Small Pen*s Club - (males, females and non-binary welcome)

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by +TenPercent, Feb 3, 2021.

  1. Philson

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    Leave it to a teenager to make such a immature comment. @ChangePMO you may have a big dick, but how about you try not being a big dick. And @Hard Mode, you are right there with him with all the comments you have made in this thread and you proved it by liking his comment. A lot of your posts have said "no offense" or something of that nature because you know that it should. I have a below average dick, but so what? It bothered me when I was young and it affected my confidence with women which led me down a rabbit hole that eventually led me here. I wish I had known a long time ago that most of my problem was only in my head. If I had a big dick, I can assure you, I wouldn't have ever needed nofap. I would've been out screwing as often as possible, which would virtually be everyday because you guys put it like women are almost begging you to screw them. Some people no doubt have preferences, but at the end of the day, dick size is not as important as what you have tried to portray here. And, @+TenPercent, don't let these guys give you anymore shit without giving some back. I wish all of you the best of luck on your journeys and I hope you are all successful.
     
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  2. Agent 6

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    Hey everyone. Some craziness going on in the forum haha…anyway I am 25yr old guy and I have had a small penis my whole life. I have many stories about my sexual experiences with women but I will say this,

    It has always bothered me to look down and see how small. Full transparency I am a grower so I compare it to my thumb all - the - time it bothers me that much.

    Measurements: There’s many ways to measure but without an erection or pushing the ruler into my pelvis it’s 2.75” (Update: I just measured).

    I already made up my mind I will seek surgery. I have done my research.
     
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    I also want to add a few things but didn’t want my original post to be too lengthy.

    Women: I have had two sexual encounters with women where I am sure my size is what ended the encounter. It was one of those “unspoken” moments because of my size, and the woman didn’t want to hurt my feelings. And in one relationship my ex called me a “shrimp dick” which let’s be honest she wouldn’t have said it if it wasn’t true! I knew it was completely true.

    It took me till about the age of 24 to come to terms with my size “somewhat”. I only have ever been slightly ok and was comfortable when I was fully erect which still was only about 4.5” Most encounters were in low light situations.

    I appreciate this thread, the anonymity of the forum, and I am mature enough to not give a damn anymore. Being honest is freeing. I have many more deep real life experiences, I appreciate this thread, let’s talk about this. And bring this the awareness it deserves.
     
  4. There might really be something to this. I have often heard women say that "confidence is sexy as hell" and surely having a bigger one would give any man a little more confidence. Even early on I was always nervous for a woman to see me naked, so even though I wanted the pretty girls as much as all the other guys, I was too afraid to take any action on those desires. :oops:
    I was that shy guy who would obsess over a girl for months and months without ever screwing up the courage to ask her out. Is it any wonder that I turned to masturbation for sexual release and that every time I see a girl that I like, my first inclination was to look for porn images of girls like her? :rolleyes:

    Honestly, I think there might be a link between small penises and porn addiction. @BrokenHeart 2 suggested the same thing as she knows well hung men who never masturbate while her less endowed boyfriend is addicted to it. And, on the flip side, I have little doubt that well hung men really do get laid more often - they're more confident, more likely to approach a woman and the women are probably more likely to continue to have sex with them and, who knows, maybe word gets around?

    For years I got hooked on images of attractive women teasing the viewer for being small and a jerk-off loser.
    Yes, I identified with that. But I don't think I ever saw how the two things (having a small penis and being prone to excessive masturbation) were related. I really appreciate the discussion as it's helping me to understand how I got so hooked on porn.

    Amen, brother! :)
    Let's talk about this.
    And I'm glad to see that you both have joined this thread!
     
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  5. Agent 6

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    I had to quote this. Ten Percent, the fact of the matter is, the reason why I have had such hardship with dating is because I know that sooner or later, eventually if it lead anywhere sexual, I would have to show my size and that killed every ounce of confidence that I had at taking anything further than a conversation. The thought of my size would haunt me, and it still does to this day. I've had female partners yes, but I know the ones I truly wanted would intimidate me and I knew I was lacking down there.

    Also, searching for P that resembled women that I've seen is also something I would find myself engaging with. There is so much truth in this thread.
     
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  6. Hard Mode

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    @+TenPercent , @Agent 6 ,

    Am I to understand that watching porn where an attractive woman belittles a dude for being very small is a turn-on for you? If so, why do you think that is??
     
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    No, not for me that is not a turn on. Just to clarify. But the above comment is painfully my life experiences.
     
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  8. YES!!! :eek:
    (though I can only speak for myself)

    Two reasons (I think)
    1. Because very attractive women are the ones I'm most afraid of (I imagine that they can have any man, and have probably been with hung men, and are the most likely to reject me for being so small) so maybe there is something about looking at these women and feeling so much sexual desire for them while also experiencing feelings of shame and inadequacy. I feel arousal looking at them and the painful feelings of rejection make me just want to masturbate that much more - to use masturbation to relieve the uncomfortable feeling. Very quickly regular porn just doesn't cut it - it's like I need that drive, the humiliation, to push me over the edge into orgasm one more time.
    2. Also, I think it is about getting attention. If a pretty girl is laughing at me for having a small penis (or better yet, telling all her friends) then there is excitement imagining that at least this pretty girl is thinking about me, and she's thinking about me in a sexual way. Even if it's negative attention, it's exciting to imagine that a pretty girl will take notice of me, rather than simply ignore me.
     
