Stop calling yourself an addict!!!

It's also interesting to look at the nature/nurture interaction in terms of our environment. The more empowered perspective is of course we have some say in shaping it, whereas there are programs you can join and/or pay for in terms of a ready-made environment that is supposed to foster recovery.

I think as addictions evolve, and technologically driven ones certainly will, the old school standardized approaches will prove to be insufficient. Consistency is great, but it will simply not be the way the world works or the way the addictions work. I think a lot of people will literally never even know they are addicted to tech because it is too subtle, too "intuitive" - but in the same way PMO is not a pre-existing condition of nature neither is the ubiquitous presence of addictive tech.

One thing that's really good to understand though is they designed the tech to work on vulnerabilities of human psychology, (that is almost a word for word quote from one tech insider) and that means they tailored the conditioning to maximize the effect on the natural tendencies. Instead of just arbitrarily doing a lot of something like going to a lot of recovery meetings, it is actually a fit - just happens to be a pathological/addictive one.

If the nurture part of our solution is very broad and general and nowhere near as close a fit as the addictive influence, I have to wonder how well that's going to work when the going gets tougher and more complicated.

 

My name is Marty. I voted for Trump, and I'm an addict. Computer, forums, eBay whatever its all the same.

 

I hate the verbiage of "Once an addict, always an addict" because it always sounds like defeatist lingo to me, like we can never be free from this. But I also completely understand the thought process. While I'm all about freedom and victory from this compulsion, it's important to understand the nature of what porn does to our brains and how serious that addiction is.
I just want to make sure I'm not using the "always an addict" phraseology as a cop-out. ("Well, I relapsed because I'm an addict and this is who I am and who I'll always be.") I don't want to use that as a crutch whenever I feel weak and slip up.

 

Well said brother!

 

stop calling your self an addict.

 

True. You don't want to effect the quantum field with negative thoughts