Skype Sex

Discussion in 'Problematic Sexual Behavior' started by ryan23, Sep 19, 2019.

  1. ryan23

    ryan23 Fapstronaut

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    Hey all,

    I know it's wrong, and I know I shouldn't be doing it.

    But really struggling.

    It's so fun in the moment, the validation, having a girl wanting to do this with me.
    It's a girl I met off omegle and we literally engage in chat through skype and lately we've been video chatting at least 2-3 times a week. Both of these forms of chat has been mostly sexual.

    I deleted my snapchat because of talking too much to her on there but we stayed in touch on skype.

    I know everyone will tell me to just delete her. And I probably should. I just kinda like her too, as she's even going to be a nurse. She's very attractive, and I have this thought in the back of my brain like, if you give her up, you might not have anything else.
    Though I know that last sentence isn't true, as I have had some lovely women in my life. I believe it's part of the addiction, somewhere I can go to act out my compulsive behaviors and desires.

    Hoping I can let go, or come to my senses. Because I have a lot of dreams in life to strive for. And I'm sure many of you would argue that PMO gets in the way of those. And this is another form of it, am I right?

    Thank you for reading and sharing anything that comes to mind.
     
  2. MuscularSherlockHolmes

    MuscularSherlockHolmes Fapstronaut

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    If you are this desperate why don't you rent a hotel room and meet her?
     
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  3. I’m so groovy

    I’m so groovy Fapstronaut

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    I don’t think Skype sex is bad tho!
     
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  4. ryan23

    ryan23 Fapstronaut

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    Well guys, here’s the thing.

    Why don’t I meet her? She lives on the other side of the country. I guess I could potentially, but I feel kinda wrong about it.

    Skype sex is so fun in the moment. I just feel pretty terrible about it the next day. Almost like a similar effect to looking at pornography...because it is essentially similar. And very enticing.
     
  5. I’m so groovy

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    Even if she was in a neighboring state I personally won’t go unless I have a lot of spare time on my hands! I think your overreacting plus you don’t even have to M while ur at it
     
  6. ryan23

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    But we are video to video. I do M, that’s the thing. I don’t see myself being able to do it without M.
     
  7. WWW1974

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    I have several friends who got sucked in and it ended up costing then big bucks to the point that they had to tell their spouse, hire their lawyer and then shut down their social media because of harressment. Be careful.
     
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  8. ryan23

    ryan23 Fapstronaut

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    Thanks for sharing this. I’m single, but I know that doesn’t make it right. And there are def risks for doing it.
     
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  9. Jonny1992

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    Be careful that she doesn’t blackmails you. Recording your sex sessions and then threatening you she will upload it on Pornhub or something else if you don’t pay your.

    THEN your life would be done!
     
  10. Ajikan

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    Thats a very real possibility. Im glad you bring that up!
     
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  11. ryan23

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    Already blocked her, so hopefully she doesn't.
     
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  12. ryan23

    ryan23 Fapstronaut

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    It's distracting though, and feels unhealthy for my recovery.
     
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  13. byker

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    I don't see a problem with Skype sex if you are interested in the girl. Maybe it could lead to a relationship.

    Having said that, if you feel it is unhealthy for your recovery you should end it.

    I'd let her down gently though, explaining why you don't wanna do that any more. Don't just block her, there is nothing more dangerous than a pissed offf ex with videos of you.
     
  14. ryan23

    ryan23 Fapstronaut

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    True that, I ended up unblocking her last night. It's such a difficult thing. I feel one way one minute, and a different way the next. I think I got it more under control now.
     
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  15. diaspar

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    I've been in a similar situation. PM me if you want to discuss things a bit.
     
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  16. hubbawulf1234

    hubbawulf1234 Fapstronaut

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    I agree with this^^^
     
  17. ryan23

    ryan23 Fapstronaut

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    She's not an ex though, we were never dating. She lives in a different state than me and we met online. I'd like to think she wouldn't get mad and post videos of me (hopefully never took them in the first place) if I stopped talking to her, she doesn't seem like the type of person that would do that. It's tough man, probably one of the hardest and most indecisive situations I've been in.
     
    Last edited: Sep 26, 2019
  18. Tryinghardtoquit2

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    I have posted this elsewhere but it may help you understand chat:

    I have spoken to a psych at length about porn and chat addiction. Chat is worse than porn in terms of addiction and comparable to gaming / slot / pokie machines. The idea is you log on and invest time looking for chat partners (invest money) and you have a few matches. When you match and have a connection you have a small payout (dopamine) you sext or chat onlune or on video (more dopamine / little jackpot) and eventually find a suitable partner. You then masturbate and orgasm (jackpot / dopamine and reward). The orgasm is a powerful reward which keeps people coming back to chat. Just like gaming machines people need more and more playing to keep the reward system going.

    Chat is not helpful for your porn addiction recovery.

    I know you are single and to that end I suggest you dump chat and go out and make real connections offline.

    Take it from me i'm almost 38 and have abused chat, skype sex etc for years. You might view it as harmless but it isn't good for your recovery.

    All the best
     
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  19. hubbawulf1234

    hubbawulf1234 Fapstronaut

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    My wife and I met online before online dating was a thing. It certainly could be a catfish situation, or it might not. Listen to your body. Follow your instinct on this one. There's a very good chance she's sitting on the other side worried about you sharing photos of her.
     

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