Sperm retention is myth or at best not whole truth

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You simply are having an ego trip so you think no damage has been done. Keep it up and you'll find out quickly whether sperm retention is real or not..

 

There is a difference between an orgasm caused by sex and those caused by masturbation. I am sure you’re feeling the difference. Even I notice that I don’t feel so bad if I accidentally release during sex in my marital relationship even though I believe I have POIS so overall I work to retain even in marriage

 

There is a difference emotionally, but not physically.

 

They did a study showing different chemical release between sex release and masturbation I think prolactin was 400 percent greater from the sex release. I can’t access internet to look it up but it’s there if you look that up. Not saying yea or nay on should you release it’s an individual thing but most do seem to find that a release from sex doesn’t put one down as badly

 

I don't care about studies, the body is magnitudes more complicated than "prolactin." Releasing from sex makes you feel better about yourself emotionally, but the physical effects of releasing will remain the same. Release from sex as often as you release from masturbation and you'll end up in the exact same hole. If you think there's a difference, tell me what nutrients and minerals in semen are conserved when you release from sex instead of masturbation? And what energy is conserved? Just look at this guy, he thinks he's a hero because he's fooling around with a bunch of women. Been there, done that. He's content with releasing because he's accomplished his childish goal of having sex with random women. Now if he actually had real goals and yet was releasing via sex all the time, he would not feel so good about himself.

 

a sign of healing from what?

You say I know nothing about your goals but then 2 sentences later mention how you think you've accomplished something because girls are "flocking" to you. Your status talks about "juggling 4 girlfriends." I'm not pulling anything out of my ass. You've made it clear what your priorities are in life.

You're good for a laugh, thats for sure. You think doing nofap is easy when you've had sex 20 times in 17 days? Do you realize that fapping is simply a substitute for sex?

 

You can have sex without ejaculating.

 

I’m not a believer in semen retention, but I will say I’ve been to sexaholics anonymous meetings before and those taught me that transferring from being a porn addict to a hook-up/sex addict isn’t a sign of success. While a lot of those guys had no problem getting laid each night, that didn’t ultimately fulfill them since there was no love in that type of life; Sadly, their addiction to sex crippled their ability to maintain a loving relationship. Sure their sexual conquests put notches on their belts and, at times, stds on their medical charts, but it never helped them grow in communication, trust, intimacy, or the ability to be vulnerable with another person; the four important pillars of a loving relationship.

Just make sure you’re not exchanging one level of hell for another.

 

That's exactly what he's doing. Although you spoke primarily in regards to how it affects your ability to form proper relationships. The truth is that being a sex addict harms you in many other aspects of life than just that. Believe it or not, as you did kind of point out, pmo addiction and sex addiction are the exact same things. And why exactly is it that you arent a "believer" in semen retention?

 

Primarily I was referencing how the life of a porn/masturbation/sex addict is a loveless one; this then ends up impacting a persons ability to have and maintain a healthy loving relationship.

I don’t want to get into a discussion of why I don’t believe in semen retention nor do I want to to debate it. Suffice to say, I believe in the virtue of chastity and I hold this belief based on religious/theological reasons. We can leave it at that.

 

Yea never would I say that having casual sex all The time is better than masturbating. I believe the bonding hormones released during sex are designed to attach you emotionally to another person whom you are faithful to. If you don’t you are violating the laws of Nature and Gods laws

 

Then get out of the semen retention and abstinence section. This is specifically for those discussions. I find it pretty pathetic that you aren’t willing to have a conversation about it.

 

are AA a good group? Some guys told me theyre "cultish"...but they are actually a good system and groups?

 

It can be hit or miss in terms of the quality of group. Sometimes the people in group talk too much about their problem instead of the solution and you end up leaving group with new ideas on how to fall instead of thrive; thankfully most groups frown on that but it can be difficult when you find the group that doesn’t care. At the end of the day my issue with the program was their view on “your higher power”. The program purposely is vague on who or what “higher power” is in order to be more inclusive. I think being vague on this point is a key issue that keeps addicts in a stage of managing their addiction rather than being healed of their addiction, since it tends more towards worshipping a “higher power” which is just you. Anyway, just my two cents on that.