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Society treating Sex as a must.

Discussion in 'Off-topic Discussion' started by Red Eagle, Dec 13, 2015.

  1. Red Eagle

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    I'm sure most of you have experienced this. When guys talk about sex it sounds like it's the ultimate goal of life, which it is on an evolutionary level but on a personal level there are things that are much more important. When I look around I often see men having girlfriends who seem unhappy and unfulfilled. When I talk with guys at work and the topic of women comes up I get asked: "Do you have a girlfriend?" and I answer No.
    An answer that often comes up then is: "Oh, so you're still using your hand." and I laugh deep inside because I don't.
    I get the feeling that guys who constantly think about sex are losers at life and it's origin is society putting sex on a pedestal to a point that says that your life is shit if you don't have sex. I'm very happy with my life even if I've never been with a girl. I think this simply comes from not treating sex as something you have to do in life to be happy. Happiness is a choice and not something you earn.
    Don't get me wrong. I'd love to have a girlfriend. But I stopped seeing this as something I need and rather as something I want. As something that is gonna improve my life even more.
    I think NoFap makes men and women to such great personalities because they learn to be content without sex and build a life that is great on it's own and doesn't necesarilly require sex.
     
  2. Merlionno

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  3. always108

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    I agree I don think ex is nessicary with IVF and stuff nowdays
     
  4. Yep, and I'm completely detoxing my mind from all the bull shit and lies that have been fed to me by society since my teen years.

    Sex is great and having a girlfriend is nice too, but it is no longer first priority any more, either of them, and never will be again. I want to learn all the amazing secrets about sexual transmutation that the Egyptians taught about.
    The benefits I enjoy and the surges of energy that flow around my body due to this semen retention makes me feel amazing. Sometimes I don't even feel like I need anything else.

    Everyone praises sex and how 'important' it is to be in a relationship, but a lot of people just harp on about this, because in reality, they are just afraid of being alone. Some people cannot spend five minutes by themselves, because when they do, they begin to feel a void, a void that they cannot fill.

    Anything else is just an add on now, whether it be sex or a girlfriend. I've been on MANY dates and have had many girlfriends, but I'm no longer going to indulge any of it any more, unless I am certain that it is the absolute right woman for me, to potentially spend the rest of my life with. I'm no longer going to be 'dating', spending stupid amounts of money on women, going from one date to the next. It's all stupid. This crazed society that is obsessed with sex and chasing the next high in bed. We've idolised these things for so long.

    I'm going to be putting myself first from now on. Anything else is secondary. Purifying my mind from the filth I've picked up since teen years is my only priority now.
     
  5. This year I've woken up from the bullshit that drip feeds civilisation through all media channels. I grew up thinking that sex was the be all and end all of relationships, a foundation. This is bullshit. Society is way too sexualized. I'm 46, have kids, been married, lived on my own and through all that my behaviour has been driven for sexual desire. Now I'm single again, live alone and basically resetting the switches. We are fed a constant drip feed of reward through sexualized content... zombies same with sugar and junk food... obesity. So glad I came here my brain is peaceful and one day I will be ready for a relationship built on connection and not just lust and sex.
     
  6. recoome

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    i think society wants to find some cure for all the ailments. like some common denominator:
    sex, religion, social work, money, socialization

    everyone wants to think that one of the above or all the above is the cure for everything.
    people cant imagine that everyone is different n while one may enjoy sex or socialization, another person may prefer to be alone or wouldnt want a partner. since this goes against the society(and no one likes to be told 'you're wrong') society groups up and turns to mob that says 'sex is the cure for all, social work is good for depression, i will pray for you, god is kind to me...' and other stuff. everyone thinks that by giving such advises they are superior.
     
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  7. Alix

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    @Red Eagle
    This was the reason why I indulged so heavily deep into pornography addiction. I thought it was normal to be hyper-sexual, and that every guy watches and masturbate to porn excessively. I couldn't experience the same kind of high and pleasure I used to have, so I was trying to compensate that by masturbating even more.

    I am now, finally trying to making a commitment to NoFap.

    As well as for my goal in life, I want to have a dream job that I will enjoy the hell out. Make a bunch of money, and save it. And retirement can be a breeze.
    But I'm only 14, so I got a long road ahead of me. My mom told me don't make the same mistake she did, because her dad warned her before he died. Sadly, my mom is probably going to work until she dies. Unless, I can provide for her.

    Having a girlfriend would be second to my goal in life. As I'll admit, I am a little bit promiscuous.. but I like really long loyal relationships that has fulfillment. It gives you a sense of assurance, and a nice relaxing cozy feeling.
     
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  8. Red Eagle

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    I really envy you. I wish I could have taken control of my life with 14. I wasted my whole teenage years in front of the computer and didn't try to take control of my life until I was 19/20. I wish you the best luck on your journey.
     
  9. Alix

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    I don't envy myself. I already exhausted my penis to the point of being a senseless dildo, and my emotions are always on edge.
     
  10. Red Eagle

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    When did you start Masturbating? With 14 you can't be masturbating that long. Even if you've been masturbating compulsively I don't think it matters that much at your age. Your body and your mind are still in development. You can do yourself so much good that most people here didn't do to themselves.
     
  11. himmelstoss

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    You say that but the cost of health insurance got jacked up just so women wouldn't have to pay $50 a month (at most) for contraceptives.
     

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