Someone talk me out of this (trans escort)

Discussion in 'Problematic Sexual Behavior' started by Fallacious D, May 22, 2020.

  1. Jnuts

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    Similar situation, different fetish.

    i really want to perform oral on another guy. No attraction to men, don’t want to be in a relationship with one, I just really want to perform the act.

    To the point that my wife knows this and sometimes I need her to talk about it to get me off.

    I have questioned my sexuality, and honestly wanted to be bi...at least then I’m not just a perv right? But I’m not bi. I just crave the act.

    I would really like to do it IRL. To the point where I have considered trying to talk my wife into a MMF threesome. Logistics, being outed, and disease are my roadblocks.

    Porn induced? I think. But afraid of what I am and what I want? No. How would I feel after is the question. I think I know the answer. You probably do too. I haven’t seen too many posts about acting out with a trans that classify it as a positive experience.
     
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  2. I agree with you all the way up to the point in bold. You have to understand that this is a site where people report almost exclusively negative sexual experiences. Because of this, there is going to be a strong bias against sexual experimentation. But if you survey a different group of people, you might see a lot of positive experiences and positive attitudes. I've never had sex so I don't know how I'd feel, and I don't see any use in speculating based on what other people have said.
     
  3. Daisetsuu

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    If this is what you really believe bro then there is no helping you. You came here asking for help but it seems that you are justifying what you feel led to do.

    Don't do it. I know you're better than this man, realize that these desires are tricking you and its due to falling into this disgusting habit over and over. Look up what happens to your brain when you do porn, it is literally a *rewiring* of our mind.

    Keep a longer streak, seek out healthier habits and in time you will look back and thank yourself for not going this far. :)
     
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  4. Yeah, thanks. I won't ask for help again if it's just going to be people like you patronizing and preaching without thinking about what I've said. You literally didn't read anything if THIS is your response. Obnoxious and unproductive. I don't welcome your support at all, because it's clearly not heartfelt, just a blind assertion of your beliefs.
     
  5. Jnuts

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    Have you looked elsewhere and seen otherwise? Just curious. I don’t spend much time here and I get that this isn’t going to be a fair sample, but having sought out “reviews” if you will of people acting out with my own fetish, the experiences seem to have been overwhelmingly negative.
     
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  6. drISlittle

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    Maybe close the thread since it seems like you already made up your mind on it? Unless you had a severe sex addiction concerning to other people, I don't really see any issue once again. Maybe, depending on your personality, since you said you see yourself as straight, you may feel emasculated afterwards, and it may make it harder to perform with a real woman since you've expressed you're a virgin. I can see people assuming this could hurt you and it could but at the end of the day this site is for PMO. You're also a grown ass man, you're gonna make your own decision and need to live with it. Seems like you already made up your mind and won't pursue it from what you said earlier so maybe make a new thread so you don't continuously need to defend yourself in this one. Its your choice buddy and if you do decide to do it I hope it works out for you.
     
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  7. MountainBiking

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    Don't look at hookers. That's another addiction that you don't need on top of porn and masturbation. Trust me kid, been there, done that. It's like Heroin, don't do it, not even once.
     
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  8. Daisetsuu

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    Perhaps my words were a bit blunt, but I tried to say the same thing you said but it appears that I'm the villain here.
     
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  9. zippy111

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    I bet you would be disgusted. I doubt you could actually do it. That’s when your addiction will punch you in the gut and make you realize how much it twists your perspectives.
     
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  10. Thanks. I would close the thread if I knew how.
     
  11. thinking_differently

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    Hey Fella Fellatious,
    Bro no offence, but u a BOY!!
    WHAAAAAYYYYYYY THE FUCCCCKKK DO U NEED TO GO SUCK SOME TRANS!!!
    I’ll tell ya what ur gonna do now:

    Ur gonna wait for this fuckin Covid situation to get better, and then ur gonna out there, MEET SOME GIRLS, find the one that clicks best with u, and b4 ya know it, she’s ur girlfriend..

