Sissy Fetish from porn

Discussion in 'Porn Addiction' started by justaguytryingtogetclean, Apr 27, 2017.

  1. I've been struggling with this for a while probably 5-6 years but as of late it has gotten out of hand i caved in spent 500+ on sissy stuff i hit rock bottom this isn't who i am. so i decided today to throw everything out and start a 30 day pmo challenge but idk if i can beat the fetish since im unaware how to fight it. and advice would be appreciated
     
  2. Popples

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    Hi,
    You took a good decision by starting pmo, although 30 days probably won't be enough. Sissy porn really damages the brain. It takes a long time to be clean again.

    Day 10 for me, good luck man
     
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  3. Thanks im not gonna stop at 30 days thats just the goal for now i plan on quit porn for good as an end goal. best of luck on your journey mate
     
  4. asissyinneed

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    I think i am under the wrong impression?
    I saw your post and connected to what you said i to struggling with same thing
     
  5. not to sure what your trying to say but yeah im struggling with a sissy fetish and i'm trying to break free of it.
     
  6. MY STRUGGLE TOO. I STARTED THIS FETISH ABOUT 4 YEARS AGO NOW IT GOT SO BAD THAT THIS IS THE ONLY KIND OF PORN I WATCH THE THING IS THAT I DONT FEEL ATTRACTED TO GUYS AT ALL I HAVE ALWAYS BEEN ATRACTED TO WOMEN BUT WHEN I START ACTING OUT MY MIND REALLY CHANGES MY SEXUALY AND MY IDENTITY BUT ONCE I AM OUT OF THAT TRANCE I FEEL SO MUCH SHAME ... TRY TO WALK AWAY FROM THIS THATS WHAT I M DOING TOO GOOD LUCK AND BE STRONG
     
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  7. Amanda

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    There is NOTHING wrong per se with being a sissy or a trap/transgendered person IF that is how you are wired to begin with. The challenge comes from wasting your life on porn and masterbation when you could actually be dating a cute guy or a hunky man. There are more than just two genders (in fact, there are at east over 60 gender classifications...google it). So sorting your own style and preferences is important.
    Purging clothing and fetish wear like you have is usually a waste of money. You will go out and buy more of it. Suggest you hang onto it for the next impulse phase. Also suggest maybe you allow a real-life encounter and just STOP watching porn ---see if real-life interaction in the mode works for you.
     
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  8. PsychWild

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    Brother I went down a very similar path - my addiction (as I now realize it is) started at vanilla PMO and blurred out movie channels at 14 or 15 and continued through 34 with sissy/trans/rubber slave fantasies all the time. Just recently, I stumbled upon a short booklet discussing the "most personal addiction" - porn/masturbation/sexual addiction. The author has himself overcome 4 different addictions (one of which was PMO) and now helps others.

    IT BLEW MY MIND. It allowed me to figure out that my addiction wasn't really to porn, but rather to masturbation (they're treated as separate addictions to the author). I could imagine fantastic, crazy detailed, kinky, twisted scenes at will. My real goal in looking at porn (when I decided to, as it was only to masturbate and feed that addiction) was to achieve orgasm through masturbation while being lazier than having to use my mind for a change.

    The booklet is FREE to download from his website, but does not really have a table of contents. I'd recommend reading each chapter heading as you scroll through it to see if you feel its applicable for you to read that specific chapter. Like I said, I thought I just had a sexual addiction as my fetishistic desires had become so twisted that I actually begun thinking "I'd like to be owned as a sissy slave", so I thought I had a SEXUAL addiction. The book helped me understand that I really didn't, that it was all just so built up, and that I didn't even have a porn addiction, but DEFINITELY a masturbation addiction. Check it out! The link to download it is near the top, just beneath the photo:

    *EDIT* It won't let me post a link as I'm too new. Just google "most personal addiction"
     
