I am a 28 yo virgin. Main is reason is because I've always been introverted without friends and I had low self-esteem. I think my self-esteem is much better now. Things like having jobs, working out, ageing, etc, increase confidence and self-esteem. I am trying nofap to increase my will power and get rid of porn shit. I feel like this is my current main goal in life. Then I will try to improve my skills with women (I literally have 0 skills with women but this doesn't bother me) What bothers me is that I see online (this forum, reddit, 4chan, whatever) many guys saying that it is so hard to find girls. I always get a bit discouraged and depressed when I read their stories. If they are in their early 20's and can't get girls, how will I do better than them? Really, their stories are so discouraging and kill my motivation. I know that they are just asking for help and sometimes letting it off their chest, but... Then what I see in reality is different. Example: I have this two family members. One 27 and other 32. The 27 one went to a new town. He didn't have friends there. Only a low paying job. And in just two months he found a gf. Then they broke up, and like two months later he had a new gf. I don't think he is good looking. He doesn't have a great job. And he doesn't have a lot of money. And still he managed to have two gf's in a space of 3-4 months in a new town. The 32 one went abroad to UK to do a PhD on something. The guy was single for a long time. And he found a british girlfriend there. Both these guys found gf's in situations where they were lonely. I also know some "friends" (they are not real friends, just people that I talk once a year or something, I have 0 real friends as well) that are like this. They make it look so easy to have a gf. Do you know what some of them think of me? They think I am gay. Not a loser or a failure. But simply gay because I never had a gf. On their mind having a gf is so easy that only gay people won't have one. Other thing about incels and some people on this forum. They say that pretty girls just want very good-looking guys and so on and so forth. Then why on earth I see many guys that aren't that good-looking with pretty girls? Really, I would like to understand these people (incels). And I am fucking 28 yo virgin. So, what am I missing here? Why some guys make it look so simple? If it is not the looks, the money, what it is? As far as I know, these people aren't gurus, they are not super charming or super clever. They are not rich. I am sorry for my English and If I was a bit aggressive with my words. Not my intention to offend anyone.