So Needs advice from the guys

I’m thinking of approaching my husband for talks on his PA/PIED via writing to him. It seems like a less pressured and awkward way. I’m trying to create safety for us so it’s easier for us to be forthcoming.

What do think about the following? Would you feel safe being approached this way?

“Writing to you about this feels easier. It’s been about a month since we talked about giving up porn. I feel pretty good about things. It would feel good to know how things are going. I feel a little weird bringing it up. It feels taboo to talk about it. It feels hard to let go of trying to do something about it. What do you think?”

 

Indeed you are right. I intend to influence his desire to quit any way that simultaneously promotes the health of our relationship.

 

I’m writing to give him an opening to talk and do the other stuff you mentioned. He’s been unwilling on all of the above except that he agreed to stop PMO.