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Slipped back into findom

Discussion in 'Porn Addiction' started by Coldste, May 27, 2021.

  1. Coldste

    Coldste New Fapstronaut

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    Hey all just looking for some advice. Kicked a findom habit last year but slipped back into it this month. It’s really gotten me down since I’ve realised I’ve spent £400 pounds on her this month and this was money I was saving to pay a bill and the rest was going towards saving a new TV. Thankfully the bill isn’t due to be paid until July so I have some time left. Whats made it worse is every time she voice or video messages me on whatts app I given in and get her another voucher or bank transfer.

    I keep telling myself I’m not sending anymore and I keep telling her I can’t get anymore cash, (I have money I can get) but she always sends a video and a voice message begging me, and stupid me always gives in. To make matters worse I’ve seen on her Twitter people are calling her a scammer and a fake. Stuff like she’s taking your money and won’t provide what she promises or cancels her real time sessions. I used my backup Twitter account and pretended to be a new fin sub. I challenged her unknown to her it was me, and she said they were just jealous little subs who didn’t enjoy being dismissed. And I honestly think it’s true I typed her twitter @ in the search bar and there’s lots of subs and other Findoms saying the same thing.

    So how the hell can I beat this? Normally Findom was a now go area for me. Thanks in advance
     
  2. Findom is so toxic man. I feel you 100%.

    I dont know - but do you got a girlfriend or are you missing someone in your life? I realized for me, as I used to hate findom, then got addicted to it somehow, thats the truth is I miss a sweet pretty girlfriend I can spoil.

    Findom triggers your manly provider instincts. It gives you a purpose. But you can and should direct that energy and money towards your own investments, life - especially bills, and happiness.

    If you dont date anyone, please try to do this. Imagine, right now, that you have a sweet loving caring girlfriend. Do you lose any desire in findom? I do, big time. I realize findom is merely a shortcut to talking to a girl.

    Findom is toxic, they just want your money, they do not care about you. I´ve "served" girls online for very long, tried to date some, and also served a girl in real life with findom - and its horribly toxic. Its a waste of money and all you´re left with is regret. You could spend that money on your family, on a girl worth your time, on yourself, on helping others.

    Do not give it away to a girl who does not care about you. Imagine you had no money, would she stop talking to you? If yes, then cut her out.

    If I were you i´d say i´m done with it, and delete it. When I quit online i sent a messsage saying i had to quit this, and i wished her the best and then i deleted my gmail account. That was the only way for me to move on.

    Twitter is full of scammers both dommes and subs. Its a dump.

    So...delete whatsapop, or delete/block her on there, and cut her out of your life. And then fill this hole thats making you do this findom..for me its missing a girlfriend, and a feeling of purpose - Ive only read nightmare horror stories about findom, men ruining their lives. Get away while you can as fast as you can.

    The first girl I did findom with told me, she had noticed this was very addicting...i was sure i would not be addicted...years later and i had spent like 15000 dollars or something on findom, taking investments and having my bank account at 0,00.

    Its horrible. I dont know but as said i think you´re missing something in your life...also do not feel bad for this girl, shes just begging you to manipulate you, she doesnt care about you, the moment the money stops you´ll see a monster - ive seen it from so many girls.

    I hope you beat this man, for yourself and your family and everyone you love. Findom is like a drug addiction, its a decease, a sickness. You have to get rid of this shit.
     
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  3. skaterdrew

    skaterdrew Fapstronaut

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    I think the fact you can get aroused at the idea of sending some attractive female online money is so dangerous in it's self. Like the thought and act of simply sending these women money can really turn a lot of guys on. I mean what a dream come true that must be for some of those women. A guy who gets extremely turned on at the idea of sending them money. Yes it's extremely dangerous.

    A lot of guys that look at this sort of stuff basically have a fantasy where they want to completely worship a woman, literally thinking of them as a complete goddess and far more superior than them, and doing what they want and say, and simply being belittled by them etc. Basically in a way somewhat becoming the woman's property. Guys who are into looking at this type of content have these sort of fantasies, and the thing is you can probably guess what these women want more than anything else, money.

    I don't think all guys go to this extreme level where they go as far as basically becoming owned. But I do believe many guys who are turned on by this type of content, and the idea of this sort of thing, I do believe for guys like this, parting with money online can easily end up happening, if they are engaging with these types of women online.

    So for example maybe a guy who is turned on by this sort of thing might not think it's a big deal to message one of these women on social media etc. But then before they know it they're sending them money.

    I have actually seen these women post on social media before with or without sexy images and videos of them self saying things like relapse, relapse for goddess.

    So a lot of these women are very aware that there is guys who actually have a problem with it, who are trying to not do it. Yet these women are actually trying to get them to relapse to it, to bring the guy back into their addictive behaviour that they are trying to get away from, and all these women are caring about is being sent money from these men.

    I would go as far as to say that many of these women will try get more money of out of these guys at near any cost. So the guys mental health really suffering because of it, going into debt, unable to afford bills, unable to feed them self etc.

    It's crazy but this sort of thing is massively happening online these days, and most of it is actually done by women who are not even classed as professionals. Just random everyday attractive women, realising how easily they can make a quick buck, and for some of these women a complete fortune.
     
    Last edited: May 27, 2021
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  4. ReclaimedLife

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    I'm fascinated about what things are even possible in this world.
    Maybe I'm just too poor to understand giving money away for anyone without actually getting something in return.
    Can you guys explain how you got to the point of giving in to findom? Surely this doesn't happen in teenage years..
     
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  5. excellent post. Im def one of those having had desires of complete worship, ended up in real life asking a girl to be her slave and ive spent too much money...trying to get out.

    you sound very intelligent, what do you think the solution is for these guys? Maybe replace their arousal with something else, maybe a girlfriend? For me its a more healthy woman in my life than this/ just go cold turkey and be strong as i commit myself to a new project in my buisness, while trying to rewire my brain into vanilla, as i cut out online femdom/findom. Had to try something.

    but what do you think can be done if a guy is addicted to this online? Not many places that know about this, and like you said the women know they got the power, i even see vanilla random girls go into findom due to easy money. Its craz, so many guys getting sucked into this.

    For outsiders it looks so stupid and it is and its extremely dangerous. Ive already ruined alot of my finances and im overall very smart with investments and i barely ever spend money on myself and try to save...but giving a woman a thousand dollars and be degraded and worship her? Yes yes and hell yes.

    its horrible because overall youre miserable. Luckily i had one woman focus on my mental health even telling me to stop everything with her. Im lucky shes helped me and is more like a friend, but for guys without this,..what to do if alone and youre sucked into this..twitter is always “open” its very scary indeed...
     
  6. Change5454

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    I've played around with findom over the years. Would have a short term girl then quit for a year then repeat. Recently stumbled upon this whole other side of women pressing for relapses / encouraging it. When I found that I fell real hard on the findom stuff. The addition of the "relapse" stuff being called out totally crushed me. Got so sucked into that thought of someone knowingly wanting to crush an addict for their own sake. I deleted all accounts / twitter / paypal, then went back, then deleted again and ya you see where this is going. So messed up that the pull become so much stronger with the idea of self destructive relapse being encouraged.
    The silver lining is that I have recently come off all of that and feel stronger about staying away from all that BS then I ever have. It has been a real eye opener.
     
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  7. BlueBallsOG

    BlueBallsOG Fapstronaut

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    That's bad man, I really had to restrain myself never to mess with that findom and sissy shit.
     
  8. Abel100%

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    El mundo Oscuro del internet y el P.
     

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