I know there are no guarantees. I know there are men on here who relapse after 50, 100, 200, 300+ days. BUT I cannot shake the fear of potential future hurt from my husband relapsing. I cannot take one more heart brake from this. I am not sure if my anxiety and fear will ever go away. Am I setting myself up for future pain by staying with my husband if all men relapse eventually? Are there ANY PA's that have NEVER relapsed??? (Or is this a magical unicorn tale?) This week things have been really good between PA and me. We have been talking and intimate with each other. He has made great progress and has been doing some soul searching to fix things. He has been going to his therapist weekly, plus SAA phone meetings and nofap. He has been giving me things that I need to feel loved and safe. ****And perhaps that itself is a trigger for me at this point? (Feeling like things are good and I am close to him is usually when I get smacked in the face with evidence of PMO.) How do I cope with this anxiety??!? Have any other SO's felt absolute fear and anxiety of potential future relapses? So much so that you think of not getting back together with PA? I keep going through these cycles in the past 30 days; I feel good and get closer to my husband, and then start thinking of the high chances of relapse plus the past relapses and pull away. We can have a great few days together, but then my brain will warn me to not get too comfortable. I feel so much anxiety and want to guard myself and stay away from him again. But he has been doing well and I don't want to give him reason to feel otherwise. What causes relapse after 200, 300+ days?!? Do men take away the blockers, get comfortable and slip back into old habits? Or do they get a huge stressor like a death in the family or the loss of a job, etc.? How can SO's prepare and help to prevent it from happening??