Hi. I've worked up a pretty decent streak but I have a problem. My porn use predates my relationship with my wife. It has nothing to do with her, but it's easy for her to blame herself because she always does with everything. Likewise, her body image issues predate our relationship, but her learning I abused porn didn't help. She regularly indicates other women saying, "if I looked like that you would love me more." How the hell does a person respond to that? Of course I deny it, but my credibility is in the sewer for obvious reasons, not that it matters because she said the same things before she knew I was addicted anyway. She didn't believe me then, either. She has her own problems and I know I can't fix them, any more than she could have fixed mine, but I want to help. Should I encourage and support her when she talks about diets and exercise programs, or should I slap that quinoa out of her hand and give her a quart of Ben & Jerry's because dammit, she's beautiful the way she is? How do I regain her trust? What do I do?