Small Pen*s Club - (males, females and non-binary welcome)

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by +TenPercent, Feb 3, 2021.

  1. BrokenHeart 2

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    Hey Hard Mode don't take this the wrong way at all please. I don't really think that he's grasping for straws. I think he just really wants to talk to people about it. I say this because I know sometimes people can seem to go back and forth when they are struggling with something. I have heard some bigger guys say they have been objectified and only seen as that. Hell I even know of men that other guys hate on or try to challenge because they are big. So maybe that's what he's saying about the positives. Some men will even try to hold you back if they know that maybe the woman they like could be around you or they'll start rumors against your character. I've had men try to keep me from liking men and make up lies about them or manipulate me because the rumor is he's well hung and well he is :) he's also intelligent and handsome. But some jealous men will try to hate on a bigger guy. So even though I'm sure you wouldn't change your size for anything and it's not a bad thing. Imagine someone wanting to make your job harder or get you fired so they could have more money to get women than you or telling a woman you like bad things just so they won't like you because they know they don't have what you have and maybe can't compete. It could also be a defense mechanism and sometimes people don't realize they have those. Bigger guys are usually confident and can fend for themselves but still those could be disadvantages. Maybe your boss doesn't give you a promotion because his wife is looking at your penis, you just never know. Big men go through things too even though I thinks it's worth it. Anyway just trying to offer another perspective. I think Ten Percent seems pretty humble and just was looking for someone to talk to rather than trying to brag about his small penis.
     
  2. Vanquisher12

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    I’ve enjoyed hearing about your views on the woman’s side of things.

    I forgot about this for a while but you’re certainly right in that some men will treat women with small breasts or backsides in the same way some women will treat men with a small penis - both genders are fallible and can be subject to wanting bigger versions of the sex organ because of cultural beliefs that bigger sex organs make you more fertile or sexually superior. Certainly in my opinion betraying a partner just because of that is callous and superficial. However leaving a partner because they’re being judgmental about your sex organs, like you’ve talked about, is quite understandable, I would leave a girl who disrespected me just because I haven’t got the biggest penis in the world. Though personally it wouldn’t matter if she had tiny tits or perfect ones, if she’s got an unpleasant personality she’s immediately repulsive to me.

    And I have experienced the phenomenon of other guys making up lies about me to stop a girl from going out with me. At school I used to have a fair few crushes on girls in my year group. Admittedly I was pretty clueless as to how to go about attracting a girl when I was that age because I was never taught about it, and part of the reason I didn’t get together with them was because of that, but certainly some of the other guys in my year did start rumours about me about being a stalker and a pervert, and I think it was that that really put these girls off me. I’m average-looking, but I am always respectful to others and pretty intelligent, so it was likely they wanted to avoid the girl being attracted to my personality and cleverness by painting a picture of me as some sort of creep. I can certainly imagine it can be even more of a problem for a guy who has that personality and is also good looking and/or well hung, because there will always be beta males around who try to undermine him with lies, as in their unconfident state they know they will lose out if they play the game fairly, so they decide to cheat. Also another problem I’ve thought of about being good looking, well hung or both is because some girls may chase you just because of that, not because of your personality. That may not be a problem with some people but for me it is because I want to be loved the way I am (but then luckily I’m average looking with an average cock so those women are going to look straight past me :D).
     
  3. RiverBlue

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    I'd be curious to hear from you little guys on this. I've not experienced this kind of jealousy myself so much. But I can understand what would motivate it. Is this common among the smaller set? Any of you want to admit to this sort of behavior against better endowed men?
     
  4. RiverBlue

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    I've certainly been the "victim" of this. LOL But those girls are pretty easy to identify as to their motives. And in their cases, I guess I feel comfortable with treating them for casual fun. In a way it's a bonus of being well-endowed that there seem to be more attractive females available for no strings sex.

    On the other hand, I agree that these women are not good girlfriend material. I'm not going to be foolish enough to fall for some girl who is just after my dick! LOL
     
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  5. Nope. I’ve never felt the need to undermine another guy just because he had a bigger cock. Am I guilty of envy? Absolutely. But I’ve never felt the urge to tear a guy down for having a nice big cock.

    I can’t speak for all guys. Maybe it’s more common for guys who feel their self worth comes from having a big cock, and then are threatened when another guy comes along with a bigger cock?
     
  6. Yup, definitely not bragging, haha! :D

    Though, I do appreciate the comment on how it’s important for a man’s penis to look nice. :)

    Mine has been called “cute” before and I think one of the benefits of having a short one that is average in girth is that it has nice eye appeal.
    Okay, maybe now I’m bragging ;)
     
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  7. BrokenHeart 2

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    Hey! Thanks for the response! I meant if the man hurt them emotionally.
     
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  8. Hard Mode

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  9. BrokenHeart 2

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    Thanks for sharing. Im glad there are men that do see that having an ugly personality overrides all the looks. Sometimes I see a lot of men chasing after women that treat them like crap even though they have a good woman at home and I just don't get it!
     
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  10. BrokenHeart 2

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    I also find that men's penis color is more uniform if they don't masturbate or if they don't masturbate often. That is appealing to me as well lol. Some men do some real damage to thier guy and cause it to have an uneven tone or blemishes.
     
