Speculation about nofap

Was it 60 days without porn? Have you been to yourbrainonporn.com etc?

 

I agree that there are some silly ass claims made on this forum, but fact of the matter is, it is an addiction for a lot of people. Whatever support is available helps.

I'm also on the side that MO and even PMO isn't really all that bad - in moderation. Unfortunately for myself, it becomes a daily habit, even more. And maybe that isn't all that bad either, but it's a habit nonetheless.

I hope to see some of the benefits some people claim. But I won't pretend to have any serious expectations. My confidence with women is already pretty good, I'm a productive person, and I've got my life together pretty well.

And still, a little self discipline couldn't hurt. Honestly I am addicted to porn - I've developed this habit a long time ago. So this forum helps, but I'm with you on the claims and whatnot.

Sorry for the lack of facts but I do think yourbrainonporn is a good resource.

 

It all depends on you man. For a while I was completely pmo free and slowly started incorporating porn back into my life. At one point I found "equilibrium" and functioned wonderfully while pmoing once or twice a week. Before I knew it, something in my brain switched and I became the monster I worked so hard to destroy when I embarked on this journey. Some people are just fine with porn in their lives. For me, not only does it turn me into someone I want to steer very far from, but porn is such bullshit once the veil is removed. So fake and unrealistic. It's something I no longer believe in or want to watch.
Excellent example would be when I thought the WWF was super real. It was so captivating and got my heart pumping. Then I realized ALL of it was fake and I never looked back.
Porn is no different. Actually, it's disgusting. It will never help you. Only waste your time and bodily fluid. For all those reasons, I don't care if at some point I can function just fine with it, it's useless shit I don't need to incorporate in my life.
Do your thing man, it's your life and your perspective. Who cares what we think.

 

@BlueNotes I didn't mean to insult you man. I do care what everyone here thinks but I am personally a very pragmatic person. There's no way you can tell me I'm going to start growing a beard because I'm not pmo'ing - and yes I've heard that in here.

None of us are doctors or therapists, we're just here to support each other through our recovery fromself destructive behaviors. Like I said, I'd love to see some benefits, but I'm still going to take what I read here with a grain of salt.

Anyway, I'd like to help you help yourself, and spread some discipline karma around here. Sorry again if I insulted you or some of the ideas here. I do agree that p is fake, and I'm aware of this, but I'm still (nearly) hopelessly drawn to the women, and their form, especially as they are displayed throughout the p community.

That does help me get through tonight at least. Thanks.

 

Saying that PMO isn't too bad in moderation is not an appropriate message for a porn recovery forum. You acknowledge that you have not been doing it in moderation (daily in fact), but you add, "maybe that isn't all that bad either"! It could be that you are simply blinded by your addiction to masturbation and porn. However, please keep these thoughts to yourself.

 

You're probably right. And I will try to control these thoughts, in addition to not sharing them on this forum.

Having a rough night I'm sorry.

 

Reboot

 

Congratulations! 60 days is awesome! Thats a great score to beat!

I would like to point out that your faith is misplaced. No amount of faith in someone else is going to help you deal with your inner demons. Its only your own self discipline and determination that will allow you to reach your goals. It is our dependence on M in all its forms that interferers with us leading a healthy fulfilling life.

Just like kicking the habit of relying on M as an emotional crutch, so we also need to kick the habit of relying on other people for strength.

Im only new here. I know the damage, physical, emotional and chemical, I have incurred from PMO. I am therefore aware of the good abstinence is having on my life. I dont need anyone to reassure me. With that said, I really find nofap an invaluable source of genuine insights into the experiences others are having while undertaking their own personal journeys. Sure, not all of it might be true, and some might be exaggerated, but that is a part of life. Dont throw the baby out with the bath water and, in the process, deprive yourself of a powerful tool in your battle with PMO.

 

I wasn't insulted at all man. All I was trying to say was do your thing and do what works for you. Yea and who can blame you for being captivated by the female form especially the way it's presented in porn. Use your frontal lobes and look past that. That's exactly how they want you to veiw women. Like pieces of meat for your viewing pleasure. You gotta shift your perception brotha. Good luck

 

Well I also think it is about the discipline. And about the fact, that fapping to porn is not real. The persons you watch are not real. They are just images on a screen (for all I know they could be CGI). Sure there are a lot of people who do not have a problem with watching porn, but they are not here on NoFap. And for the others: I think most of us are trying to fight an addiction because we do not want to be enslaved by something fictional. To say it with The Libertines (lyrics to the song Barbarians): The world's fcked but it won't get me down....

 

There are serious scientifics studies on yourbrainonporn.com. Nofap is changing in us, it's objective.
But the question cause the problem: is that nofap change us at the point where we can feel it and profit it ?
Or is it just a little change, a little issue ?

I think we're all hoping that we're not doing nofap for nothing. We're all expecting some reward from quitting PMO.
And if we're expecting, it's because some guys who've quit pmo tolds us that it's an incroyable experience.
There's no smoke without fire.

Personnaly, if after quitting pmo for real i don't feel any change with before.. I will certainly return to it. After all why stop it if it's just to stop it ?
But that's it i think nofap is, at least, an important ingredient in the recipe of a radiant life.

 

One only has to read the Newbie section daily to see that PMO is a problem. One as young as 14 signed on today .. Rather them sign on now and conquer the demons they are already facing than let it consume them for 32 years half a lifetime like me and many others here.

high speed internet porn is a bottomless pit of filth... period. and if after education you can masturbate to that again there is something not right.

 

I agree about the whole beard thing. Stopping PMO isn't going to help you grow a beard. What I do think it helps with is for us to connect with real woman. Why are all these young guys experiencing ED? Because porn rewired their brain like me. I'm doing this to have a better sex with my girlfriend and to help my erections. That's the main thing I think this helps with. There has been way to many people to find benefits in that area to say it doesn't work. What are you expecting out of this? What's your reason for it? I don't believe in all the hype about growing better facial hair and all that wacky stuff. But I do believe in pies and such.

 

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