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  9. Katsuragi

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    Can you provide some hard scientific proof for the assertion that there are more than two genders? This strange idea that there are more than two genders is completely unnatural, firstly, what is gender? Gender is defined as: "Either of the two sexes (male and female), especially when considered with reference to social and cultural differences rather than biological ones. The term is also used more broadly to denote a range of identities that do not correspond to established ideas of male and female."(taken from the oxford online dictionary.)
    Firstly this idea hardly makes any sense, it refers to social and cultural aspects of the sexes rather than the biological ones, but how did these cultural and social ideas take root in the first place? Due to the biological differences between the two sexes, as we are a sexually dimorphic species. Society was built around the two sexes, not the other way around. The two sexes did not just appear from nowhere due to a spate of marketing information put out by corporations, and government entities. This idea of "gender" being culturally and socially learned came into existence in the 1950's with the experiments of Psychologist and Sexologist John Money and his work on the David Reimar case. The David Reimar case is the case John Money used to prove that "gender" was something that was something socially and culturally learned. Basically there were a set of male twins, David and Brian Reimar. David then suffered a botched circumcision which destroyed his genitalia, Money recommended to the parents that they should just remove what was left and have him transition to female. From there Money tries to condition David as a female as he grows up, going as far as to have the twins simulate sex acts with each other Money's rationale for doing this was his belief that "childhood 'sexual rehearsal play" was important for a "healthy adult gender identity." Davids twin brother Brian later developed Schizophrenia and committed suicide. Well, at least David must have been a successful case, right, with this case being the one that was used to prove that "gender" is socially and culturally learned, right? Well actually, David failed to identify as female, and ended up being bullied and ostracized by his peers. By age 13 he experienced suicidal depression and told his parents he would commit suicide if they took him to see Dr.Money again.
    David then got male hormone treatments and surgeries to try and correct the damage that had been done by Dr.Money. He eventually got married, but was plagued by depression for the rest of his life, he struggled in his married life and eventually his wife asked for a divorce, so he drove into a parking lot and killed himself by blowing his head off with a sawed-off shotgun. He was 38 years old. This was the case that was reported by Dr.John Money as a successful gender reassignment and was used to push this idea that "gender" is socially and culturally learned.
     
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  10. Which is worst sissy porn or TS porn
     
  11. Abstaining from all types of porn is the best cure, even from sissy stuff.
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  12. AT91

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    There are only two genders and there is something wrong when you watch porn and start to have "sissy" feelings, it's a side effect that can negatively affect mental health in a huge way. You should throw all of those clothes away and resist the next impulse phase as Amanda said.
     
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  13. Kapalaran

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    I literally started watching sissy porn about two weeks ago. It's new territory for me, as I have gone down so many different rabbit holes with p. Really don't think I am gay or bi, just looking for the next new hit. I also considered experimenting in real life, but I am afraid I would be super ashamed if that is not really my orientation.
     
  14. sparkywantsnoPMO

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    “Attack the ideas, not each other.” It’s fine to disagree on these issues, but please refrain from name calling other users.

    Posts may have been cleaned up to address this issue.
     
  15. Gotham Outlaw

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    I've never looked at any sissy porn, but I've looked at some really disgusting stuff. You have to replace the time you spent fapping with something else. Reading has worked well for me.
     
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  16. nitsuj0786

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    @justaguytryingtogetclean I have not dealt with the issue personally but have talked to a lot who have so I believe I understand it. I am not a psychologist so I am just going to say I believe, instead of I know. I am a porn addict myself so I can relate a little bit. I would say the sissy stuff is some of the worst that the addiction can put on someone. Nothing wrong with being gay, but a lot of guys who get this aren't gay. A lot of times gay guys get the opposite happen to them. You need to abstain from all types of porn. Do not test yourself with vanilla porn, it will make it worst. You will need to fight you mind in this battle, because it will try everything it can to convince you otherwise. And I cannot stress this enough. DO NOT WATCH ANY PORN. As long as you can do that you will start to see improvements and you will be back to your old self, whatever that may be. It may take over a month though to start and see improvements. Good Luck
     
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  17. Hi guys --- i posted this a while ago elsewhere but just thought I'd repost it here----it was a response to a friend:

    I think I might just have a different perspective than most (not all) people --- as I see gender and sexuality as a continuum rather than a binary boy / girl thing. I think many of our generation are coming to see it that way.

    I also have listened to friends --- guys and girls--- and boyfriends and lovers (and searched my own soul and thoughts) about issues surrounding sexuality and questioning the standard binary-gender view of the world.

    The guys I have dated (and those attracted to me, and me to them) over the years are singularly and unquestionably straight heterosexual males. Full stop. I really understand guys, at least those kind of guys. They are at the far-end spectrum of classic male behaviors ---- view them as the hunky man's man, and in many ways are hyper-males ---- but true hyper-males, not out-there overdoing it guys trying to hide a deeper conflicted self ---- they are just pure testosterone, muscle, and instinct.

    I also have quite a few straight male friends that are and will remain as friends ---- and they are straight as can be and deeply curious around my choices, and ask a great deal about those choices. The guys that end up into the "friend zone" with me are there mostly because they do not have that hyper-masculine drive that I observe in many of my lovers. It is not to say that all my lovers are all "alpha males" (a term I dislike, btw), but the "friend-zone" friends have less determination to score or bed me, and more curiosity to observe me. They are more intellectual and less overtly animal. I am not hunted by them. It may be because they balk at my transgenderness, and yet are attracted to the femininity. They pause.

