SSA Christian Men

For Fapstronauts who are disciples of Christ

  1. Zombro

    Zombro Fapstronaut

    Is there a way to connect with others sharing our common struggle in this forum?
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  2. Zombro

    Zombro Fapstronaut

    My story is that i have struggle with same-sex attraction since i first felt sexual attraction. I have been to the "ex-gay" groups which were of limited helpfulness, although they were instrumental in allowing me to gradually be more open about my struggle and to be released from the shame I felt about the issue. Being in the church, I am accepted and my struggles known to most that know me, and I can feel a full part of the fellowship in spite of the struggle. What is missing, however, is a way to connect with other men who struggle, since most struggle quietly without being known, for obvious reasons. While I get support and validation as a growing Christian, talking about this issue is harder because most men don't know how to deal with it. They are comforting and encouraging, but don't approach this issue, thus i sometimes feel isolated, in spite of the acceptance and support. Perhaps this can be a forum for all of us, whether we get support and can be open on this issue or whether we are on the opposite end of that. Would like to be an encouragement for us all.
  3. st831

    st831 Fapstronaut

    I get it. definitely always had a curiosity. I believe because I grew up in church. They taught no sex or sexual thoughts until marriage. This left me thinking I was the only person in the world that had the "dirty" secret of masturbation. I think that curiosity turned into a fascination with other men and their habits--in desperate need of male acceptance. This void is manifest in a SSA. The funny thing, in reality, it doesn't exist. I don't have any actual guys I am turned on by. And when I have close male companionship, this seems to diminish. But it is always in my thoughtlife, fantasy life and porn preference.
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  4. Kale1991

    Kale1991 Fapstronaut

    Hello friend! I definitely understand this longing. I do want to encourage you with this though. I’ve been a part of several ssa Christian groups. While those fill a need for a time, I eventually realize that we have so much in common with men in general than we can see sometimes. This isn’t to discourage you from finding/building a support group for guys like us, just to remind you that many straight guys are also battling many of what we might think are "root problems" leading to ssa...
    Many guys struggle with family relationships, body image issues, self confidence, and many other things. All the while thinking we must be the only ones. Hopefully this isn’t misunderstood. I’m only meaning to encourage you in this fight! Blessings!
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  5. God'sPower

    God'sPower Fapstronaut

    Is there a way we can have a small group of 10 maybe on telegram and basically do life with Christ together
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  6. oretna

    oretna Fapstronaut

    Or whatsapp? Would very much like to join. I cannot but admire how long streaks you have managed! I am 53, live in Finland (Northern Europe), so my day rhythm might not be compatible with your guys'? I think we should be able getting together a group of about 20, otherwise it would too often be unmanned when some of us would need support. Or maybe we could commit ourselves to have shifts and be available during specific hours fixed in advance... just a thought...
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  7. GeeJ

    GeeJ Fapstronaut

    I would love to join a group like this.
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  8. Erwillian0x3F

    Erwillian0x3F Fapstronaut

    I understand that very well. For me it persisted for more than 40 years. In my case, I found freedom after dealing with some spiritual roots that began with my grandfather and great grandfather. Generational baggage of this kind can be very real (IMO). It might be helpful to find someone who can help you pray into that and help you discover if there could be such a cause. There are many ministries out there that do this sort of thing; in my case I found freedom through Ellel Ministries, who have established centers in over 40 different countries.
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