So what if you never had access to Sex ? And can't have it!

Sex is not an essential need like food or water. You actually don't "need" it.

 

Sounds like you are down bad bro! Go do something to take your mind of it!

 

Go take a walk or something, watch a movie, something to distract you.

 

Yeah and don't forget, if you continue to jerk off to pornos every single day, how likely are you to ever get laid? Probably zero. Go live a fun life full of hobbies and be an interesting man that women want to be around

 

Well said!

 

Well just because it "dosent exist" right now dosent mean it will be that way forever. Either way, 99.9% of your life will be spent not having sex, so there are plenty of things to work on and enjoy outside of it.

 

Isn’t it normal in your country for men to remain virgins into their 30s?

 

Having sex in teenagehood is a part of normal development. Makes you have a certain type of confidence and competence, makes it easier for you to deal with people.
When I was 16 the thought of other people my age having sex kind of terrified me, pretty bad sign of something

Anyway I dont know, in this Estrogenic stressful urban environment it seems very necessary for the mind
maybe if you lived in some village itd be easier, less stress, everything makes more sense

 

Not sex, intimacy is essential. There are people who live fulfilling lives without sex.

 

This is how I got through it:

1. Accept the possibility of never having sex. Actually not just that, accept the possibility of being alone and unloved for the rest of your life. Accept the possibility of becoming a social outcast and a hermit.

2. Realize that while desiring for sexual intimacy, human connection and social approval is only human, you'll actually be fine without them. Life goes on and there are other sources of pleasure. Also notice that people tend to be extremely poor judges of character, so desperately seeking for their approval is kinda silly. The same regular people whose judgement you fear now are of the same species that got Hitler into power. They clearly don't know what they are talking about.

3. Once you've truely internalized the above messages (which might take a couple of months or years) and are starting to get tired of doomerism, decide to give dating another try and put yourself out there. You'll feel better about trying and possibly failing. It'll be easier to interact with people when you can always fall back on not giving a shit about wether they like you.

4. End up getting laid. This is just a statistical probability. Most people will get laid during their lifetimes. I did it and I'm not excatly a catch in a lot of ways. I'm sure you'll make it too.

5. Realize that actually sex is way overrated. Chances are that your first time won't feel as good as you can make yourself feel through fapping. You'll feel silly for feeling so bad over something that trivial for so long, but ultimately you'll feel relief. Because now that you have both realized on an intellectual level that sex isn't all there is to life and also got to feel it first hand, sex will have way less power over you.

 

I'd recall Maslow said that reproduction, not sex, was in the bottom of the pyramid. But he isn't a definitive authority on the issue like anyone who knows childless people can tell you.

 

Human interaction and connection is a real need. You can die without them. This has been observed in orphan babies who are fed and care for but not held and loved. It’s also why solitary confinement is so bad. Lack of connection with real intimate relationships is why people become addicts. The opposite of addiction is connection. We don’t need sex, we have a drive for sex, but we do need deep connections with others. This has been shown over and over again.

 

so many cool things in this world I really don't think not having sex is THAT bad

 

Then you'll have to learn to enjoy a sexless life like a monk. Read monk books and talk to monks.

Or read about hermits and the beauty of being a loner. No need to be religious about it.

 

Lots of psychologists back in the day were full of shit and were just making things up without any evidence whatsoever.

You could check this video out:


As a monk, he's not allowed to have sex. Despite, or maybe in part because of that, he has been measured to have abnormal levels of brain activity associated with well-being.

Celibacy, and in my opinion also mindfulness, trains you to appreciate the small things in life.

Not that you necessarily have to be celibate your whole life, but you can have a fulfilling life even if that's the case.

 

Your life would be fulfilled.

 

If it was something that would never be a possibility, I would get a vasectomy and chemically castrate myself.