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  9. Also, I get very triggered any time I hear women making fun of a man for having a little penis. I can't help it. It's hard not to imagine that they would make just as much fun of me if they knew how small mine is. :oops:

    And, oddly enough. I haven't been made fun of much for my size. At least, not to my face. But when I hear women laughing about another guy, I can only imagine what's being said about me. :rolleyes:
     
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    I understand this completely. I haven't thought of that before, but I get you.
     
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  11. Hard Mode

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    @+TenPercent

    That's harsh that you rather get put down but a beautiful woman than get no attention at all from her. But I guess from a phycological standpoint, it does make sense. At some point you get so desperate for attention that you will take even negative attention. At least you've been noticed.

    As a Hung Man, I know what you mean about women talking about small penises. They can be vicious for sure! And many are not shy about sharing their feelings about small dudes. It can be quite cruel.
     
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  12. I've heard quite a bit of it, too.
    And then I wonder. "Would they be saying these things in front of me if they knew that I was so small?"
    Part of me thinks, "maybe they think I'm not!". Or, maybe they're testing me, seeing how I will react . . .

    Or, maybe they just don't care what I think. They just think it's hilarious that this guy has such a tiny dick! :D:D
     
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  13. I've shared this on NoFap before but I'll share it again . . .
    One time at work I was in a room with two girls when they started talking about a TV show called Tosh Point O (or something like that). We had been having a great conversation but now I felt a little out of place as I had never seen the show.
    And one of them recalled an episode where there was a naked guy at a concert who got tackled by police and the other one said, "Oh my God, yes, I know that one! And it was so funny because the guy had . . . SUCH A TINY PENIS!!" and they both started roaring with laughter.
    I lost it.
    I got super awkward, not knowing how to behave and afraid that they would guess by my reaction that I also have a small penis! :eek:
    I felt my face getting redder and redder . . .
    and I started getting an erection!
    and they just kept on laughing!!

    And the more they laughed the harder I got
    and the redder my face got
    and the harder they laughed!

    They were laughing hysterically while I stood there awkward as can be with a red face and a raging hard on.
    I didn't know what to do. All I could do was stand there. I couldn't take it anymore. I made a hasty excuse about something I needed to work on and then headed straight to the restrooms to MO. It wasn't a choice. It was definitely compulsive. I had to masturbate. :oops:

    I'm actually still friends with one of those girls. And yes, they were both very pretty.
     
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  14. Philson

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    My mind has become so twisted due to porn that I could also see myself being turned on by humiliation, especially if I could not get pleasure from penetration. And maybe, if given enough time staying on porn, I might end up with that fetish anyways? But if it was just part of some twisted foreplay and I knew that I was going to get laid, I would probably be all in. I mean, why not? There are some pretty kinky and twisted stuff out there that turns people on! If it works for you, then who am I or anyone else to judge?
     
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    Wait...did they see and know you had an erection plus a red face because of the conversation? As in...after the tiny penis comment and everyone was looking at you red faced and erect? That's what it sounded like to me.
     
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  16. RiverBlue

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    First, word always gets around. That's how I find out how big lots of men are -- gossip from girls! I don't spend a lot of time visually checking men out in person. LOL And the gossip is more often about how small a guy is, rather than how big!

    I think it does make sense that men with small penises probably are more at risk for becoming porn addicts. But of course it doesn't only happen to small men. As a PA myself without the problem of an inadequate penis, I can attest.

    But there is something that porn addicts of all sizes have in common, which is exactly what @+TenPercent is getting at -- "to use masturbation to relieve the uncomfortable feeling." I think this is the root of most guys' addictions. I know I use PMO to relieve uncomfortable feelings and stress or at least to escape them temporarily. The sources for my stress involve career, relationships, etc. These are bad enough to give me an addiction that hard to break.

    I can't imagine though how much harder for a guy who is constantly worried about his inability to measure up down below. My stressors are not really related to sex. I've just wired my brain to connect them to PMO. Logically it must be easier to rewire to break this connection. But where the stress is actually a fear of not being able to perform sexually adequately as a man, I can see this would be a really strong connection and hard to break. It would make sense that while not all men become porn addicts, something like 100% of tiny guys probably do.

    For a small guy, I imagine the only path to end porn addiction is just to accept his situation. Once he can admit he's not likely to ever be able to satisfy a woman like a bigger guy, he can move past those uncomfortable feelings. But if he resists accepting it, then he is likely to stay triggered by every conversation or whatever that touches on penis size. And he is going to have a terrible time overcoming his addiction.
     
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  17. I definitely feared that they would see my erection … but I don’t know if they did.
    What they did see was me getting super awkward and red in the face while they were laughing about a guy with a tiny penis. And, by the end, they were laughing so hard they were almost crying and running out of breath and I have no doubt that my embarrassment just added fuel to their laughter :oops:
     
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    That's one of those unspoken situations where maybe it didn't but also maybe it did. I feel for you, in that you had to go through that experience.
     
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  19. Hard Mode

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    No doubt in my mind that those women realized that you have a small penis, bro. They basically undressed you in their minds and couldn't stop laughing at the image of you naked.

    I'm sorry that happened to you. I understand how situations like that, together with the realization that you cannot satisfy a woman the same way a Hung Man can, has left deep scars in your soul. It makes sense that you are prone to chronic masturbation and porn addiction.

    This thread has really opened up my eyes to what some very small dudes go through. I feel for you!
     
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    It is so significant of an issue that it is always on my mind, (and probably others as well). I would say for me, there hasn't been a single hour in my awake adult life, besides me being asleep, that I don't think about my size. It has haunted me since I started to become more self aware of my body, and especially the realizations of inadequacy within sexual encounters. A year ago I found a surgical procedure that I plan on having since I measure around the micro-penis range.
     
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