Social Anxiety and Depression

Hey there, friend. I'm no specialist, so take this with a grain of salt.

Social anxiety can stem from a lack of confidence in yourself. Why does this happen? Because of porn, men and women don't have to face rejection. In fact, porn makes the viewer the most important person in the world, so there is no need for the viewer to put themselves out there and be vulnerable. Without taking risks, we won't grow, so our aversion to confrontation goes up, increasing that anxiety.

What can you do? Put yourself out there. Do things, talk to people, get rejected more times than not. Take lumps away from your comfort zone and you will change.

Hope that helps a little. Best of luck to you.

 

It would be pleasure if you suggest a situation to talk about.

 

Hi Prabhakar, I also experience social anxiety. My best advice is to just find some people who are interested in things you are interested in and hang out with them. It will help you build confidence interacting with people and this will translate into being more confident in all your social interactions. And try to stop dwelling on what people are thinking of you. Most people aren't thinking of you. We tend to view ourselves as the center of the world and so we have a tendency to think people are concerned about us even when they are not.

Also just taking care of yourself and making sure you are getting enough exercise, sleep, and eating a good diet can help. Another suggestion: start learning a new skill and don't give up even when it doesn't look like you are making progress. When you do see progress you will be a little more confident in yourself and that will help you be more natural in social situations. I'm learning juggling and it's been helping me feel better about myself.

 

My advice
Be kind to yourself. Don't push yourself to do anything, do what feels good.
Example:
I am in the classroom. Teacher asks a question and I know the answer. But I can't speak because of trembling of my voice. So instead of pushing myself into it, I say 'It would be good if I answered, but can't because I am in panic.' It will help me stop panicing and feel the momen. Next time I won't probably be panicing in the situation like this.