Some guy just did 90 days... You can too

Discussion in 'Success Stories' started by someguy-21, Mar 28, 2016.

  1. Hello everyone, I had been working on getting rid of pornography in my life in exchange for a better life. I can say that I've gotten what I've asked for and more. I was a porn user for YEARS and I had a deeper addiction in my earlier years in college. I had gotten to the point of watching P 3 times a day every day of the week. In the pit of my addiction I was trapped; I had little to no social life, I was depressed, I was lonely, I was numb, I had hurt my relationship at the time, I had fear, I had anxiety and social awkwardness.
    That was then... here I am now and those problems aren't there anymore. Letting go of pornography opened my arms to better things in life. During the first month, it was pretty hard, but that's the hardest part of Nofap in my opinion. The first month makes you realize how much of a grip PMO has on your life and you can start to notice changes. The second month I really started to see changes, I had sexual experience with actual girls, I got a job, I got involved in more social groups and I'm more athletic. The third month has let me become more aware and really feel in control; I now don't worry so much about relapsing but rather more complex things that target the deeper self. Making the lifestyle change improved my life whether it was with discipline, confidence, social skills, self perception, awareness, motivation, sexual intercourse, focus... you name it and I'm certain I've improved and others making the change too have improved.
    Making 90 days isn't the "end" but rather a common point for people doing NoFap to really start changing themselves and the world around them. I feel balanced, I feel ready to look inward and outward. I'm living life and doing my best to improve everyday... Some guy... a normal guy... has the uncommon desire to succeed. I've succeeded and I know you all can too. If you ask yourself "how am I going to do this" it shows that somewhere deep down you believe its possible... latch onto that and you'll wake up to accomplishments. Any questions feel free to ask and I'll do my best to help. Thank you everyone!!!
     
  2. melancholy king

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    I've had enormous difficulty with it lately... See if I didn't have to put up with college I could get rid of my laptop (gotta do homework online and everything) so every single time I have messed up its been on my laptop. I almost want to just get rid of the damn thing ya know? College feels more like a prison than anything else to me right now.

    I just want some insight into this... Should I? I don't see any other way forward frankly. I've tried everything else, I'm starting to lose hope.
     
  3. I've felt the same way man, I've felt like college was a prison at the height of my addiction with PMO. I felt like I was just going through the motions and PMO was my only escape from the reality I dreaded. For me personally, my phone was the device I'd use for relapse, I wouldn't really use my computer at all to be honest. However, I think I can still give advice. Try to be mindful of the environment when you feel like relapsing. Are you alone? try to go into an open place to work on homework. Is it dark when you feel like relapsing? try turning on the lights and opening up those windows. Since doing NoFap i've noticed how tremendously a slight change in environment can boost or weaken my work productivity, temptation, and my focus. If you're alone in your room and you use your laptop for homework, try going outside of your room to do work. Also try to keep your searches and time on the device specific and preset so maybe a hour and a half of work followed by a break period off the computer so that you get dopamine from other sources like talking to people or going outside or working out.
     
  4. melancholy king

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    Now that I've thought about it, it may be the other way around. Because porn is so difficult to access now (relatively speaking of course) its almost like a challenge to me, plus it takes ages to find anything explicit, so I end up wasting a lot more time that way.

    The best comparison I have to porn addiction (personally) would be gaming addiction, and I pretty much stopped gaming for a couple of years or so (although I am still madly in love with them lol) so maybe if I put everything out in the open I'll do better long term. I do recall at one point pretty much ignoring certain sources of porn, the reason in my mind was that it was "boring", it just wasn't fun to me.
     
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  5. PaFappa the Rapper

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    Awesome. Be proud of yourself.
     
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  6. Thats a good question. To me it seemed like will power is a limited resource so, you want to only use it as little as you need to. For me I was motivated by a lot of things. Try to find as many things as possible to motivate yourself, whether it be the higher chance of getting laid, having that confidence that you can control yourself while almost every guy around you is chained to watching porn, having more time, a clearer mind... The list goes on and on. Just find an excuse to win. And when you say you want to make it to a certain number of days believe it simply because you stated that you would. For me I'm not the most spiritual or religious person, but believing that I'm made in the image of God, the creator of everything and the most powerful being/force in the universe made me realize that if such a being creates simply by speaking it into existence then I too must have abilities similar to that. So I would tell myself this is the time, my time is now and I will make 90 days because I said I will. There will be times when you're just not feeling it and that's when discipline from experience really saves you. So get comfortable with being uncomfortable. It wont last for ever and nofap gets easier as you go on. If you relapse now that just means you're restarting again and you'll be at day 0 and reaching a goal like 90 will be like all the days you just had and then more. It makes it hard on you. Make it easy and just don't look back. Be smart and practice self awareness. Self awareness is the surfboard that'll allow you to ride out the urge. And when you feel like change isn't happening its probably cause you're not believing in the change to occur and letting that belief guide you throughout your day. Best wishes and I hope this helped!
     

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