***ANSWERS WELCOME FROM PA's AND SO's, ESPECIALLY THOSE WHO HAVE EXPERIENCED ANYTHING RELATED TO MAJOR OR MINOR DEPRESSION AS WELL AS PMO ADDICTION*** This thread is to ask for advice for my boyfriend (was fiance, we have now taken a step back), who is a PA. He is finally seeking counseling and has an appointment with his doctor tomorrow to discuss his options. I fully believe he will be diagnosed as clinically depressed, possibly even MDD. We've both been through a lot of pain in the past three years. We've both said things we haven't meant, and caused a lot of damage. I have betrayal trauma, a lot of it, and have trouble not taking it out on him as the cause (he IS the cause, but I'm trying to remember that depression is not a choice) My question here is this: What sort of things should I be trying to do to help him? Do I step back completely and let him sort it out with counseling alone? Do I hold his hand through it, even if I barely want to look at him some days? And what do I do when it's all too much for both of us? How do I take care of both of us without losing my mind? Any resources, links, videos, would be appreciated.