Something messed up

Discussion in 'Accountability Partners' started by DestinedToBe, Mar 31, 2019.

  1. DestinedToBe

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    There is something bothering me,my desires are messed up like fuck
    My mom had passed away when i was 6(i'm currently 21), and i'm currently on no pmo for 68 days, but that doesn't deal with my weird desires and fantasies, (basically i have a foot fetish) but that's ok...its not our problem here, the problem is my ultimate fantasy is being my mother's slave(not my real mother.. Just imagining a hot one) and being young as fuck(for example i'd be 10-12) please someone tell me how can i eradicate such feelings and fantasies.. Cause not only they ain't do-able.. They are messed up as fuck... Any help please?
     
  2. It's not easy but for right now try not to dwell on it. Focus on healing and staying away from PMO, give your mind time to heal and then see where you are. Many things can be porn induced and will start to fade after time in being away from it.
     
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    i also agree but the thing is it's what makes me think about sexual stuff all day, cant escape the idea
     
  4. This is normal early in recovery. Make sure you have new things to keep your mind and hands busy until you get morr stable.
     
  5. DestinedToBe

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    ok..thank you :)
     
  6. stands to reason

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    Without God, I will not attempt to say to you anything can help you. Drugs will only harm you. Asking for help from the majority will not help you. This is sin, and only God, through His Son, Jesus Christ, can help you. He's already died for us, so, he's paid the price of your death for what you are doing. Accept His sacrifice for your sinful behavior and go to Him. Take heed, you can get this to stop this. You must be sincere. You must not touch yourself or give into the temptation to sin. It will first start in your heart to clean the carnal flesh; clean your mind. That is where your spiritual battle is. The mind. The things you entertain. The sinful things you think on. What you allow God will allow (up to a point.) If you really want help, you must do what God says.

    This cannot be taken care of with mind-over-matter. Willpower has no recourse in any of this. You are dealing with an unregenerate mind. This is dangerous, and this is NOT normal if one remains in the torment of it. If this was normal, why would you ever believe or acknowledge that sin is deadly? Every one who ever lived, has sinned. Some, like my self are forgiven of their sins, and no longer practice them. Don't be deceived fellows. For the wages of sin is death; but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord. You have allowed trouble in from the demonic realm. The thief cometh not, but for to steal, and to kill, and to destroy: I am come that they might have life, and that they might have it more abundantly. These demons now have legal entrance into your mind. Your body is darkness. Pray to God. Believe in your heart that Jesus is come in the flesh, and confess Him to be Lord and Savior. Make Him your Lord and Savior. Clean your mind. Repent of your sins. The light of the body is the eye: if therefore thine eye be single, thy whole body shall be full of light. But if thine eye be evil, thy whole body shall be full of darkness. If therefore the light that is in thee be darkness, how great is that darkness! Call upon Jesus.

    Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things.

    In deed and truth, I wish you healing.
     
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  7. DestinedToBe

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    I hope i can get rod of'em one day
     
  8. stands to reason

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    HOPE can be your starting point. Your beginning. But you do not have much time. Hope you listen to your warning. Because of America's sin as a whole, we as a nation, we've almost run out of time. America will fall soon. Prepare you soul, while you might still have a chance. Repent.

    Now faith is the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen. What does it profit, my brethren, if someone says he has faith but does not have works? Can faith save him? Dear DestinedToBe, you have plenty of knowledge before you to walk away from your sexual sin victoriously. This will take you time, energy, and courage.

    Strengthen your resolve.
     
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  9. Even if there is god I don’t think the mentioned approach is the right one.
    I believe you’re trying your best and you’re here and it’s neither comfortable nor pleasant to open up for you.
    I disagree with the previous posts. They are written to create fear and guilt and shame and that’s never the right approach and makes things only worse. Words like fear darkness and demons evil sin... are so wrong.
    It may be unhealthy or strongly biased or even Ill but what’s evil or demonic about it? The only person you hurt is your self.
    More important in this manner it’s not gods or jesus‘ approach. There is no love in it.
     
  10. stands to reason

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    If you believed what Jesus is saying with His words, you might 'hear' His love for you. Jesus said, for the wages of sin is death; but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord. If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us [our] sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.

    I want that kind of love, for all of eternity.
     
  11. DestinedToBe

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    Yeah i know,im gonna always do my best
     
  12. DestinedToBe

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    I agree with what u say about words of fear are unhealthy, but i still believe in Jesus, and i dont fear him, i fear his absence, Take this as an example, if you love someone you fear him getting sad, mad, etc.. You dont fear him cause he's scary or he's gonna leave you... You just wanna be with them
    Jesus is not a punisher(as you noticed i always said "not what jesus wants") so that's how it is.. We love him so we fear his absence not himself
     
  13. Isn’t saying you fear his absence not himself almost the same?
    It’s like you say you want to be good because you fear his absence not because it’s the right thing to be good. Also his absence is just a different kind of punishment.
    Everyone has to find his or her path. Good luck
     
  14. DestinedToBe

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    I dont know why this has turned into a conversation about God's presence, but if we're talking about, is fearing your wife absence the same as fearing her, is fearing to make something that would hurt her that same as fearing her (i dont think so) if u still dont see a difference then you obviously haven't loved anyone before.
    And i never said i dont want to be good, you can do both.. be good and do what makes your relationship better with God
    Just as not cheating on your wife.. You do it cause it's what is right and so as not to hurt her feelings, not to lose her.
    I do hate the idea that i'm actually comparing our relationship with God to that with a wife cause God has much more love to us than our wifes do.
    I hope you find peace in your life and in your relationship with God
     
  15. You’re right. Thx.
    With god on your side it will be easy to get rid of those fantasy’s. If you believe in god you’ll get your help if you’re worthy of it.
     
  16. DestinedToBe

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    If you believe that God has such power to help me why not ask for his help yourself☺️
     
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    Nothing to be ashamed of. Send me a message if you want to chat more.
     

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