Something’s gotta give

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KingsFan83

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Greetings, Fapstronauts!
I’m male, 35 years old in April and here for the same reason as all of you, I guess: PMO has dictated (no pun intended,) my life for far too long, and I’m desperate. I’ve been masturbating since I was a kid, before I even knew what it was, and It’s never really slowed down since. But now I’m halfway through my 30s and I find myself at a crossroads. My health has been a mess, always either fatigued or panicked-usually both, and I never have the motivation to do anything anymore. Work is a struggle, personal relationships are strained, and I’m just a mess. I know that fapping isn’t the only reason, but I feel that it’s a key element in my decline. I’m here because I’m tired of it and I want to get my life back. I look forward to this journey and I hope that rebooting will give me the kick that I desperately need.
 
KingsFan83 said:
Greetings, Fapstronauts!
I’m male, 35 years old in April and here for the same reason as all of you, I guess: PMO has dictated (no pun intended,) my life for far too long, and I’m desperate. I’ve been masturbating since I was a kid, before I even knew what it was, and It’s never really slowed down since. But now I’m halfway through my 30s and I find myself at a crossroads. My health has been a mess, always either fatigued or panicked-usually both, and I never have the motivation to do anything anymore. Work is a struggle, personal relationships are strained, and I’m just a mess. I know that fapping isn’t the only reason, but I feel that it’s a key element in my decline. I’m here because I’m tired of it and I want to get my life back. I look forward to this journey and I hope that rebooting will give me the kick that I desperately need.
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Welcome! I'm glad you're here. Keep coming back!
 
Welcome. Glad you are here.

Take some time to read the reboot material and come up with a plan for what you will do when you are faced with urges. It has good advice, so don't skip it! :)

Perhaps start writing a journal - if you feel comfortable telling people about happened and what's going on now, you will start to feel accountable to them. You may even inspire others. It's a nice feeling! This will help your recovery.

Also, try to add something into your life that makes you the kind of person who doesn't engage in PMO. Think about doing:
Something you enjoy
Something you're good at
Something important
Something for somebody else, without thought of reward (and if you DO get an unintended reward, do something ELSE, perhaps for a different person or group).

Read the journals of others - we all learn from each other. For example, I received the above good advice from a far more experienced member of the community who shared his knowledge. Don't just stay within your own age group or part of the world. Share your knowledge in a respectful way. Read, learn, apply.

Look around the forums, get to know people. Everyone is friendly, and will try to support you. We're all in the same boat here. :)

Be kind to others and others will be kind to you, both here and IRL.

I wish you a successful reboot, and congratulations of 4 days clean!
 
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