So much progress, then back to square one

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PulledPork

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I’m really struggling to find motivation just now.

I first started his process about 150 days ago and I started off really strongly (at least for how badly I was - multiple times each day). It was: 7 days, relapse, 10 days, relapse, 1 month, then a really bad relapse.

I couldn’t believe how much progress I made over the short term but in the last couple of months I slipped back to being every bit as bad as I had been - which is incredibly frustrating. I should say, I’ve never felt better in my life than I did over that initial 7 day window.

I’d love to hear some advice on how to achieve over a long period. Mechanisms for abstaining on a more permanent basis.
 
Look rome was not built in a day. Keep patience keep urself busy on your hobbies or goal or the things that make you happy. Don't be in hurry or loose patience. You must avoid it for a long run..
 
Hi @PulledPork My method is to try to visit the forums every day and participate. So far it worked. I did it every day. I mean I did other stuff too but that part was also something I'd not tried before. Its not really "my" method, I'm sure other people do it too, but you know what I mean.
 
One time I had an orgasm while I was asleep. I felt terrible about it. I'm praying that it'll never happen again.
 
Hey man, I feel you. First try your VERY best to give yourself some ease and understanding. The frustration doesn't do any good. You can start again right now, and be even stronger for it.

Second, there is no magic pill or mixture of techniques that is guaranteed to work. There's a LOT of info on here, and the forum itself is great - but the key is to experiment and find the long term solutions that can work for YOU.

For me - the most powerful thing I've done is identify with my bigger WHY. Why am I doing this, why am I taking this on...and what's really at stake for me?

I've worked hard to locate and FEEL my purpose in life - and when I did this it was obvious that PMO is a direct inhibitor for making this happen. My passion to experience this awesome version of myself is so strong that it cuts through any 'small' chatter of PMO. Its almost like 'why the fuck would I ever do that' again.

Yes this is a 'hard' thing to break - but we must also remember it can be quite simple too. It can be as easy as saying I'll never do this again because I desire to become <this man> in my life. And then you start living into him immediately.

You can do it man!!
 
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