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Space Marine February - Team Deathmatch (CLOSED)

Discussion in 'Events & Challenges' started by EndPornLiveLife, Jan 27, 2021.

I pledge my allegiance to the...

Poll closed Feb 6, 2021.
  1. Space Wolves

    38.7%
  2. Black Templars

    22.6%
  3. Dark Angels

    19.4%
  4. Blood Angels

    19.4%
  1. Sorry! @EndPornLiveLife and @Sebbrix.:(
    I Am shit!:mad: , For the last 2 days I was binging anime for 3-4 hours and today I watched it till 3 AM! I am telling this because this is connected with My NoFap journey and My journey of breaking my bad habits and do things that will help Me become "THAT(what I want)". I came to find that whenever I watch anime or edge it, I slowly fall into bingeing even after two days of edging and the bad habits like eating nails, etc.(Many Many More) starts taking over me and perform the bad habits unintendedly. And PMO, from the last three days my urges skyrocketed:eek: from "incomprehensible" level to "devouring me" level because of anxiety from bingeing and work that's left because of binging along with the dilemma of cutting bad habits or Dopamine!

    Can you suggest to me something to break a bad habit that comes from overthinking or negative thinking. Whenever I feel the urge to binge it becomes a dilemma and I had to choose between true life to 8hr life(Binging and getting dopamine to get rid of that feeling), and I had to choose the 8hr life of dopamine to get rid of anxiety and uncomfortable sensations.

    That ticks me off, it makes me think again and again "Am I an animal, I can't even control myself". Fuck it! I want the essence of MY life. I forgot to tell you guys that I am gonna reset my daily counter on the 25th of Feb and start NoFap Hard Mode because of my personal rules of not edging, imagining, No SEX!! (Yes, personal reasons as I don't wanna waste my time and live without regret in respect to TIME!)
    HELP ME PLEASE.............(it can also include Netflix or yt binging as I think that I could resolve noAnime to yt Etc.)
    HELLPPPP>>>>... :rolleyes:
     
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  2. GottaBFree

    GottaBFree Fapstronaut

    Do you have healthy hobbies? You can't just not do something, you need to replace it with something better.
     
  3. I am a psychology novice :), so what I say may or may not carry a lot of weight. I think one of the sources of your current predicament may be what they call Automatic Negative Thoughts in Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT). I think you need to take care of your thinking. You seem to be engaging in all or nothing thinking where everything is black or white and there are no grey areas. Basically some sort of perfectionism. This is a problem for most of us addicts because we want this problem gone by yesterday. All I can do is suggest this worksheet to help you along with your negative thinking and hopefully put things into perspective.

    https://positivepsychology.com/wp-c...g-Rid-of-ANTS-Automatic-Negative-Thoughts.pdf

    Based on information in the worksheet, you can try changing the way you think slowly by slowly when confronted with negative thoughts which are in absolute terms. For example, you said 'I can't even control myself'. That statement is in absolute terms. But that statement is false. You have had control in the past. However, we know as humans we will face more anxiety-inducing events in the future some of which will be novel such as COVID and we will fail to deal with them effectively at least in the initial stages. This is just the reality. How about reframing that statement to 'I could not control myself this time because I was really anxious. I have had control before/in the past and I am sure with better preparation and gaining more knowledge I will deal with the next anxiety episode better'. So in essence, it is about improving and not perfection. These are just suggestions that have helped me in the past.
     
  4. Checking in for Blood Angels.

    Yeah after every wetdream there is big question mark on whether you are doing this semen retention the right way? And that makes you doubt yourself a lot more.
    I worry less about chaser effect, the thought about losing the progress troubles me more.
     
  5. Checking in for Blood Angels. I have been ultra-productive the last three days it is unbelievable this is me.
     
  6. Sebbrix

    Sebbrix Fapstronaut

    Like @GottaBFree said, not doing something is not the same as doing something else. Ask yourself where you want to be in 10 years time, wonder how you could achieve that in 6 months, then see if you feel like sitting and watching anime. There's a great book called "The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People" by Stephen Covey which puts, as its first two rules for life, "Be proactive" and "Begin with the end in mind" - these are the basis for the 'can you achieve 10 years in 6 months', and I cannot recommend those two habits highly enough.

    So now I'm going to make you uncomfortable, after all, they say that comfort is the enemy of progress. Why are you waiting until the 25th to start hard mode? It sounds to me like you're setting yourself up to fail before then and procrastinating getting shit done. In the words of Bob Newhart, "STOP IT!". Do you want to do NoFap on hard mode? Then start today and don't beat about the bush!

    When I meditate I try to keep my mind empty, or on track. When I drift from that state, I don't beat myself up about it - perfection is impossible, I just need to be good enough, and I need to be better than my past self. When you catch yourself having fantasies, just calmly acknowledge them, and then dispel them and retrain your mind on what you were trying to do. Do the same with physical actions too; if you catch yourself watching anime, think about the future and ask the 6 month question.

    It sounds to me like you're beating yourself up and getting angry every time you fuck up, but that then drives you to seek out more dopamine and it becomes a vicious cycle. So stop. Rather than regretting the past, focus on the future and learn from your mistakes.

