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Hey man,

as long as you truly don't get aroused or cued into PMO, I think you're fine.

But you have to be honest with yourself. It's pretty easy to get cued/triggered without even noticing.

In my case I manage an adult twitter account, and the urges are through the roof even after a short session with it. I find it hard to stop because it has thousands of followers but I'm automating it more and more. So I'm going to really watch me with the new "automated" approach, and if I see myself with dirty thoughts again I'll have to stop.

So in short, try to see yourself from outside while writing/engaging in that community, and how it affects you.

 

I also write some erotica, but I won't even call it that. It's probably a lesser form. Personally, I would avoid it, until maybe another 30+ days, as I think the words could trigger me back to visual/video Ps.

Though, I didn't write it for a group, just for myself.

 

What you would or would not call it does not alter what it is. It is written erotica - period. As a masturbation and porn addict, you should not be doing this at all. I find it staggering that you would even consider doing so by next month! You may find that you can never go back to doing so because it would compromise the neural pathways rewiring in your brain. I encourage you to keep up the writing you obviously enjoy so much, just stick to non-erotic fiction for the time being. I urge you not to write anything erotic at all before you are completely sure you have totally rebooted. After then, I still doubt that it would be wise for a former addict.

 

I think that you should find a more positive social group that doesn't reinforce the bad habit. Its kind of hard to quit something if you keep the temptation right in front of you. I'm sure there are groups of likeminded authors online that will support your non-erotic writing, and if not, make a group I think that is a more worthwhile thing to pursue.

 

I agree. It would be best to avoid it. After thinking about it some more, since I wrote that entry, it would be self defeating if I were to continue with such writing or even just considering it. Fade away those thoughts. I don't know what I'll become in another 30+ or 60+ days, but I'll do my best to focus on more worthwhile pursuits. And no, I haven't written or read such stories since I started my journey.

My apologies if I have given a discouraging and misleading path earlier on.

Like what the others have said, perhaps find or start a new group and attract new members. Or maybe mention it your existing writing social group, but make it strictly for non erotica fiction. That way, you still get to write and hang out with the same people. I guess it would also depend on them, how disciplined and respectful they are with your wishes.

 

Another thing Personal Freedom. You say, "It's one of the few chances I have in my general life to socialize, because of the way my job and living situation are set up." But it is not socialising with 'real people' face-to-face. This is a 'virtual' on line chat room with like-minded people. One of the goals that most of us value is to become less isolated and to engage with real people in our communities. This group could continue to stunt your social development and stymie your progress and self-development.

 

Non-erotic sounds like a good idea. For me there are so many things that my brain does to play tricks on me, it always seems to take me in baby steps back to PMO. Anything erotic is probably a trigger waiting to happen.