Use what works for you. No reason to debate about it. Each person who struggles with porn addiction can choose to decide whether or not the "addict" label is constructive for their recovery. For folks like the OP, "addict" feels like a condemnation and a self-fulfilling prophesy. It brings them down and makes them feel horrible about themselves, which can trigger further PMO. For others (like myself), "addict" is a recognition of my vulnerability and reminds me of the need to be consistently vigilant about my recovery. It's also an experience in practicing humility by admitting my own imperfection, and working toward progress. For me, it's a positive thing. There's nothing wrong with encouraging people to consider their mindset when it comes to the "addict" label. But I don't think it's constructive at all to tell people they're doing it wrong simply because they have a different mindset than you do. Adding this edit, because it's important: Embracing the "addict" label can also help reduce the shame that's inherent in the addiction. When I first sat down with my CSAT (Certified Sex Addiction Therapist), he said, "the first thing I want you to know is that you don't have a moral problem. You have a brain problem." I think every porn addict needs to hear that. If you're addicted to porn, it's not because you are a weak-willed person. It's not because you can't live up to your values. It's not because you're a "beta male." It's because you've done serious damage to your brain chemistry, to the point where you're so conditioned to cope with PMO that you always come back to it, no matter how hard to try. When you dig into the brain chemistry of addiction, you'll learn very quickly that this has nothing to do with living up to your values or having strong enough willpower. It isn't about loving your spouse or your girlfriend/boyfriend enough. It's completely about your brain chemistry, and the sooner you can embrace that, the sooner you can give yourself some grace and work toward getting your brain back to a normal state of balance.