Starting with full determination!

Welcome.

It's great to see that you've been making efforts at such a young age, and you're showing a level of insight I wish I'd had at twice your age. Push your streaks longer and longer, by kind to yourself when you slip, and keep your goals in mind.

You've got this.

 

Welcome! I'm glad you're here.

Yes, this is a hard battle, so don't get discouraged when you struggle. But what you can do is take the time you might otherwise spend on porn and fantasy, and instead, use it to explore this site, to learn and form your own plan of action. There are others your age here.

 

You use this site by:

- Exploring. Visit different forums.
- Reading.
- Learning.
- Connecting: comment; reach out to people with comments. Become a part of the community, not just a spectator.
- From all this, you form your own, personal life plan. Do you know what times of day you tend to act out? Is it when you get up? When you get into or out of the shower? Mid day? After work or school? In the evening? What is going on? I'm gonna take a wild guess and say it's boredom. Or frustration because your day didn't go well. Or loneliness. Or other moods.

Have you started tracking these days/times/moods? Pay attention to your own life, your own head. Notice patterns and vulnerabilities. And your personal life plan addresses these vulnerabilities.

Did you read the link beneath my signature? It's here again: "What's working for me." If not, click on that link and read it. And look around this site, you will see lots of places where you are offered ways to start. Look up at the head of the "new to nofap" thread, for example.

This won't all happen for you. You have to do the work. It will be work. It will be hard. It's like working out at the gym. Work and pain to make gains.

 

I'm very sorry that you happened to come across to videos in succession that gave such a negative mindset. While they're both correct in that all those two participants are doing is saving time, there are things you'll have to do. You're going to have to make use of that extra time, whatever that may require.

 

These things are going to happen from time to time. As I said above, be kind to yourself.