social anxiety is holding me back. sick of it and want to get rid of it forever, is nofap even worth it if im not addicted to porn?

[TheCarver]

as the title states, im addicted to masturbation (probably masturbated 5 or more times a day) and figured that it was just way ridiculous masturbating that many times, and to the point where i got lower back pain eachtime i did it. but im having trouble keeping my streak because i previously did 126 days, and 96 days but kind of cheated cause i edged and tricked my brain into edging and pre-cummed, and just eventually relapsed on my last day when i couldn’t take it anymore.

social anxiety is one of the main reason im doing it, with alot of people finding success, im just worried it will never go away because its destroying me. i cant get no girlfriend at all, i still struggle to socialize with people i know at work for years, scared of being judged, hate having the spotlight on me, sometimes stuttering out of nervous/not being able to structure a coherent sentence, panicking, and overall not comfortable at all in social situations.

took medication, went to thearpy for some couple of months, nothing worked. medication just gave me side effects such as violent outbursts, so did more harm then good and stopped taking it completely and never looked back. the strangest part, my therapist got me referred to get tested for adhd or autism cause i dont think she could even figure it out as she said this is what i might have, went through the whole process - and nothing. only thing they diagnosed me with was a low IQ, which has nothing to do with the other.

so what else could be wrong with me? cause i dont get it. the only other thing i can think of is my poor sleep or masturbating zapped all the testosterone out my body. i started to have sleeping problems a couple years back, i wake up multiple times in a night and still feel tired in the morning and have to force myself up for work. and no matter how early i sleep ill still wake up tired. my sleep specialist doesn’t seem to comprehend that there might be something else going on other than my circadian rhythm is out of wack and just to sleep everyday at 10 then come back in 4 weeks. also doesn’t understand that im highly dependent on melatonin and wouldn’t be able to sleep 1 night without it. seems like doctors just want to make their money by having you keep coming back.

 

[Balanced]

I'm on day 118.

I started NoFap during the school vacations (this summer), I came back to school in September (about 60 days of Nofap) and it helped a lot.
I can talk to anyone. I'm still quite anxious in general because my sleep is catastrophic.
I think as soon as I get some quality sleep, I'll be done with it.

 

[TheCarver]

I'm on day 118.

I started NoFap during the school vacations (this summer), I came back to school in September (about 60 days of Nofap) and it helped a lot.
I can talk to anyone. I'm still quite anxious in general because my sleep is catastrophic.
I think as soon as I get some quality sleep, I'll be done with it.

damn, i need this luck. i think im in the same boat though, once my sleep gets improved my mental health will probably be way better. and the benefits of nofap will kick in. idk, im just speculating.

 

[Sleeperhead]

as the title states, im addicted to masturbation (probably masturbated 5 or more times a day) and figured that it was just way ridiculous masturbating that many times, and to the point where i got lower back pain eachtime i did it. but im having trouble keeping my streak because i previously did 126 days, and 96 days but kind of cheated cause i edged and tricked my brain into edging and pre-cummed, and just eventually relapsed on my last day when i couldn’t take it anymore.

social anxiety is one of the main reason im doing it, with alot of people finding success, im just worried it will never go away because its destroying me. i cant get no girlfriend at all, i still struggle to socialize with people i know at work for years, scared of being judged, hate having the spotlight on me, sometimes stuttering out of nervous/not being able to structure a coherent sentence, panicking, and overall not comfortable at all in social situations.

took medication, went to thearpy for some couple of months, nothing worked. medication just gave me side effects such as violent outbursts, so did more harm then good and stopped taking it completely and never looked back. the strangest part, my therapist got me referred to get tested for adhd or autism cause i dont think she could even figure it out as she said this is what i might have, went through the whole process - and nothing. only thing they diagnosed me with was a low IQ, which has nothing to do with the other.

so what else could be wrong with me? cause i dont get it. the only other thing i can think of is my poor sleep or masturbating zapped all the testosterone out my body. i started to have sleeping problems a couple years back, i wake up multiple times in a night and still feel tired in the morning and have to force myself up for work. and no matter how early i sleep ill still wake up tired. my sleep specialist doesn’t seem to comprehend that there might be something else going on other than my circadian rhythm is out of wack and just to sleep everyday at 10 then come back in 4 weeks. also doesn’t understand that im highly dependent on melatonin and wouldn’t be able to sleep 1 night without it. seems like doctors just want to make their money by having you keep coming back.

I think your problem is that you have been a chronic fapper for too long and that has wrecked your self-esteem because of the hormonal effects, fapping 5 times a day would turn your charismatic male celebrity into a shell of a man imo. You need to be on nofap/SR simple, I've seen results from guys blood tests and their testosterone almost doubles over the span of a few months, this is life changing stuff.

Your sleep specialist is right, your circadian rhythm is likely screwed, and melatonin is a big culprit in that. I would say that sleeping in the morning is the worst thing you can do for your CR. It's not difficult to fix really. Sunlight inhibits melatonin so once you wake up and its light outside, get out of bed, then at the night you are too tired to stay awake.

Other things that impact testosterone are diet, and working out.

So your sleep is screwed, your diet is probably screwed, you aren't working out. Despite being on nofap your testosterone levels are probably way below what they should be naturally. I think even if you were to figure out how to optimise these things your mentality is holding you back. You need to stop giving a damn.

 

[TheCarver]

I think your problem is that you have been a chronic fapper for too long and that has wrecked your self-esteem because of the hormonal effects, fapping 5 times a day would turn your charismatic male celebrity into a shell of a man imo. You need to be on nofap/SR simple, I've seen results from guys blood tests and their testosterone almost doubles over the span of a few months, this is life changing stuff.

Your sleep specialist is right, your circadian rhythm is likely screwed, and melatonin is a big culprit in that. I would say that sleeping in the morning is the worst thing you can do for your CR. It's not difficult to fix really. Sunlight inhibits melatonin so once you wake up and its light outside, get out of bed, then at the night you are too tired to stay awake.

Other things that impact testosterone are diet, and working out.

So your sleep is screwed, your diet is probably screwed, you aren't working out. Despite being on nofap your testosterone levels are probably way below what they should be naturally. I think even if you were to figure out how to optimise these things your mentality is holding you back. You need to stop giving a damn.

you said a few months, which i already went that long and there wasn’t really any changes. but in my case probably 6 months.

im doing ab exercises at home, but its usually off and on.

and no, if it were my circadian rhythm i wouldn’t still be waking up tired following the treatment plan. which is melatonin at 5pm, bedtime at 10 pm, discontinue melatonin in 4 weeks. something else is going on unless i have to do it for long period of time.

and i couldn’t even discontinue the melatonin, because my body is too dependent on it at this point.