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Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by Turnaround, Feb 9, 2020.

  1. Turnaround

    Turnaround New Fapstronaut

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    Hello everyone,

    After a successful two-month period of hardmode, today my streak has come to an unfortunate end. It was due to my own stupidity and rationalisations that I fell. My main mistake probably was that I already forgot how miserable I felt when I was caught by the sexual addiction to women. This included pornography, dating apps, sex and a dependency on female validation.

    If I can get one lesson out of my failure, it is this: STAY AWAY FROM TINDER (or other dating apps).

    After two months I felt great, I enjoyed all common popular nofap-benefits:
    Great health,
    Excellent results in my studies,
    Tremendous motivation to do productive things,
    Setting myself short- and long term goals,
    Calming down (less anxiety)
    ...
    Based on personal experience and observation, I have no doubt about the highly benificial effects that cutting out pornography and masturbation inevitably brings to any individuals live. However, this is not the point that I am trying to make with my report.

    Two days ago I catched a flu, which my body faught off in just a day (and a night).
    I firmly believe this was possible because of nofap (Balanced dopamine system = strong immune system, plus the more semen in the balls the higher the amount of Zinc in the body). However, I had difficulties to sleep as I also catched a mild fever. For some reason my mind tortured me the whole night with sexual phantasies about women that I have encountered in the past. Maybe this was part of the process that my brain was sorting out/dealing with all these experiences on a conscious level. But these thoughts were so triggering that I somehow rationalised to install Tinder the next morning - even though experience has shown that this never ends well. Especially not after a 60 day period of not releasing. As an attractive man based in an Asian "Mega-city" you can imagine that Tinder worked no different than a slot-machine. I was hooked immediately. I almost spend the whole saturday swiping and chatting with random girls, always seeking for the next match/rush. So far so "good" - I still did not relapse, "only" lost nearly all interest for any productive activity. Then, today (Sunday) my dopamine system was so triggered that tinder was not enough anymore which led my mind to revert to the dark old ways of pornography etc. to get the next fix. I followed my inner junkie and ended up binge watching porn video and masturbating - at a point where I thought that I would have finally made it out of these habits.

    Now, I will pick it up again and am going for the 90 day reboot. It really sucks that I couldn't make it this time as I already have gotten that far. It was my hybris/haughtiness that led to the failure.
    I have to learn to be more humble and treat my achievements with more respect.

    To everyone who plays with the thought of using tinder (or any other dating app) during reboot: please take this warning serious to avoid the painful experience that I have made today.

    Cheers
     
  2. LifeChanges213

    LifeChanges213 Fapstronaut

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    Thanks for sharing that with me.


    I used to just Tinder for the sake of seeing who was online but recently started actually tried to meet them and started fantasising about these girls, going to their instagram and looking at their pictures. I realized that it was no different than looking at soft core porn because my mind impulsively kept opening my phone to check the app. I haven't resorted to PMO yet but for sure I have deleted it.

    Thank you for your story because it has convinced me that Tinder is a trap during your reboot.
     
  3. LeeUK

    LeeUK Fapstronaut

    Definitely stay away from dating apps.

    Also remember that you went 60 days without pmo and only one day of bingeing. You haven't erased all of your progress, far from it actually.
     
  4. CodeTalker

    CodeTalker Fapstronaut

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    Dating apps are P-sub just like instagram
     
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