    I'm not under any illusion that these things are easy to work into your day-to-day life; they aren't, and you will fail with these thoughts again and again. But every time you fail you should remember the last point I made and drive yourself forwards.

    Motivation is only temporary and shouldn't be the only state in which you're the person you want to be. Motivation should, instead, be used to fix the other states to ensure that you are the person you want to be no matter what happens.
     
  7. ToMMy.H

    ToMMy.H Fapstronaut

    @Sebbrix @Gonarth well said! Good stuff.

    Motivation is acrually useless. Its just temporary. Everytime. For making progress you need to be consistent. So its very important to stick to the must do stuff even and ESPECIALLY when you dont feel like it.

    Most important is to know the reason and thats the only way we push trough even through the hard times.
     
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  8. Everydayisday0

    Everydayisday0 Fapstronaut

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    Checking in, Day 12/28, Space Wolves.
     
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    @EndPornLiveLife I must sadly report my fall. The Warp hasn't been kind to me this month.
    I will take some time off the forum to just focus on myself, on my inner peace and on new ways to deal with PMO. I need to stay away from digital devices, social media and so on as much as I can for a couple of days.

    Wish best luck to all the battle-brothers and sisters. Thank you for the support.
     
  10. About to finish the scound book of the eisenhorn series^^
     
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  11. Checking in for the Black Templars!
    Don't worry, you are doing NoFap the right way! Wet dreams are a natural occurence, and totally involuntary. Your body might struggle a bit with the effects, but your brain hasn't lost any of its rebooting progress.
     
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  12. ToMMy.H

    ToMMy.H Fapstronaut

    Checking in Dark Angels!

    I am not so happy with myself last couple of days.
    I am getting sloppy more and more.
    In the morning played with my fantasies too much and engaged in them with little edging.
    Again was disciplined enough to stop, but my goal is not to start with that at all.

    btw. bumped into great netflix conedy series with Ricky Gervais called After Life
     
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  13. Sebbrix

    Sebbrix Fapstronaut

    Checking in day 13 for the Blood Angels

    Sorry to hear that Magnus, but please don't disappear - we need your memes to stay sane as we try to capture the fridge!
     
  14. Newmanatee

    Newmanatee Fapstronaut

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    I've got to unfortunately report a relapse marines. After a really solid 14 day streak, some huge stress in my personal and academic life completely swamped me and I gave in one night. I've been stuck in a cycle for a couple of days but I'm hopefully pulling my way out of it now. Planning to start the streak right back up where I left off and come into March with a good lead!
     
  15. Hey @Gonarth!
    I've filled the "getting rid of ANTS" worksheet. 2021-02-13 (2).png
    I've come up many times with these types of ANTS worksheets which we call "Deceptive Brain Messages" in the book "You Are Not Your Brain", But in those worksheets, there was no column for the solution so YOUR worksheet was unique and helped me to what to do when I face those.
    Hey! @Sebbrix I've settled that shit! As you could see now, I'm on day zero NoFap Hard mode and this is not only just Nofap Hard Mode but also Controlling myself, no Binging, no edging(porn or anime). Today I vow not to -do PMO, Binging, edging, Losing control of myself, giving up to Deceptive Thoughts AND to do Meditation daily(started today), daily running(started 5 days ago but was not regular), daily coming on NoFap, daily reading for at least 1 hr, training myself to go on even without motivation or hope, if having hard times, share with you all and with people around me, NOT GIVING UP!! in any deceptive thought by replacing the ANTs(automatic negative thoughts) with Adaptive Thoughts and believing in them.

    Thanks! @Sebbrix for making me uncomfortable, But you showed me the reality!
     
  16. Checking In for Blood Angels.

    I have been travelling since last 36+hours and I don't feel tired. Maybe it was all in my head that WD will have disastrous effect on me. I had a lot of wetdreams during this streak so I am somewhat scared of getting another one.
     
  17. ToMMy.H

    ToMMy.H Fapstronaut

    @Newmanatee sorry to hear that but 14days is great run! Lets go for another one, longer one!

    I feel like relapse is super close.
    Even tho I can say urges are little less intense. But I am no longer so disciplined as on the beginning.
    I spent more time with random browsing. News provided a lot of dangerous pictures.
    Why the fuck I am even doing that?
    Yes, my willpower muscles are stronger so I can take a look without the same danger as at the beginning, but it doesnt make sense.
    Everytime I had longer streak the steps toward relapse started like this.
    Need to get my shit together.

    No fucking edging in next days!
    No random browsing!
    Respect yourself!
    Respect your penis health!
    Its true. If you keep proning at some point it will be the only thing you can do.
    And dont forget about the fantasies, it will only get worse.
    You need to stop now.
    Just fucking stop! And do something worthwhile.

    Really scared of tommorow morning.
    Going to do meditation without phone so I can leave it outside of the room.
     
  18. Everydayisday0

    Everydayisday0 Fapstronaut

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    Checking in, Day 13/28, Space Wolves.
     
  19. Check in, Dark Angels! Going to try doing this daily now.
     

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