Starting Over and The Long Road Ahead

FezMan76

FezMan76

Fapstronaut
I have relapsed today. I did no go on a binge of watching porn, but I did decide to relapse as my urges could not be contained.
I have lost the battle this time, but not the war.
Throughout the past 20 days that I'd been on a NoFap streak, I've learnt my strengths and weaknesses when it comes not just to abstaining from porn and masturbation, but also those of my life. I will begin once again and hopefully meet my benchmark of not doing PMO until the New Year and beyond.

I'm going to write down a few tips that helped in this small journey as a reminder to myself and to you guys, so that we may keep on going strong.

WHAT TO DO:
  • Eat healthy foods, and eat in a strict schedule
  • Sleep and wake up early to refocus your brain on what to do for the day and be at peace in the early mornings
  • Have an exercise routine to follow every day or 6/7 times a week
  • Go outside (if the weather allows for it)
  • Keep your mind occupied throughout the day
  • (^ Practice a new language, read books/articles, do an online course, play an instrument, do your schoolwork and study, etc.)
  • Pray when you wake up and before you sleep (or meditate if you're non-religious)
  • DO NOT GO ON SOCIAL MEDIA!!! PERIOD.
  • (^Includes YouTube, Facebook, Instagram, Reddit, etc. as they can be provocative and force you to look up things you shouldn't be looking at. Besides, they are very distracting overall. I'd recommend only sticking to call or text-only applications, like SMS, Messenger, Whatsapp, Snapchat(in limited amounts))
  • Disable incognito mode and use web blockers in all of your devices (Pretty helpful)
  • Take cold showers
  • And most of all...
  • Tell more people in real life about your issues, especially those close to you.
  • (^Telling close friends about this issue is what allowed me to go on such a long streak when compared to my previous ones. If you cannot meet them in person, at least call or message them about it, and possibly have them remind you to stay on your mission. The more people you tell, the less of a secret your addiction becomes, and more pressure is put on yourself to not risk failing. It takes courage to do this, but it is one of the most damaging blows to this addiction)

I truly believe that we can do this. We can fend off the urges to watch pornography and masturbate as a result to it, which have taken away precious time and opportunities from our lives, made us lose connections with the world and our loved ones, and made our lives a living hell when they shouldn't have been.
We must become men with discipline to control our primal urges, which have been exploited by a corrupt industry and used against us.

I also invite you to join me on this tough and long journey towards recovery, as I will keep fighting every day from now on and documenting my journey here daily, and I'm confident that many others and I will make it past December 31st, and continue to live the life that we should be living. A life free of porn in which we have full control over ourselves.

Never lose hope, and keep on going.
 
Day 3 ish for me:
  • No porn or any p-sbus for the past 3 days
  • Been working out a lot more consistently, although I need to step it up
  • ***Need to focus more on homework, studying and projects***
  • Have successfully accomplished most of my tasks I have set out each day
  • Also created a rating system for each day/week to evaluate how they went and what I can do to improve them. This way I can stay on track

Thank you to everyone who has to visited this thread! I'll keep you all updated soon.
 
Over one week in! Feelin great and energetic. Also getting more things done.
Also, I've found a new trick that helps whenever I have urges. I may post about it later.
 
OVER 2 WEEKS IN BABY!!!
Feeling better than ever. Energy and wit are back. My mind is beginning to clear and I can get stuff done faster and more efficiently. Still have some strong urges, but to deal with these I have 1) blocked all p and p-subs from my devices and 2) began practicing mental exercises to drive away urges.
Also, I've got extra pressure because not only do I want to make it past the New Year, but also, I've got a sports season coming up and I want to show the world that I've changed, both physically and mentally. Practicing NoFap will help me be ready for it.
Another update in about a week or so.
 
Three weeks in.
For some reason I seem to have reached a flatline. My urges seem to be little to none, but some of the benefits seem to have diminished or be completely gone, like a bit of my energy and mental focus. My willpower is still standing however, and I won't stop with this challenge just because I don't see the effects appear immediately. It might take time, but it will be worth it.
 
Reset - 27 day mark

Unfortunately today I have failed bruddas. It was not cause by porn however, but rather to excessive masturbation due to fantasizing, which eventually led to the relapse. I will try again harder next time, and I swear to never give up the fight against my urges, no matter how hard it is!
 
design your environment in a way such that you're never bored and thus avoid fantasizing. If you feel tired or sleepy just meditate and avoid fantasizing as a way to feel better
Listen to our homeboy Macklemore

 
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