Some advice or help on getting past day 10

Discussion in 'Self Improvement' started by SilenceDogood, Nov 16, 2020.

  1. SilenceDogood

    SilenceDogood Fapstronaut

    Hello everyone
    I'm sure some of you have seen my comments and posts on here.
    I keep fighting continuously to get to 90 days NoFap, and the farthest I've gotten ever was 10 days, and I am trying to surpass that.

    Honestly, I have been doing everything I can. I journal, I play video games to ignore the thoughts, I punch on my punching bag 2,000 times each day, I run on a treadmill, I pray 3 times a day, I meditate for 30 minutes, I take a shower each day (taking showers each day keeps me from PMO), I draw, I drive my car around, I am studying Latin, I am taking Two online classes, and yet I still have broke down a few times and relapsed. For the most part though, I usually go 7 to 9 days without PMO, but on the downside, when I relapsed, I find myself binging 3 times on the day of my relapsed. When I relapsed, I feel like I lost it all again and I might as well do it before I start all over again; however, I found some posts on some other forums that begged to differ with the streak mindset and offered a ratio mindset to this. For the most part, until I get to 7 days, I don't care to PMO, and I feel optimistic I can beat my 10 days and get to 14 days.

    I notice that before I get an urge to Fap, I feel my heart race, my mind puts sexual thoughts in my head, and I think that it's okay to do it, even though I fight myself I end up giving in. I really want to get rid of these thoughts, or somehow combat them. I find that when I am not by myself, I do not feel those urges and it goes away. It makes me think of a computer, and how you have to troubleshoot it and investigate what the problem is if something isn't working.

    I am currently on Day One as I write this, and I feel disappointed in myself, but I feel I am learning a kind of lesson each time I relapse on what I did wrong, and how I can avoid it.

    My biggest problem is the heart racing, the sexual thoughts, and how to go on after day 7. When I get to that point, I notice I get a normal erection, and if I make any careless step it could lead me to PMO.

    Do you have any advice?
  2. L3t'sG0

    L3t'sG0 Fapstronaut

    For me, the very first step is to change your thoughts.

    Credentials: Age 15, so take my words with a grain of salt.

    To do this. Ask yourself questions pertaining to your addiction. Why do you PMO? Why is it that you relapsed (or break streak)? Is it to hide something? Or is it something much deeper that's hidden inside you? And finally, do you really want this, or does someone else (like your urges) want this for you?

    Frequency? I say everytime you relapse you should ask yourself these questions. In reality, it's nice if you do a little checkup to when you have a urge.

    In addition, understand more about this PMO addiction.

    “If you know the enemy and know yourself, you need not fear the result of a hundred battles. If you know yourself but not the enemy, for every victory gained you will also suffer a defeat. If you know neither the enemy nor yourself, you will succumb in every battle.”

    ― Sun Tzu, The Art of War

    Read YourBrainonPorn for instance. They have various articles that at least have scientific rigor into it. You might also read spirituality books, though only read what you believe in is my advice. That is the first step, change your thoughts about this addiction.

    The 2nd step is to continue to do this. Note that you are basically brainwashing yourself to do this. Whether you accept this brainwashing or not will determine how successful your journey will be. So repeat, step 2 is to continue to do this.

    The final step, step 3: enjoy the benefits. You could be mindful of them. You could also be grateful or some other positive feeling you can get. Remember that if you have a problem, figure it out for yourself first. Then, you can ask us for help.

    Good luck on your journey
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