In our home, I am the only one with access to fb. No other social media is allowed. Honestly I hate fb with passion, I’m tired of seeing psubs on it all the time. But it’s the only way to see things from local groups that kids need and to get support for our child with special needs. My husband is currently (even though I don’t like it) having to use linkedin for job searching. The kids are on devices for certain school things, but we have the internet mostly restricted to very specific sites. We tried to be more liberal with our oldest and she still got around some of it potentially putting herself at risk and is now locked back down while she is rebuilding trust and taking more specific internet safety instruction. Otherwise we save disney+ and switch as rewards for completing school and doing chores. They are currently on a break from it and I’m honestly pondering how to lessen it as much as possible because they clearly have meltdowns after having had it at all even a little bit. We’re quickly seeing that it is just too much for them having the ability to switch to something new if they don’t like the show they are in, so we’ve started having them vote on the 1 option for the night and if they get bored they are out of luck. All that said, I keep threatening to become Amish. I think I’m going to order Jonathan Haidt’s The Anxious Generation to bolster some of my decisions.
Real Jerry Seinfeld
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My children are still tiny, it's not really an issue yet. They get ICT lessons at school and should they need to do homework on a computer at home, they can use the family computer, which is in full sight of everyone else.
I think the rationale that some have (not saying you have this) is that you need to have a tablet or smartphone from a young age to be able to keep up with the demands of technology in the workplace. But tablets and smartphones don't actually teach you that. They're very intuitive and require basically no technological expertise to use. You could use one everyday and not learn how to reply to an email or edit a word document.
Psalm27:1my light
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No, I’m thinking teens is early enough anything younger isn’t needed. More climbing trees and exploring when they are young.
Sanitarium
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Found a recommendation yesterday in another thread here on NoFap of a podcast on youtube, it's 2 hours long, but very insightful about dopamine. Helps me to explain to myself a lot of things I could not before. Also helps to understand how social media use is not much different from any other addiction.
here is the title: "Dr. Anna Lembke: Understanding & Treating Addiction"
taken from here:
PAWS have faded massively but swinging between healed/flatlines
here is the title: "Dr. Anna Lembke: Understanding & Treating Addiction"
taken from here:
PAWS have faded massively but swinging between healed/flatlines
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EchoesOfFloyd
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That’s great, thanks for sharing such useful videos man!
Mine are 5, 8 and 10. They have a huge dopamine problem already.
Psalm27:1my light
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One thing we do ( still!) is play board games.,rubicube clue, munchkin. At the end of each game, the winner has to say something they like/nice about everyone playing. We play for hours every day. My kids now bring their boyfriends/girlfriends over to play on their days off. It’s very fulfilling.
We have away made it a point to talk to them about health, wellness spirituality (they go to LDS church with dad) and with us we do educate them on our beliefs and what they mean as well as different cultures and religions. I want them to find god or gods or have a spiritual connection to the universe is the way that feels most natural to them. We have always taught materialism is bad, connection is good. Activities are good, tv/movies are fake. It’s a new thing to remove all devices. I read a lot on screen time and the dangers. But I guess didn’t take it seriously as it 100% is an addiction that I am dealing with. But I do find value in that I am going through these things. It gives me perspective and experience, wisdom. Without getting the dopamine behaviors out oh control it seems any behavior linked to self control will be compromised. They are having a rough time because of the switch and because at their dads they pretty much get whatever they want. Lazy parenting. He keeps them happy with new toys, candy, junk food, video games (VR) and slows them on YouTube and TikTok. They don’t have a grasp of real life at all. Anything that causes slight discomfort or boredom sends them into a full meltdown. My son loves his long hard but crying and screaming every morning and night when it’s brushed. I’m not forcefully brushing. I’m being as gentle as I possibly can. He 8. He should know that’s what it feels like and just know it’s something he has to do and deal with if he wants long hair. But every time is like the first time. He doesn’t grasp the concept of discomfort. They don’t grasp the concept of boardroom. Things that I found interesting and entertaining are “boring” to them. It’s like an uphill battle in quick sand. I don’t spoil them. They have always been taught these concepts. But I think the everything on demand did way more damage than I could have imagined. I see it fully. I just hope my part, my teaching is enough.