Social book?

When I was in college a friend of mine read How to Make Friends and Influence People, by Dale Carnegie, and said it really helped him become more social.

I never read it, but, after a quick google search, it looks like many people hold it in high regard, including Warren Buffet.

 

It is a super simple read. The examples in it are very much 'outdated'. However, don't let the simplicity fool you. Much of the advice proffered is timeless.

In my mind, I imagine a book existing called "Chameleon". In college there was one man I knew with a powerful gift. You could dump him in the middle of any group of humans and he would adapt and come out of it a highly functioning member of the community. I have no idea how he did it.

As a more practical suggestion that you might not have thought, consider pickup artists. Granted the goals and subject matter of most of the material there is a bit suspicious, but it can answer your basic question with a modern take. It is surprising how many of your listed goals are addressed directly by someone like David DeAngelo. It has been years since I watched any of those videos, but I know his earlier videos taught me quite a bit (granted I have/had very little social skill to begin with so any path I took was headed up).