Starting a 90 day challenge today. Anyone wanna join?

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by Deleted Account, Jul 14, 2017.

  1. JonTableau

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    I'll add also that in my own experience, one of the biggest pitfalls is relapsing within the first few days.

    It's like you're trying to get out of the pull of falling into that hole...the first few days may be rife with self-doubt, second-guessing, and urges but once I'm out of the woods there, I'm no longer buffeted by memories of PMO. This is particularly prevalent in the first couple of days. One example is that last night I was drifting to sleep, and automatically got mental images of scenes from videos. After the first few days, the urges and association or imagery lose their intensity, but this is not a time when you can yet rest--the discipline must remain constant, just in a slower way--by doing things like modifying your environment to eliminate the option of PMO. Get K9 if you have windows or mac. Get a router or VPN that blocks adult content for the whole network. Have a routine set up for when urges hit so you don't even have to think of it.

    The point is to, in your normal and reasonable mental state, think two steps ahead of the 'porn-trance' state of mind.

    Speaking from my own experiences, one thing I have noticed is that after a certain amount of time away from it (between 5-10 days I'd say) I start to recognize things about myself and PMO habit that it's like were wholly hidden before. And I start to actually get fulfillment and joy from small experiences I previously viewed as somewhat flat and quotidian. It's like looking to the ocean floor when the water is calm and the sand has settled--until that point, I'd been caught up in the waves, unable to see clearly to the real person at the core of myself.

    There are plenty of reasons why to start, and you'll find more as you get further into it.
     
  2. gogoguy

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    We are a couple days in. Hope everyone is keeping their head up. Good luck everyone...
     
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  3. WolfySupersaiyan

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    please everyone in this group share there daily status either you get successful or not.
    I guess that's why we are here for to help each other and do this together.
     
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  4. WolfySupersaiyan

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    Day 1 successful...
    it got tougher in the night but I press the panic button and depression button and It really worked.
     
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  5. Siddish

    Siddish New Fapstronaut

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    Heading for Day 2 .. Getting little temptation, but I'm controlling it by diverting attention towards music.
     
  6. Human Lab-Rat

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    Stay strong brothers! We are in this together.
     
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  7. WolfySupersaiyan

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    for me holding breath trick works you can give it a try its fast and much easy than listening to music
     
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  8. the_undisputed_87

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    Start of day 4 ... Looking forward inshaAllah.
     
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  9. davee

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    Joining too..
     
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  10. Everyone doing good? Stay strong! Don't give in to the temptation and just keep reminding yourself that the urges will pass if you ignore them. Remember why you started this challenge and how it's going to transform your life for the better if you just stick with it.
     
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  11. axe_knight

    axe_knight New Fapstronaut

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    I'm in!
     
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  12. lawalib07

    lawalib07 New Fapstronaut

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    I'm in !! lets go!!
     
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  14. troyan

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    I want to join. Anyone please message me. I'm from Germany (Munich), so it would be good if there is someone from the same timezone.
     
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  15. Someguy32

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    I'm just about to hit the Day 4 mark. Today has been really easy and I have definitely felt better than I have in a long time; no anger/frustration or anxiety at all. I feel free! Though, I have read about this stage whereby adrenaline builds up and you start to feel invincible. Therefore, I will watch out for any signs of a potential crash or any complacency! (it will definitely not be as easy as this as I progress..)

    I struggled on day 2 as I was slightly hungover and tired. I find both of these make me more impulsive and more susceptible to urges so I take note of this and try harder to concentrate when I am in either state.

    Stay strong everyone! Keep looking towards the first milestone of a week!
     
  16. JonTableau

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    Great work! And welcome to everyone who has joined in the past couple of days!

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    Personally updating this every day is a great idea--I think it will help to keep all of us feeling personally accountable. I know it does for me.

    Urges over today and yesterday have been hugely dormant, I don't really care about them. I will say that I have a strong association between being waking up in the morning but still in bed, fantasizing, and PMO. The first two have resulted in relapse later in the day many times before, which comes from urges, from fantasizing in the morning. Who else has worked with something like this, what did you do in response?

    One thing I thought of today, advice to any who need it: keep your hands off your privates at all times. It may sound very strange, but imagine that you don't have any genitalia to mess around with by yourself, anyways. I find this helps because I've built up a strong association over time between sexual pleasure and PMO, which is why I find that wholesale no M or O works best at the outset.

    May update this one with more details later today.
     
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  17. Noogen13

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    Thanks for all your comments everyone. Starting today. Doing this for my wife but also for myself. Good luck to all!
     
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  19. saabim80

    saabim80 New Fapstronaut

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    Just joined and I'm in as well
     
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  20. BIGLOU

    BIGLOU New Fapstronaut

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    Day 1 LET'S DO THIS SHIT!!!!!!!
     
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