Small Penis Syndrome, Body Dysmorphia, and related insecurities and issues

Tnx. I am, and have allways been careful with hypnosis, never know when there is hidden subliminal messages. I'll greate my own. If you have some pointers what to put in there, would be nice. I ask the pointers because Im in a delicate situation right now, and dont want to make a mistaken sentence in there because of my situation, and whitch will have some negative outcomes later. Mindset in that is: be careful what you wish for, it may become true. All the best to you all.

 

She was probably lying.

And why do you want to take your life because your cock is medium sized? You are overreacting dude.

 

This is something what I read. Thx to porn many guys doesn’t see themselves as average or normal, rather small. And in porn the average is waaaay bigger then what the most man can afford.

And man are so convinced in it that they starting to get off or get a kick, when a woman is saying: Yes you have a small dick!
Because porn shows, that woman can only orgasm with a way bigger dick, and when a woman is really in deep arousal and excitement in this video, the man feels confirmed, that he is to small.

but they don’t want to feel small and they want to see their woman so aroused. To be approved that they need a big dick and that’s the addiction behind it!

I hope that helps!

 

Hi all and Holly thread revival! I am new here (be nice ) in fact this is my first post and this post is why I joined up. I was searching the internet over an issue I have with myself and found this thread.

I am in a 12 step program due to addiction so I do know understand addiction. And when I was using and in early recovery porn and what goes hand in hand with it was a problem. I am pleased to say that both my addictions are under control these days and I am working on my issues and enjoying a life of recovery.

I do have one major problem! How I measure up in the trousers. My issue stems from s traumatic event when I was about 8 years old on a family holiday with my grandparents. My older cousin basically molested me and he was in puberty and I wasn’t and he mocked the obvious differences between us! I buried that shit deep for years. Well deep enough that I didn’t deal with it! It obviously effected me. I have always felt less than other guys as my only experience of seeing and comparing dicks. Is from when I was 8 against a 14 year old cousin who was well into puberty and him mocking me and pointing out the difference!

this and many other things caused me to self medicate and not actually be present and have to deal with stuff. I am now nearly 6 month clean. After a small relapse I was 3 1/2 years clean before that. A marriage break up being clean and having a new girlfriend has brought me to where I am. Trying to resolve my problems.

I am not looking for support or anything I just want to be able to share my feelings hear other people views and hopefully be able to resolve some of my issues.

I measure up kinda average I have a lot going for me I have a good life. My new girlfriend is amazing we have a health honest relationship and great honest sex we are both very open with each other (she is also in recovery) she says that I am everything she needs and I am good enough. And I believe her and I can see the scientific facts I see how much pleasure I can bring give her. The trouble is my head understands this. But my dick and my hart are telling me she can’t be being honest! And your dick is too small to make any woman happy! It can’t even make me happy!

I have only ever told 2 people about the incident from the past my sponsor and my new girlfriend. She has been very understanding unfortunately something was said in passing I pursued it she answer honestly and I didn’t like the reply. I have got some therapy booked around this. But I just needed to get this off my chest.

Thanks

 

Welcome, friend.
You’re not alone with this.
Many guys here have size insecurity by comparing themselves to porn stars.
And then there are others, like myself, who have deeper issues that center around penis size.

I hope you find the help you need here. There’s been rumblings of a small penis group starting. There is also a thread “Small Penis Club” which currently resides in the “off-topic” forum.

 

I can relate it. Idk if i have that disorder, however p stuff was worrying me for so long cuz i had the tendecy to compare myself with the actors. After i measured it i got cooler, althought is always good to stay away from that kind of shit and of course away from people that think p stuff is the real life.
Without any doubt i can agree that p stuff contribute for body dysmorphia and other problems

 

Welcome. I think a lot of us don't feel like we 'measure up' especially comparing ourselves to other guys and especially those we see in porn. And as men we are often conditioned, usually by our peers and other guys, that having a big hard penis is what sex is all about. And that is so far from the truth. You describe a lot of what sex should be; a healthy honest relationship with a partner who feels loved and cared for in your relationship. Usually, the penis size is the guy's big hangup, not the women's. I am sorry you experienced molestation and humiliation as a young boy. That is trauma. And trauma leads to life-long issues and very highly correlated to sex and other addictions. So happy to hear that you're seeking some therapy to work through this. I think that is the key. If I may, I'd recommend a good book I just finished which helped my frame my sex life better - "Good Guys Guide to Great Sex" by Sheila Wray Gregoire and Keith Gregoire. Full of practical and realistic discussion about sex, relationship and perspective. I think I've always been a little slow on the uptake on the difference between having sex and making love, much more than I'd admit to myself much less anyone else including my wife. But this book was helpful and and good, easy read.

 

Thank you for taking the time to reply. It’s really screwing with my head and my self worth. Having not felt with this stuff for years well not in a healthy way! I am hopeful the therapy will help as I need to have some clarity on this or it will destroy me and my new relationship. I will order that book now.

 

You’re welcome and best wishes. Reach out if you need to chat further.

 

My dysmorphia is mostly about my stomach. I mean, I'm quite chubby, but I'm not considered to be fat by nobody, doctors, friends. And it terms of appearance I look way better then I was in my teenage years.
When it comes to the penis, unfortunately, measuring the erection caused me to relapse a couple of times, it is mostly done after a long time when erections feel way stronger then when I would regularly PMO, and bdsm content often times made me feel really bad about my erection size.