    “Bro”, U R A BOY, STAY ONE.

    P is really manipulative, lemme Explain:
    In some Exposure to P, there’s many things u r gonna like. And what happens is a lotta oxytocin, serotonin, doPamine and ur brain is gonna get confused what u really like and what u dont!!
    And it becomes soo lazy then that u can’t distinguish the , so u just say u like it.. Dont try imagining doing a TRANS, U aren’t one.
    Analogy:
    (Works if u think ghosts are a bulllllshit concept:)

    Its dark, and u see at the other end of the room, u think its a face, it dosent make sense, but it is a face. U go closer, shine some light on it, its a mere vase!!

    DONT TRY TO COUNTER ALL THAT I SAY AND FOR UR OWN SAKE, JUST ACCEPT IT,AND BE A FUCKIN’ BOY!!

    Just FUCKIN IGNORE PORN MAN!!
     
  12. Envoy-ofthe-End

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    Dude, how is there no harm in homosexual activity? Also, you can´t claim to be heterosexual if you want to F* another dude.
     
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  13. Do you have a point relevant to this conversation? Or are you just another "muh conservative values" zombie? I feel like any conversation with you would just be a disappointment, but go ahead, do your thing.
     
  14. Envoy-ofthe-End

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    lol zombie. Posts about wanting to f* a dude and says I´m the zombie... Dude you just keep admitting that you want to act out on this. It seems like you want attention like all the other screwed up phsycos out there that flaunt their weakness. This forum is for people that admit theyve been screwed up by porn like me and want to get out of this hell hole, not make excuses to stay in it. Give me a break.
     
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  15. How does sex have anything to do with porn addiction? I fail to see the correlation. And did you just try to shame me and call me a "psycho" because of my sexual preferences?
     
  16. AtomicTango

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    I've already said what I think about what OP is asking so I wont repeat myself too much, I'll just say I firmly believe rebooting first is the best course of action, and OP already agrees so there we go.

    I do think that, as others have likely said (I haven't had chance to read every single thing posted I've just skimmed), asking this kind of thing on a forum like this is going to get a predictable response. I feel like you could have asked something like "I want to have sex with my GF, we have been going steady for a year and we are both virgins" and you would have still gotten a lot of people telling you that you shouldn't under any circumstances. "Controversial" threads on this site do have a tendency to devolve into moralistic posturing where people stop making points and fall back on either name calling or morality based argumentation that falls apart if you dont agree morally with the person making the argument.
     
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  17. Envoy-ofthe-End

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    I agree with half of what you said, but about this guy agreeing with me not so much. I could give 2 shits if anyone agrees/disagrees with me. My dilemma is that posts like these are not about asking for help like me or so many other people have done but to instead to justify their degeneracy and expect others to uphold that. This forum is about breaking free of addiction and other problems that have come along with it, not to flaunt your fucked up mentality. I´ll leave my 2cents and leave it at that.
     
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  18. AtomicTango

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    I mean he agreed with me when I said it earlier in the thread.

    How do you know they arent about asking for help? Isn't the original post asking for help? It kinda seems to me like you may be attributing a faulty motive here.
     
  19. @AtomicTango I appreciate you trying to wrangle this thread back on topic, but I don't know if that's possible now. Besides, I've gotten all the help I needed from you and others. At this point I'm just throwing shit at people whose arguments I don't like.

    I don't think that sex with female partners is as discouraged on this site as you say it is. And the desire to engage in sex with female partners is certainly not shamed the way I have been shamed for expressing my sexual desires. But that's a fact I'm willing to live with, and I guess I'll have to make my own decisions.
     
  20. AtomicTango

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    I can relate, getting into arguments with people online is almost addictive, I've done it too many times to call people out for it.

    You are probably right, I'm just being hyperbolic to make the point.
     

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