an already existing confidence issue?
     
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  11. Roemer90

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    It started because I really like sex.. But I ended a toxic relationship and got depressed through some stuff that happened.. And I'm a pretty sensitive person and got scared that I wasn't able to please a woman after not having sex for a long time
     
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    It started because I really like sex.. But I ended a toxic relationship and got depressed through some stuff that happened.. And I'm a pretty sensitive person and got scared that I wasn't able to please a woman after not having sex for a long time.. And I watched a lot of porn because I'm a pretty sexual person and got even more scared through it
     
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  13. Roemer90

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    I didn't get a boner everytime i started something new with a girl.. But in the same night i dreamt of having sex with her..
     
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  14. Roemer90

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    I really don't know what is going on with myself.. I thought I was gay but I tried it and hell no I'm not! I'm into girls but I won't get hard enough to have sex until the third or fourth time of trying it.. And it depresses me even more
     
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  15. Brown Boy

    Brown Boy Fapstronaut

    i can feel ur pain bro
     
  16. Blade-rnr

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    Absolutely. Even pedophiles started with pornography. It can happen to anyone who delves in without restraint. No one should consider themselves immune. Your brain eventually stops reacting to 18 yr olds so you go younger and younger until you find yourself in illegal territory. And when 8 yr olds are no longer good enough, you up the anty. It's not hard to think of how it goes downhill from there, eventually leading you to prison.

    Same goes for most fetishes as well.
     
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  17. Roady

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    Thanks. This forum needs messages like this.
    2 notes.
    1. I don't believe in the alpha and beta separation. But there is truth in the domination/submission separation.

    2. I suffered from gender dysphoria long before I saw my first porn. So that's also a possibility. And I was glad to discover because it showed me that my problem wasn't porn induced. But agreed, porn worked as an amlpifier for my issues.

    Oh and 3, yes it can be overcome. Yes it certainly is possible to grow out of these issues.
     
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  18. Blade-rnr

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    Alphas do exist, but are much more rare than people think and the life of an alpha is stressful enough that you'd wonder why anyone would ever want to be one.
     
  19. Roady

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    Alpha / beta is the distinction people made.
    But in reality no man is just "alpha" or "beta".
    If a man is pushing himself to be an alpha at all costs, he 's definitely hiding his insecurities, what's makes him automatically a beta.

    And yes, I know youtube is full of that crap.
     
  20. _shariid_

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    I've been struggling with this for a while, I'm not as deep as others but it still fucks with me. This shit needs to be illegal.
     

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