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STARTING IT OVER, WELCOME

Discussion in 'New to NoFap' started by sandałowiec, May 23, 2018.

  1. sandałowiec

    sandałowiec New Fapstronaut

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    I'd like to introduce myself. I tried nofap many times. I have never gone over 2 weeks. Firstly I'm a female, but before some of you with your own opinions about men-women differences in this addiction I want to give you some of a background.
    I started masturbating when I was in kindergarten, being smart kid I figured it out. Doing it with crossed legs helped me develop visible scoliosis. I'm in the point of my life I'm 16, and usually I do it (I'm day 2 now so normally Id do it like this) about 15 times a day (not less than 6). Sometimes I can not even sleep without it, It become compulsive behavior - coughing or dog's heavy breathing, stress or not being able to remember things for school makes me do it. In worst day scenario I do/did it during lessons again with crossed legs (it was casual for me in middle school). I feel almost constantly aroused.

    Last year was very tough in my private life. I fight with smth between ticks and tiny self destructing habbits. I know it will be difficult but I feel stronger than ever before.
     
  2. Full ahead

    Full ahead Fapstronaut

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    Firstly welcome here. You have taken a very important first step in accepting you have a problema (every one here has one or more) and facing the truth is the begining.

    Try to stay close; join the Women in reboot forum to learn good tips and advices on how to better deal with this addiction. I am sure you will find good supportive Friends here.
     
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  3. Hi. Welcome to forum!

    Make sure you crate a personal journal thread in Reboot Logs section and blog there on a regular basis. As well as just generally be active participant in various forum discussions. I recommend this to everybody new here because it's the major thing that helped me when I was first starting. Just lurking on forums, reading and learning is great. But it usually is so much more powerful to engage. It helps to keep us motivated and accountable when we are active part of community. And keeps this in front of our minds so we don't forget about importance of it and slip away in our old habits. Sharing is also therapeutic. This is a major reason why AA meetings work so good. But that was developed before internet era. These days we can get most of the same benefits online through communities like this. So don't underestimate the power of active participation.

    I would also like to suggest you to look into mindfulness meditation. It has helped me personally tremendously to learn how to deal with urges. It takes a while to get good at it and notice results, so you need to be consistent with it, but once you do it's very powerful. It has been used by sages for thousands of years to deal with various issues of the mind. And in recent decades the science is also catching up to what ancient sages have know for centuries. Meditation these days are widely used as very effective tool by psychologists for treating addiction and by neurologists for supporting recovery of the brain. It is a great exercise for the brain the same way as jogging is great exercise for the body. Check out this Ted talk, it gives a good idea of what's it about when it comes to philosophy. As far as practical side of it there is this awesome smartphone app called Headspace for guided meditations to get you started.

    Wish you lot's of strength and success in your reboot journey!
     

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