Started NoFap 2018, progress since then (sissy porn user)

Hi all. To see where I started, check out this post:

Am I a Sissy?? (Actually a good story with happy ending, trust me, read the whole thing)

and go through my oldest posts if you like. I got super hooked on sissy porn and similar fetishes starting at 14 years old. I also had extremely debilitating ED which prevented me from having any sort of erection during my first sexual encounters. That was my current state in 2018. I have been on and off NoFap since then, but have continued to use all the resources available on YBOP.

Now that you've seen where I came from, here's an idea of my progress so far. I have not been on NoFap since March or so. Since well before March, I think December last year, I have no struggles at all with urges for porn, compulsive behavior, or sexual dysfunction. I recently have been focusing on my dick too much during sex, which led me to look at some old YBOP articles, which led me back to opening NoFap.

This last year has been a breeze. I haven't even thought about porn or my past fetishes. I got my best grades to date at my elite university, killed it at my summer internship, secured a very good job for when I graduate in May, and my relationship with my girlfriend has never been better. Things are going really well for me right now.

I feel like I want to explain more but my biggest takeaway is this: I haven't used NoFap in months because I have felt no urge or push for porn or any sissy crap. It wasn't even on my mind. For months at a time I completely forgot I used to PMO to sissy porn for 8 hours a day. It's almost as if I was normal.

I would not like congrats, I would like to share that this is achievable for all of you. You can live that life that you want, the life that you don't even know is possible. You can get out of this rut and do cool shit. It will be hard, but it great when you're out. If you have questions about anything between how I started and how I got here I will try to answer, it's been a while since I started, which is easily the hardest part.

Have a good day bros

 

In my first reboot, every day was a struggle, especially in the beginning. It's like taking away meth from an addict, you go through literal withdrawal. Every single day I felt the urge to watch porn. Sometimes I would be super horny, hard as a rock, and I'd have to literally just stay outside my apartment with no phone until I was tired enough to sleep. Other days you feel so unmotivated and low, unable to get out of bed, and some part of you whispers "hey porn always makes us feel good right? let's give it a go, can't hurt".

I still think about PMO and sissy stuff persay, but I have not felt urges in months. I don't know if I'll ever be totally rid of the thoughts, but they're so unintrusive and weak that they don't really bother me at all. They use to completely take up all my mental effort to not act on, but now sissy thoughts reside in the category of "dumb male thoughts", like seeing a squirrel and wanting to chase it, seeing a ball and wanting to kick it, or finding a small rock and thinking of throwing it; you consider all of these for a fraction of a second, and then either just say "um no" or disregard completely. They are completely inconsequential in my life right now.

Things are going well for me, and PMO and sissy porn always tries to get you when you're low, so I will stay vigilant. As of now though, I'm not concerned at all. Maintaining a fulfilling career, social group, romantic life, and physical/mental health is the best preventer of falling back into the rut.

Do it right the first time.

For 90 days, do not seek out or entertain any artificial stimuli and do not sexually stimulate yourself/receive sexual stimulation. THEN, rewire with healthy sexual activity, hopefully continually, but at least until well after proper sexual function is attained.

The first reboot and rewire is the shittiest and hardest part of healing, but it's also the shortest! Your new life begins when you do it right, so do it right the first time! You know the rules, you know yourself, and you know what's at stake. You can have a better life than you can even dream of, or you can continue in this endless cycle of rebooting or porn use.

Recovery takes years, and may even go until you die, but it only starts after a proper reboot. Do it right, and you save yourself a whole lot of time and effort down the road.

This one's tough. There's so many great things, and while I feel like there's so much more for me to learn in my continual journey, I am definitely past the hardest phase and would have remembered the best advice in the past lol.

Ok something that comes up a lot is thinking "does this really matter" when it come to some decision. It may be something obvious, like "should I watch porn or not"; obviously that is a no. But there are more gray scenarios, like "I saw a really hot girl in my friend's insta, should I follow her?", or "damn this girl walking in front of me looks great in those yoga pants, should I keep staring or look away?", or "who should I ask for help with homework, my usual homework buddy or this really cute girl that always gets me super excited?", or "I'm doing a reboot but this girl that came over really wants to give me a handjob, is it bad if I let her?".

These are all legitimate questions that people will go through during your reboot. Does it matter if you give in to these things, because they aren't porn or masturbation right?

In the end, a reboot is starving your brain of sexual stimulation to the point that neurons wired to PMO literally disappear. After that, rewiring is literally building up neurons wired to positive sexual activity, which helps you experience greater sexual pleasure AND acts as a defense to future PMO slips.

ANYTHING that activates any part of your brain associated with PMO or sissy stuff is delaying this process. If you're thinking about it it matters, lean towards it mattering and disengage. If it did really matter, you're helping your future self have better sex and relationships. If it didn't really matter, you're building self control.

You can, and should, talk to girls, flirt, hug, kiss, and cuddle them. If you have a partner, giving her head is a great way to blow off steam and practice. Anything more than that is going to harm your recovery, so yeah, it matters. Again, do it right the first time, help your future self. You'll be proud of yourself, I guarantee it.

 

Immediately after a successful reboot and the initiation of the rewiring process. Rebooting is clearing out the gunk, rewiring is building back neural pathways wired to real shit, and after that they get weaker every day you don't PMO and have real sexual interactions.

I think it's been 4 years since I started my first reboot (having a gf to have sex with frequently and my rigid yet not overwhelming schedule helps to minimize urges), and the fetishes I'm addicted to really have no hold over my life currently. Literally none. Didn't think about them or my history at all since March, only came back here because I've had some minor erection problems (not enough to stop me from going three times this weekend), otherwise have not had any slips or issues in the last year.

 

What stimuli must I avoid during my reboot (did I relapse)?

Do I have to have sex in order to rewire?

Will stopping porn solve my problems?

Started young on Internet porn and my recovery from erectile dysfunction is taking too long.

Porn FAQs

By do it right I mean three things:

• avoid all arousing media and stimulating contact during your reboot so that the neurons wired to porn aren't activated at all
• do the reboot for 90-100 days
• rewire with healthy sexual activity when the reboot is done (flirting, dating, kissing, cuddling, sex)

That's the fastest way to recover. If you've been abusing porn for years, it takes time for your brain to shake out the bad wiring and rebuild properly. The 90 days is the only quantitative measure, but it seems like 90 days is about the time many guys are ready to rewire, anything fairly shorter seems to not work out the best.

You have the entire rest of your life ahead of you. Instead of half-assing a bunch of reboots over the years, tough through 3 hard months so that you can start doing the things you want to. It's a much easier go