    I have never ever dated anyone with a sissy urge --- it hasn't been discussed and it is definitely not suspected by me. But I have run into a few guys --- friends --- that seem curious about my choices and lifestyle. I suspect a few that are dealing with this issue.

    For me, I process that kind of non-driven behavior in a straight guy --- probably erroneously --- as "less confident" and "less selfish" and "more caring and gentle". These are wonderful qualities, but it probably is why that, while I want to marry a "good guy", I am always attracted to the "bad boyz" all the time. It is probably (definitely?) the reason I am still single and searching ---- "bad boys" are almost always loutish knuckle-dragging Neanderthal-ish jerks that speak in mono-syllabic terms (apologies to any nice sweet Neanderthal guys out there;) ) and, while great in bed, lack all manner of other social graces and elegance for me.

    I wonder --- and I am probably wrong here --- but is it possible that some element of the "less confident" guy can, on occasion, be rooted in a early-development pattern that made them question not their sexuality but rather their masculine confidence and performance abilities.

    Yet, as time goes on, that lack of masculine confidence in the vast majority of guys (undermined subconsciously somewhere in the past) morphs into the overly-simple explanation that it is a sexual preference issue (I must be gay, or I must be a sissy, or I must be "not a real-man" or something) rather than it being what it truly is: It is a lack of masculine confidence with women.

    I think it is an important distinction here that is all-too-often confused as they get more active with women: lack of masculine confidence DOES NOT MEAN that a guy is less-than-a-man. Guys (and girls) don't have this all figured out from the start --- but the pressure to perform like a porn-star is huge on most guys. So, rather than "asking her out" or asserting (sweetly) an acceptable level of healthy-male pursuit of a woman to seduce, the fear of performance anxiety associated with lack of masculine confidence gets translated from "I am scared to do this", into "I can't do this", which gets further translated into "I can't perform this so I am probably not true alpha-male", which after a few iterations translates into "then I must be a sissy".

    Which is BS.

    So, my observations are that the fellows that run headlong (and get trapped) into this sissy fetish and sissy porn stuff are, as well, almost exclusively in the "good guy" category of truly straight guys.... BUT.... there is a background echo inside them from early years that causes them to question their current masculine heterosexual capacity to some extent --- and that conscious and sub-concious echo of doubt, instilled by some one or some event(s) in the past --- allows the questioning phase of being trapped in the "possibility sissy-vortex lifestyle" to keep falsely reinforcing the dopamine-laden ever-deepening curiosity of the sissification and feminization trajectory as a possible path to happiness ----- which for transgender people may have some elements of attraction ...BUT for a "good guy" straight guy there is no real path to happiness, no real option, as they are straight. Period.

    I don't know --- I am just rambling at this point --- BUT there is, I think, an overwhelming component of early-development self-doubt instilled (and subconsciously installed) in sweet wonderful straight guys that deal with this.

    I think the fundamental mix-up here is this:
    Make the internal distinction between one's lack of masculine confidence, and confusing that very normal trait and very real emotion with questioning one's sexuality.

    Confidence vs Sexuality.

    They are separate. Distinct. Different.

    Allow yourself the time to regain that masculine confidence ---- within yourself, and then with a woman you lust for and love.

    Lust is good. Love with lust is heaven. Take the time to get to that point --- it takes tenacity and determination and a soul-mate.

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    Anyway, that was the post --- it is aimed at unsure straight men dealing with sissy addiction and feminization attraction, and NOT true TG people ---- which is totally different. Apologies in advance if it offends some --- definitely not intended.....this is intended to address one sweet guy's issues
     
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  18. Estus

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    You have autogynephilia.

    Your friend Amanda I see is history. Wonder what he was doing here to begin with.
     
  19. Kapalaran

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    Very thoughtful post. I think the main problem with sissy porn is (like all porn) it exploits deep subconscious thoughts. So what should be safe exploration of human sexuality, in the context of porn, turns into powerlessness and shame. The difference is when somebody has identified as straight their whole life it fucks up the equilibrium. It's kinda like seeing porn for the very first time. It is a shock to the system and forces the viewer to adjust to what they just watched. SO I guess sissy porn re-creates that initial shock for many straight guys. It forces us to wrestle with our sexuality in a way many have not had to do.
     
  20. I agree w your observations @Kapalaran , and the words you chose -- shame, powerlessness, shock---- and "wrestling with...sexuality"---- all seems to be an overwhelming sense of confusion for a brain unprepared to receive what it just saw. So many guys (that I chat with) seem to get lost attempting to reconcile what, for them, is unreconcilable --- straight guys can't process the sissifying messages so it is almost like an ever-more intriguing, dopamine-fed, parallel, alternative-universe is created in the brain to process it all --- a place that never existed or was even ever considered-----and the confused straight guys brains keeps exploring the place to his detriment.
     

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