  11. BrokenHeart 2

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    I should also correct myself that the example I used might not have necessarily been from a small guy. He could be considered average I suppose. But when you've seen the perfect 10 or 11 hell it could have been more even the average guy can seem less appealing especially if he has a bad attitude and hates on men he finds to be a challenge. So maybe some of this hate can come from anyone more than small. But it's hard to determine what's average because we only have samples and don't measure everyone. So I want to apologize if I made anyone feel that all the hate comes from smaller men it could just be anyone that is smaller than you or doesn't have something you have. But I just was making the point about the possible obstacles a big man can face that maybe a smaller man can get away from.
     
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  12. Vanquisher12

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    I’ve got an average size and though I’m slightly concerned about my cock being a bit thinner than normal, I have no malice toward men with bigger ones. We are born with what we’re born with, and we can’t change that, so why get worked up about it?
     
  13. SirGalahad

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    I don't have a very good sense of how big I am compared to other men (I'm a virgin, try to avoid porn, and don't own a ruler so haven't gotten my inches), but I am intrigued by TenPercent's comment of feeling around if a "competitor" has a larger penis. I was wondering if he could elaborate a bit more on that?
     
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  14. @BrokenHeart 2 - Thank you for this post! :)
    I bet you are onto something and I think we all benefit from hearing one more reason not to masturbate!
    As someone who masturbated daily almost daily for more than 15 years, what you said might explain some of the coloration issues that I have noticed (both darker and lighter spots).
    And what all that masturbation did to my testosterone levels and my drive to have relationships with real women . . . well, it's really pretty sad that I did that so much and there's a reason why the Brits call such a guy a wanker. :oops:

    For the past 10 years I've been trying to turn that around and very grateful that the masturbation habit is almost completely gone for me. :cool:
     
  15. Wow! This guy that you have seen must really be ah-mazing!
    I can see why you find him so appealing to look at and why it made your boyfriend seem so much less attractive in comparison.
    And, this is a guy that you know in real life?

    I wish we did. I think life would be easier. I like to compare it to the size of breasts on women. Most know what size cup they wear. Plus, it's pretty obvious to the rest of the world if they have big boobs or not, unless they go out of their way to hide it / or try to make them look bigger, but even then, all it takes is one day of wearing the appropriate top and voila . . . the whole world knows. No more neurosis. If a girl has small boobs, she knows that any guy who shows interest is okay with that. If she has big boobs . . . same story.
    I think life would be so much easier if we all just knew who had a big one and who didn't and if we could all see that most guys are pretty close to average.

    Good point. The small guys don't have to worry about other men seeing them as threatening and always trying to undermine them! :cool:
     
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  16. Thank you for asking this.
    And, it is well worded. I don't get aroused every time I see a guy with a bigger penis. If I did, that would make life really awkward as I think I can safely assume that at least 95% of men have a longer penis than me . . . so, pretty much everyone. :oops:

    When I'm talking with a guy I don't think about how big his dick must be and if I am in a locker room, I'm not checking out all the other guys. Honestly, I'd rather not think about it and I'm not trying to see it.

    But, if it is a competitor . . . well, that's a different story. Particularly if this guy is chasing after the same woman as me, if he shows interest in my girlfriend or if the woman I am with shows any interest in him.

    Again, I am not fixated on all my competitors thinking about how big their dicks are. And, chances are, I'm not going to find out. But when I do (maybe because I hear other people talking about it, or if it's an ex-boyfriend of the woman I'm dating, or I just happen to notice the bulge), then yeah, it get's uncomfortable and I experience arousal . . . especially if it's a really big difference! :eek:
     
  17. SirGalahad

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    Interesting. I think this is called "cuckolding"?
     
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  18. Hard Mode

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    @+TenPercent, Bro, it's strong of you to admit that 95% of guys have a longer penis than you. That can't be easy to deal with.

    As for the arousal thing, I have seen it happen. I have a large penis, and when small-dicked guys see it they react in all different ways - one of those ways being arousal. I feel bad for them, as it makes them look even more inferior when they can't control their little prick. I think the arousal happens for many reasons: embarrassment, nervousness, etc. I think it's a primal thing for them.
     
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  19. RiverBlue

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    So I'm thinking maybe some sort of badge or ID card listing a guy's length and girth? Maybe a photo ID? You'd have to have some sort of certification process to avoid anyone cheating! LOL I like this idea!

    But seriously, wouldn't this just make things harder for the little guys? I just assume little guys do their best to delay revealing their member's to potential mates until the last possible moment -- hoping by then she will have developed enough feelings to overlook the guy's shortcoming? Or maybe it will be too late for the partner to turn him down without looking insensitive?

    Look I'm just assuming that this is what little guys do - at least the tiny ones. Sure it's deceitful -- even basicallly just trying to trick his partner. But I can't see how they wouldn't. I mean maybe there's a small minority of partners actually attracted to little ones. I know @+TenPercent thinks his is cute, so maybe there are some girls who'd agree. (Although I have to assume no amount of cuteness will really make up for size entirely!) But on the whole, I would assume advertising their size in advance would kill most small guys' games.

    In fairness, I experience a bit of the opposite. I tend to be slow, in some cases, to reveal the full size of mine. I've never actually been turned down, but I don't want to scare anyone. And for those who might be a little nervous, developing some trust before hand goes a long way in alleviating that.
     
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  20. Hard Mode

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    @+TenPercent, @RiverBlue,

    I have been in situations where it's been obvious what everyone is packing, and it is interesting how it can really change the dynamics of a group. I'm thinking of one time when I went to an out-of-town conference with my coworkers, and we ended up working out and doing the steam room together. Once back in the office, everyone knew who had a small dick and who didn't, and it totally changed how people interacted with each other. It was very interesting.
     

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