Starting The Challenge and Asking Questions

Okay, so where do I start? I'm a guy, age 24 and currently still a virgin, however I plan to change that within the next month. I feel like when I masturbate my dick is not fully hard and still somewhat flexible. I don't think it's supposed to work like that. I'm a masochist, when I have sex I want the girl to get the most out of it. I want her to feel so good she wants to come back. Her getting off, will get me off. I need to please HER! She comes first. I do not have a girlfriend, but that's not the point. I want to know I can sexually please a woman and know that I'm one of the best she's had. I don't want to fuck her with a half hard dick.

I also have a foot Fetish, you know how we are. We love worshiping a woman's foot, literally. I also have the giantess fetish because I think it's hot to see an attractive female have raw power. When those stopped turning me on the way they use to, I tried to find other things in addition to what I already liked. I ended up finding videos of girls stepping on other girls faces and the girl has to sit there and take on all the other girl's abusive will. It's actually turning me on a little to even think about it, but as long as I don't masturbate I'm fine, right?

I want to see if I can become more socially appealing, hit the gym more and stick to it, and get turned on to other things besides feet and giantess. I never really did like regular porn that much, maybe like once every other month I'd get off to that, but at the same time I always knew what I really wanted, a powerful giant woman's foot. I don't think I want to quit it forever, maybe just cut it down to 4 or 5 times a year. That's okay, right?

I do wanna ask somethings, is it okay to get hard on purpose, but not touch myself? Or is that cheating?

An what about sex, I can have sex all I want, right? It's just masturbating that's a no no, right?

Also, I wanted to try some dick exercises to make my dick bigger. Is this technically masturbating? An if not and you people do it as well, can you send me some links to dick exercises that have worked for you?

One last thing, what are some good ways to distract yourself from masturbating? I some times smoke weed, I was thinking of maybe using weed and the gym to Distract myself. What do you think?