Soon to be 40 year old virgin, failed as a man, what am I??

With porn i dont think things will change,it seems you are still in it,your mind is your weapon in fighting pmo,never loose hope,just abstain for 2 years,and then assess,also try to know and share your experience with other nofappers in your area,make a team and see a urologist,psychologist,and sex therapist,if you are religious see your religious leader,
Remember that we>me getting connected with others might help
Stp890

 

I don't give a damn about what it means and what it not means about being a virgin (I'm 36 y/o virgin).

What's killing me slowly is that i've missed out on so much FUN. Sexual fun no fucking less!

You only live once and I've fucked it up big time. Don't underestimate how depressing and soul crushing it is to look back on your life and miss out on young love/sex - it clearly is a different experience from love/sex in mid-age and obviously older age. And it (young love/sex), for us older virgins, will never ever have the opportunity to rectify!

You only live once is truly one of the most soul crushing phrases I hear.

 

I hear you.

The time lost. The life phases that you will never recuperate. Sometimes they weight on me too. I'm 34 and a virgin. The worst of it is that I had the opportunities but I avoided intimacy due to lack of self-esteem, anxiety and porn. Also from bad experiences in childhood regarding affection and my parents. On top of that I have a below average size so it doesn't help.

So, what are you working on? I myself started theater class this year with a majority of females. It has helped me with my fear of ridicule, with expressing emotions and overall flexibility. I'm also planning to get dancing classes. I try to keep in a moderately good shape too.

Seeing we are on similar situations we may benefit from the exchange of information so feel free to message me.

I hope the original poster has looked for help. Depression can be crushing, so you need to deal with that before anything else.

 

27yo virgin here.
Dude, I probably envy you cause you seem a good man.
Here there's a guy who lost time in porn and cybersex, anonymous groups, exhibitionism and voyeurism.
I would have preferred to be more less obsessed with sex and carry on relationships with others, boys or girls.
That's the only thing that counts.
I'll go on church, I'll improve my

 

Sorry for the 2nd mex.
I see now that account is deleted, but my last mex is for everyone who feel like this.