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Stop counting up, start counting down

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by randomname3, Jun 9, 2019.

  1. randomname3

    randomname3 Fapstronaut

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    PMO addiction, like addictions in general, is a mental parasite: it hogs as much of your will to power as it can, and gives you back only a momentary reward with diminishing returns. Since this is obviously a bad deal, the addiction must master all sorts of cleaver sophistry to fool you into relapsing.
    When you count up the days, you'll be confronted with sophisms like these ad nauseum:
    "Well I've done X days already. That's a big number, so I can relapse now"
    "Well it's getting hard already after X days, so I'll just relapse and start fresh tomorrow"

    It's easy to keep falling for these to the point that months or years have gone by without ever hitting a streak of 30, 20 or even 15 days.
    But I found a great solution that destroys both those sophisms:
    Stop counting up, start counting down. That means, on the day you choose to begin, say 90 days clean, calculate the exact date you must go until, and commit to that specific date. Thus, it's no longer relevant whether you've gone "a big number" of days, all that matters is that you get to that date clean. And you cannot "start fresh tomorrow" anymore, because you cannot change that "until date".

    Now you can fight off both those attacks with your brain tied behind your back, no bargaining or concessions, just chant that date and watch those urges shrink away!
     
  2. yyz33

    yyz33 Fapstronaut

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    that might actually work. ill try it
     
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  3. sig123

    sig123 Fapstronaut

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    Nice. I will try for 90 days
     
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