stop PMO and take control of your life before you become like me

I can feel every word you wrote my friend. I am also in mid 30s and can definitely tell you that my is living hell too. I am with you, stay strong. We will win.
Reading through the posts here helps me a lot because I can relate with everyone's post and feel the pain, this demotivates me from doing PMO again. I wish to keep doing like this everyday.

 

Hey brother sorry to say, if you know about my life you will get a relief that..people worse than your condition exist....let me give a short bio.....i am a man who started faping from childhood and losted a testicle to cancer. Still addicted to cuckold porn and bbc. I blame this overfapping for the cancer i get. So see i am worse than you bro...

But i never accept defeat. I always try. You know the pain i had gone and going now. When i see other males and there relationships i am sad as hell bro. But i don't have a choice. I don't want to left my family. Because they stood beside me during my cancer days. Otherwise i will commit suucide 100 percent. Be strong bro...i am here worse than you...so fight brother.

 

@war Survivor So sorry to hear that bro. How many lives this disgusting addiction has ruined !!

 

Ohh man ...believe me i have been there ...you know that a couple months ago i wanted to kill myself , and just like you i found it difficult because of the pain it would cause my family and friends ...i i used to think " my pain is probably bigger and more gruesome than the pain they will feel when they see my dead body " ...
And believe me i even asked people around me about how to purchase a gun , i wanted to do it with a gun because i wanted to punish myself for not being able to make use of this human life that i was given , for being a failure a life and a disappoinent...
But man , life can be so good , only if you can just take control of it..weed out all the negative things , porn , stress and all...
I'm 60 days in and i have never felt better man...TRUST ME YOU CAN DO IT TOO..ITS JUST A MATTER OF 2 MONTHS..
I still am suffering from the aftereffects , my grreatest enemy fatigue is still here , brain fog is still here but now i believe i can defeat them..now i have positivity and strength..
Make a journal , post everyday...the site is full of sufferers and those who overcame the addiction...you can be one of the survivors , you can do it...just get out of this loop of negativity and self loathing..common bruh..you have any querry or doubt im here , you wanna share anything im here for you..but dont let this human life that youve got slip away like that..

 

@livinginhell bro always pray, if you are relegious. Our god will always save us.

 

Yes, we can do it. Let's take control of our lives. We are not losers.

 

It's a vicious cycle. First you go to porn then you get depressed about it so you try to relieve the stress by fapping and the cycle starts again. I know it's difficult but you need to fight on both fronts trying to stop PMO while staying happy

 

Porn addiction is a symptom, not a cause. No doubt you feel like shit when you PMO, but you PMO because you don't have your life together, not the other way around.
I'm so sorry you feel the way you do, I've been there too. Its important to remember that only you have the power to change things. No one will do it for you.

Quitting porn is but a step in improving your life, a big step for sure but its not the be-all-and-end-all. It's easier said than done but you need to start taking accountability for your life.
You want to lie in bed all day and do nothing? Well thats exactly why you should get out of bed and go on a run.
You want to browse Youtube all day and feel sorry for yourself? Thats exactly the reason you should go have a cold shower, clean your flat or read a book.
Doing what you want to do will get you nowhere. You have to do the things you don't want to do, and your life will eventually improve. Callous your mind, grow through suffering.
Get angry at your life. Let the rage at your situation drive you to improve it.
Going on a run is hard. You know what's easy? Putting your running shoes on and stepping outside. Now you're outside, might as well go on a walk eh? Still pretty easy. Maybe pick up the pace a bit and run a couple km. Start doing this sort of thing and I promise your situation will improve brother, slowly but steadily.

You say you're a failure, would a failure keep trying to improve like you clearly are? You don't fail until you give up. You're posting here because you want to improve your life and you've taken the first big step to recovery: admitting you're an addict. Keep on your path and keep focused and you'll make it. One step at a time. Be hard on yourself and take accountability for your situation. Good luck brother, but I know you won't need it

 

I had my life together, didn't even know real meaning of life, when I started to Fap! I fapped because I wanted short pleasure and I ignored real pleasures of life, PMO is a cause in my case.

 

It does become a comfort though. I was too young to see what I was doing when I started and my life wasn't too bad but I have found that I go back in times of stress. If you focus on just the addiction without dealing with everything else that's wrong, you'll set yourself up to fail

 

Hey dude,

I totally agree that its a vicious cycle. I suppose what I meant by that is that its not enough to just quit porn, you have to improve your life in other ways. PMO is a cause for how you feel, but its a symptom of something else, something much deeper. A crack addict will absolutely fail to quit if all they do is avoid crack. Rehab incorporates so much more than just abstinence because if you just stop smoking crack and do nothing else, its a matter of time until you fall back into old habits.If you succeed in quitting porn but don't manage to improve your life in other ways, you won't feel much better.
I wasn't aware your issues stem from a diagnosable issue like depression. I know how that can be, I've had it in the past and one of my best friends is prescribed a variety of benzos to manage his and he's constantly in hospital for his own safety. If thats the case with you, then you need to seek professional help. Nofap probably isn't going to cut it, but I'm sure you already know that.
Sorry if I offended you by implying you didn't have your life together, your original post made it sound that way but I'm glad you're doing OK on those fronts man

 

I feel you man. I’m sure my past depression has nothing on yours currently, so our situations are probably quite different. But I started going to therapy recently, in part to understand why I’m always addicted to something, be it drugs, sex or PMO. It’s incredibly useful, and in a weird way quite fun. Having someone to talk to completely openly is a wild feeling, I’ve told her things I’ve never told anyone before and it is certainly a weight lifted off my shoulders, and a lot of things have been put in perspective for me.
However I’m not sure psychotherapy is as good a treatment for depression as other methods. But maybe give it a shot, one session of therapy might be all the motivation you need to keep going after professional help
And I don’t think you’re being greedy at all, I relate a lot to what you’re saying. I worked really hard for a long time and reached a good, high paid position in a job I love. But that’s not really enough after a certain point, once you can meet all your basic needs and not have to worry about money coming in